Holly Riley's Blog: Feeling

What is it like to feel something…. Without judgement… to just experience it. What is it like to be willing to feel, to experience something completely with no reservations? To not be afraid of what might happen. To be totally present in the moment with what is.

Imagine, feeling something without having to categorize it, define it, interpret it, correct it, or criticize it, to simply feel for the sake of feeling. To feel the sensations of being human, human be-ing.

Like a child who gets to touch the mud for the first time… he might rub it on his face… taste it… roll in it… bite it, stick it on things, in things… explore it! He isn’t calling it “bad mud”, “dirty mud”, or “stupid mud”…He is feeling it. Unless of course the child has been taught that mud is bad, stupid, or dirty by someone else, he probably wouldn’t think of it that way. Oops, here comes his big brother screaming, ”You better get out of that stupid mud, mom is going to paddle your butt!”

Definitions handed down about mud:

Maybe there is a tribe somewhere that has decided mud is a sacred thing and the definitions they hand down contain ideas about how mud is filled with spirit, that it should be treated as the giver of life, never slandered. A tribe that rubs it all over their newborn and leaves it on them as a sign of protection and purity.

So, who is right? Who has the right mud beliefs? We could argue about it. We could find many different viewpoints about mud. We could go to war over who has the better viewpoint. We could divorce people who disagree with our viewpoint. We could divide into groups and see who could create the most people to agree, (the biggest group must be right). Then we could get a highly respected representative who could skillfully prove the rightness of our viewpoint to others. Ahhhhh Success!

For what? To be right? Has being right become more important than being kind ?

Perhaps the interpretations we place on mud are passed down much like our ideas about many other things… handed to us from someone that truly thought they knew. Someone who thought they were helping us survive. “Get out of that mud, you are going to get filthy!”

Where did you get your beliefs about mud? About marriage, parenting, teenaging, making money, spending money, what love is, and what kind of people to trust? Who did you get your ideas about being good to yourself from? Did you decide to be the way you are? Or have you become a set of beliefs that were mostly handed to you? Do you try and change certain parts of yourself and then fall back into being that same old way… again? Like an old blueprint is directing your experience of being human instead of you?

What would it be like to create your own blueprint, custom fit for your heart???

How?

Decide what you want. Write it down. Imagine it, feel it, taste it, carve it out, create your new blueprint. It’s time to be who you long to be. Put attention on it… like you would if you were getting ready to build a house only you are going to build your life. What’s first? Dream it! Design it! Gather materials and a good crew to support you!


Wake up each day and imagine this you… living, relating, creating abundance, health, what ever you want… You are the only one in charge of creating your dreams and life as you wish it to be.

Who if not you?

Holly

Peace In Peace Out


Copyright 2009

Don't fret don't pout,
peace in peace out.

Let goodness nestle in your heart,
today is the perfect day to start.

Let it in and watch it flow,
what comes in must also go.

Once you let all that lovin in,
your unique purpose is sure to begin!

Holly


Holly Riley

Peace In Peace Out

Copyright 2009

Hey you guys… don’t give up on what you want. You deserve to have it… you can have it… and it isn’t as hard to manifest as you may have decided somewhere along the line… All you need to do is wake up your will… exercise that muscle a bit… get your attention out of those life long obstacles, and redirect it back into your dream. Re-decide… Decide that you CAN instead of deciding that you can’t.

Have you gotten tired of repeating a pattern? Have you noticed you are too busy trying to keep things balanced to enjoy your journey? Do you find your fellow humans more trouble than fun? Do you find yourself wondering what your purpose is? Here is the anti venom… Get your focus on what is coming instead of what has been. Feel it, see it, imagine it, taste it… Believe it is on the way. Do this every day for a week and watch the magic!

What has happened to your dreams, what has happened to the dreamer? Do you put more attention on your passion and possibility or more attention on obstacles? Where is your attention? That is the most important question of the day! Who is in charge of where your attention goes?

YOU! YOU!! YOU!!! You are the driver of the bus.

Would you like to find your self committing random acts of kindness to yourself and others? Would you like to smile, genuinely, at others and feel compassion for their creations in life? Would you like to take some time to be appreciative of yourself and the life you have created? Would you like to have more fun?

Simply take the time to brush the dust off of your dreams… look and see what you want, what you have, and what is really important to you.

Be aware… Let Yourself Dream Again!

"Imagination is everything; it is the preview of life’s coming attractions" Albert Einstein



Holly


Holly Riley

Peace In Peace Out

Copyright 2009

What is it like to feel something….without judgement…to just experience it? What is it like to be willing to feel, to experience something completely with no reservations? To not be afraid of what might happen. To be totally present in the moment with what is...

Imagine, feeling something without having to categorize it, define it, interpret it, correct it, or criticize it...to simply feel for the sake of feeling. To feel the sensations of being human, human be-ing.

Like a child who gets to touch the mud for the first time…he might rub it on his face…taste it…roll in it…bite it, stick it on things, in things…explore it! He isn’t calling it “bad mud”, “dirty mud”, or “stupid mud”…He is feeling it. Unless of course the child has been taught that mud is bad, stupid, or dirty by someone else, he probably wouldn’t think of it that way. Oops! Here comes his big brother screaming, ”You better get out of that stupid mud mom is going to paddle your butt!”

Definitions handed down about mud :

Maybe there is a tribe somewhere that has decided mud is a sacred thing and the definitions they hand down contain ideas about how mud is filled with spirit, that it should be treated as the giver of life, never slandered. A tribe that rubs it all over their newborn and leaves it on them as a sign of protection and purity.

So, who is right? Who has the right mud beliefs? We could argue about it. We could find many different viewpoints about mud. We could go to war over who has the better viewpoint. We could divorce people who disagree with our viewpoint. We could divide into groups and see who could create the most people to agree, (the biggest group must be right.) Then we could get a highly respected representative who could skillfully prove the rightness of our viewpoint to others. Ahhhhh Success!

For what? To be right? Has being right become more important than being kind?

Perhaps the interpretations we place on mud are passed down much like our ideas about many other things…handed to us from someone that truly thought they knew. Someone who thought they were helping us survive. “Get out of that mud you are going to get filthy!”

Where did you get your beliefs about mud? About marriage, parenting, teenaging, making money, spending money, what love is, and what kind of people to trust? Who did you get your ideas about being good to yourself from? Did you decide to be the way you are? Or, have you become a set of beliefs that were mostly handed to you? Do you try and change certain parts of yourself and then fall back into being that same old way…again? Like an old blueprint is directing your experience of being human instead of you?

What would it be like to create your own blueprint, custom fit for your heart???

How?

Decide what you want. Write it down. Imagine it, feel it, taste it, carve it out, create your new blueprint. It’s time to be who you long to be. Put attention on it… like you would if you were getting ready to build a house only you are going to build your life. What’s first? Dream it! Design it! Gather materials and a good crew to support you!

Wake up each day and imagine this you… living, relating, creating abundance, health, what ever you want… You are the only one in charge of creating your dreams and life as you wish it to be.

Who, if not you?


Holly Riley

Peace In Peace Out

Copyright 2009

We have been taught to find what’s wrong, notice what’s wrong, fix what’s wrong, analyze what’s wrong, talk to our friends about what’s wrong, hire people to help us find what’s wrong, employ attorneys to prove what’s wrong so we can win fights about who’s wrong, and God knows we always notice what our friends, children and parents are doing wrong. In general, we pay close attention to what’s wrong all the time. Man… that is a lot of attention on the concept “wrong”.

Quantum physics teaches us that what we give thought to manifests. Einstein said our thought becomes reality. Harry Palmer says it like this: “whoever or whatever you place your attention on becomes more real.” Many great teachers say it many different ways, but it all points to the same thing…we are very much in charge of what we are experiencing.

It makes you wonder - how much of your attention is going to what is wrong with your life and how much is going to what is good with your life? Stop for a moment, right now, and review your day. How much of your attention is just “doing” - getting things done - without much passion in your heart. How much of your life is on automatic with no heart in it?

How much time or attention do you put toward creating and feeling YOUR passions? YOUR excitement, and YOUR magic? Do you let yourself dream of having the treasures you seek? Do you imagine having them, experiencing them? Do you believe it’s possible? Do you believe in yourself? If you are doing this, more than likely your dreams are coming true. If not well… have you been putting attention on how you can’t do it or how impossible it is? Stop it!

Start putting more energy and focus on what life feels like living your dream and the actions that would make it happen, and feel what succeeding would feel like. Imagine what you look like or feel like having it all. See it, feel it, believe in it… and watch the magic. Here is the trick… if you often feel unhappy because something is missing for you – this is putting more attention on what you don’t have - thus creating more not having. This practice is amazingly simple and powerful. What ever you keep putting your attention on will manifest. We are all skilled in creating more of what we resist or are angry about because of this very principal. This is how we put our life patterns on repeat.

Why not begin to create our dreams by using this very same principal? Let’s practice believing in our strength our creative power, and in ourselves. Let’s stop with so much attention on the war against someone or something. Stop being against some country, some nationality, or a past experience that didn’t work out. It just gives the thing we resist all the energy it needs to repeat itself. Let’s put our efforts and attention on noticing and manifesting possibility - in our own unique way. What a difference we can make by putting as much attention on this as we do on what we fear!

Managing our minds becomes the most important task of our lives! It is our opportunity to create something better. Managing our minds is the missing ingredient to success in every area we have not been succeeding.

If you awake in the morning thinking of what is not working, start changing your mind. Wake up tomorrow with all your attention on something working. Imagine what it would be like for it to be perfect. See it, feel it, smell it working… every day for a week and watch what happens. Your attention on this will open a door; an opportunity that you could not see will show up. Your belief in its possibility will begin the process. Don’t give up! You have all the power in the world waiting for you to direct it to something deliberately instead of just responding to the loudest noise. Guess who decides what happens in your life?

Power, love, spirit, awareness, energy, presence, consciousness, call it what ever name works for you but know that it is always there, always patient, always waiting for you to decide what you are worthy of. You are filled with it, surrounded by it, immersed in it and there is so much of it you can never run out. You give instructions to life every moment by how you treat yourself. You set up the patterns you are living with. Your care and compassion with yourself or the lack there of, is your instruction booklet to everyone else on how to treat you. They will treat you the same way you treat you. What ever you experience on the inside has to manifest on the outside. It’s quantum physics. The good news is; we can always change what is inside, that is our gift. We are able to re-design life on the outside by taking responsibility for what is inside.

Peace in, peace out.

Be responsible for what you see. Be responsible for what you feel. Be responsible for what you give to the outside by how you are being on the inside. You matter. You touch lives every single day. Each moment is another opportunity to make a difference. Every thought you have is delivered to the world energy. Every moment of kindness is a gift. This is the practice of compassion and contributing to the condition of our world. Begin on your insides.

Believing is seeing, and not the other way around!




Holly Riley

Peace In Peace Out

Copyright 2009

If we keep projecting a world that needs to be fixed guess what we always see? We see what is broken, wrong, or in need of repair. We have no attention, or awareness, going to what is beautiful, lovely, and amazing!

OK, think about it...that means no energy moving toward our dreams and our joy; none, zero, zip! Our life becomes consumed with "fixing' as we get caught up in the idea that correcting others is the path to happiness!

This "fixing" behavior actually adds more negative to the world by always focusing on who and what is wrong. We become a magnet to what is broken! By the way, our ego loves this habit...it gets to feel superior and be right about who is off the mark!

Imagine a world where we appreciate one another as we are. We stop blaming and take time to discover the goodness in one another. Putting more of our awareness on what is wonderful opens doors in everyone's hearts. People become empowered just by being in the presence of this.

A few moments of attention on the goodness in our partners, our leaders, and in ourselves will multiply the goodness in our world. We can wake in the morning and notice joy, in the flowers, trees, clouds, and the song of the bird.

It is in the mirror, waiting for us to acknowledge it. Being present with what is raises the vibration around us and actually offers the opportunity for life to transform. Resisting holds a pattern in place.

Ahhhhhh so easy to love and be loved when we allow.

Be still and embrace your power to create magic.

Holly Riley

Peace In Peace Out

Copyright 2009

A man's teacher/guru is taking him through one of his lessons...he walks him into a room...everyone starts yelling and screaming at him (not nice things). As they walk through, the student feels like he did something terribly wrong...the teacher says, "don't take this personally. This isn't about you. This is what they do. They boo people."

He goes into the next room...everyone starts clapping and yelling "yeah" really excited to see him ...saying way to go, you did it...just thrilled to see him. They almost seemed to worship him. The teacher says, "don't take this personally, This is what they do here. They worship and approve of people."

He goes into the next room...everyone starts being very emotional, sad, upset, angry, all kinds of very deep feelings pointed toward him. So much crying around him the student feels terrible for all of them. The student became very sad and depressed. The teacher says, "don't take this personally, This has Nothing to do with you. This is what they do, how they live. They get emotional."

He goes into many rooms with righteous people, religious people, blaming people, and people who feel they are better than him...only to find out, none of it is about him. The people do this no matter who walks into the room. It is what they do in life. Don't take it personally.

Moral of the story.... don't take it personally, Anything! What ever people do is what they do. It has very little to do with you. They would be doing it to who ever was standing where you are standing.

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh such a relief!

The cool thing is when you start to recognize the game, you can walk into what ever room you feel like being in... have fun with it, play with it...even join them if it suits your fancy. We could have a room called "They Are Wrong" if we wanted to, but it would still be a room. What matters is knowing this.

You decide what you consider real and what you don't. And...that is a whole other story for another day.



Holly Riley

Peace In Peace Out

Copyright 2009

What matters most is our ability to feel peace inside. As a peaceful calm culminates, it over flows and oozes out to touch our worlds. This creates a tractor beam of peace, serves as a magnet, to our desires. They come toward us!

When we need a boost, or as teacher of this practice, we can notice a tree. I mean, really observe it for a bit. Become aware of its total acceptance of what is; it isn't resisting, it’s not jealous, angry, mean, or prideful. It is being a tree with all its heart. It doesn't wish to be a frog or a rock or anything other than what it is.

Feel the peace it exudes, regardless of what is happening with the weather. It happily flows, bends, and adjusts to whatever brushes against it without a single complaint. No resistance. What a great teacher of peace!

Just a few moments of this will offer you some relief from whatever is going on in your world, and give you the juice you need to create harmony with those around you.

Love yourself up…. Be A Tree!


Holly Riley

Peace In Peace Out

Copyright 2009

Be nice to yourself …always and forever... no matter how many mistakes you make. We all make them. It's part of life, part of learning to appreciate and enjoy being human. Mistakes are really a cool gift to the planet when you think about it, because when we make them (and learn from them), we are more allowing for others to make them too.

Have you ever been mean to someone who messed up and then tried to hurt them without giving any chance for them to change from having their mis-take? Who doesn’t make mistakes?

The cool thing is, when we do learn from mis-takes, we can enjoy and understand the gift they are in our awakening. Heck we may even end up more compassionate and helpful to others.

Now I am not talking about making the same exact mistake over and over again and saying “it’s great- I am learning” that would be more along the lines of manipulating someone. I am talking about making a genuine mistake and realizing you did it, copping to it, and owning it.

Mistakes really are part of our becoming aware, more kind, and grateful. Not a bad thing at all - a gift of sorts. Just because you made a boo boo doesn’t mean stop what you are doing and suffer for a while. It actually means, learn from it, try something different, keep going and if possible help others avoid the same mistake. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other until you get where you want to be.

One thing to remember as you travel through this life is you are always safe and always loved – no matter what. If you don't believe that, start believing it. Create it as your life motto for a while. Feel it in your bones when you awake each morning until you can call it yours. Once you create that feeling inside it will attract that reality outside. And - if you don't feel safe or don’t feel loved in some moment, so what?? Don’t let it freak you out. It’s just a moment of feeling. It will pass and you can get back to your intention when you have had enough.

Feeling mad, sad, afraid, or angry or whatever isn’t a bad thing, it’s a signal that you are doing something you don’t feel right about. These feelings are helpful – like a signpost. When they show up it just means you need to stop what you are doing and take a look, be quiet for a moment and let the knowing come forward. Then get your intention back in front of you - shift your attention back to what ever your goal is. Feeling bad does not mean it’s time to make your self-wrong. When you make a mistake and you see it, it’s really a time to be kind to you and wake up a bit more regarding your focus. That's all...NO big deal. This is the practice of creating joy in your life.

One thing for sure...you will succeed - because you are so determined to be happy! All it takes is practice and you are the kind of person that will never, never give up!

No possibility of failure for you sweet one...



Holly Riley

Peace In Peace Out

Copyright 2009

Look back over the last week of your life. What moment was most precious to you? Really, take a look and decide what touched you. I bet it was a time when you were very present – either with yourself or with someone else. Present is a great word. What does it mean to you?

Present - alert, here, breathing this experience, no mind chatter, criticism, no worrying, no agenda, no fear, and no shoulds. It is all a state of “is”. Being fully awake, connected to whomever you are with – allowing, not desiring or resisting anything, with attention moving in such a way you feel like you are one with whomever you are with, wholeness. A feeling of success often follows a feeling of presence. There is no possibility of failure when in this awakened state.

Some people have flashes of presence while others can hang out there for quite a while. This state of “being” is a powerful place to view reality from, particularly when you want to appreciate your family and friends. To become a great mother, father, wife, husband, or friend practice “being” with whomever you are with.

Implement this next time you have a chat with someone in your family. An amazing thing happens with children; they start sharing. They feel no pressure; they feel free to be themselves with no push to portray something someone outside of them deems important. They feel relaxed in the presence of YOU and they open their hearts without fear of being criticized. A most delicious relationship develops. It is in this state of being that we realize what matters most in life. What is important reveals itself every time. This is where love, joy, and alignment toward a goal jolt you out of inertia with the excitement needed to fulfill your dream! Life sizzles and people blossom when near this alive presence!

We spend a great deal of life trying to influence, families, friends, employees, and even strangers to see and act out our beliefs. This doesn’t leave much time to spend simply enjoying the preciousness in front of us. It’s always there waiting and when embraced offers the key to our next moment!

The joy of life is right here right now - we need only be still enough to feel it in ourselves and then it shows up in every connection we share with others! Isn’t that the experience you discovered when you looked back over your week in the first paragraph? Didn’t you find what mattered most was a moment when you had that feeling of awareness, realness, care, and aliveness? This comes from Presence! The most wonderful thing about this experience is that it is yours forever, and infinitively available. You need only remember to allow it.

Peace In Peace Out...

Holly

Author of Allowing , The Book
http://www.hollyriley.com


Copyright 2010

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