A number of people have admired the name of my web site, Life Mastery Skills, and asked me to explain how I chose it.
The name has great significance for me. When I started my career in 1973, I had a firm conviction that if we were taught the skills we need to have a happy, fulfilled and peaceful life many of us would not suffer.
In 2006 I decided to offer the skills needed so we could lead a life whose foundation is based in trust in our inner wisdom. which is accessed through contemplation and which brings clarity fulfillment, peace and joy.
To create the practice that would bring the above results was my goal. My professional experience showed me that each of us knows the answers we need at any given moment. What we don’t know is the question that will lead us to the answers we need.
I chose to use the Universal Truths that had come through me at a three month meditation retreat in 1982. I developed exercises that gave you the questions you needed to ask yourself, to experience how a specific Universal Truth applied to your specific problem.
After working with many students and seeing the miraculous results of this methodology I decided to make this path available to all through the web.
Now I needed a name. As I pondered and prayed I realized I was offering a path to personal freedom by giving people the opportunity to master the skills they needed to create the life they desired.
Many people feel frustrated by the discrepancy between where they are at and where they want to be. They feel trapped by old patterns and habits that they want to brake and don’t feel they can. The exercises I have created go to the heart of the matter, which is, how am I creating what I don’t want and how could I do it differently?
It is not enough to affirm what we want, we must learn what is going on in our subconscious mind that is in conflict with what we are affirming. To do this takes skill. This is the skill you develop as you use Life Mastery Skills. As you learn how you are sabotaging yourself, you are also taught what actions you need to take to live your affirmations. THIS IS HOW YOU BECOME A MASTER.
It takes practice to master anything, whether it is a sport, a diet, an exercise program, the internet, meditation, contemplation, dancing, painting, or life skills. Anything worth while takes time, patience, practice and energy to manifest.
I invite you to join in on the exciting adventurous journey of your life, learning how to master our obstructions and live the life we are meant to live. I send you blessings of peace, joy and love, Sheila Radha
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This being human is a guest house, Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, Some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they are a crowd of sorrows, Who violently sweep your house Empty of its furniture, Still treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, Meet them at the door laughing, And invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes, Because each has been sent As a guide from beyond. Rumi
Join Lydia Mattison host of an Empowering Space- Your Hour of Power on Thursday 20th August 2009, with my special guest joining me for a second time, Sheila Radha Conrad as we discuss the Power of Self Acceptance.
Date: August 20, 2009 Time: 5p PST/8 EST Location: www.blogtalkradio.com/empoweringspace
I was recently asked to be a guest speaker on The Hour of Power blog talk radio show. The topic to be covered was The Power of Self Acceptance. I felt the information was so valuable I wanted to share it with all of you. This will be the first of two articles on this subject. I was asked the following questions to clarify what self acceptance is and why it is important.
What is the difference between self awareness and self acceptance?
Self awareness is similar to a mirror that is reporting what is in front of it, it has no opinion about it, it isn’t right or wrong or good and bad, or ugly or pretty it just IS. This is nonjudgmental self awareness, which we all need to have. Self acceptance is learning to practice being with myself without negatively judging myself, but accepting this is what I feel right now, this is how I look right now, this is what I think right now, this is my hope right now, this is my vision right now. It is an active practice in which I shine the light of awareness on my hidden places to see what is there and experience what my resistance is to accepting where I am at. If you discover you are resistant to accept a characteristic you have, a feeling you are experiencing, or a thought or belief you have, ask yourself the following questions. Remember to stay with the first answer you give yourself. 1)What are the beliefs I have about this that make me not accept myself? 2)What are the ideals I have that cause me to reject myself for not living up to this ideal? 3) What are the life experiences that are the foundation of my self rejection? 4)What do I hope to gain from not accepting this characteristic (i.e. selfishness)? 5)åß What am I afraid will happen if I accept my selfishness?
Why is it important to accept myself just as I am?
Until we accept our selves exactly where we are, we are stuck; we can not change, we can not create the life we desire, we can not transform our understanding. Why is this? When I am not accepting myself I am in denial about where I am, from the place of denial there can be no movement, no awareness and no real action. Denial blocks truth, and makes us unconscious to what we are saying, feeling, thinking and doing. It is as if we put on a blind fold so we no longer can see where we are, or where we are going. We have fallen asleep to our predicament, in this state we are more likely to become victimized by others, replicate toxic relationships, and become depressed and anxious. Why? Because there is no where to go from self rejection. Once we put ourselves down for what we are feeling or thinking we shut down and turn off and become cynical and negative and judgmental. We are stuck in a defensive posture believing the inner judge and its judgments of us.
If you discover you are not accepting where you are, ask the questions that I gave you earlier and you will understand who is running your life and why you are unhappy with yourself.
I wish you a life filled with self acceptance and love, Sheila Radha
Thank you for the experience of a life time. This was the first convention I have ever attended in my 36 year career as a transformational counselor.....and now I know why. I WAS GUIDED TO START WITH THE BEST!
The visions of BraveHeart have been my visions, only now I have a wonderful community of beautiful, open and loving women to support, inspire and play with as we fulfill these visions. I am totally committed, what else could I do.
Soon with Linda Holden's guidance I will start my own community within Braveheart. I invite you to join, I invite you to become friends with me, and to stay in touch.
How can I accept myself when I am in a negative space?
With kindness and gentleness. Under all negative spaces are stories that when we are open to hear and know them will reveal what caused the negativity in the first place. Each time we do an exploration to discover what is under the negative state we will see more and understand with compassion what false beliefs are supporting the negative space. With a practice, such as Life Mastery Skills, we begin to be less attached to the old story and less identified with it. The light of self awareness exposes the origins of the fixation and we are than able to let it fall away. We experience how our denial feeds the negativity and keeps it from dissolving. Nonjudgmental awareness let’s it be and it falls away on its own. WE DON’T HAVE TO EFFORT AND MAKE IT GO AWAY. Instead we use our energy to be aware of it, accept it, and chose to do it differently right now. EXAMPLE As I explore my tendency to deny my accomplishments, I become aware that I have one standard for others and one for myself. I am supportive, encouraging and give acknowledgment to others for what they accomplish. I barely notice when I have accomplished something new and instead my focus is on what is next for me to accomplish. i. e. Learning how to do web cams for youtube. The more I become aware of this tendency and can witness it rather than judge it, I will see how far back this goes, how it is connected to being a perfectionist, how that is connected to fear of rejection from others. I also see I am not honoring and respecting myself when I do this repetitive behavior. In time I chose to have the same standard for myself as I have for others. I begin to acknowledge all I have accomplished rather than focus on the longing to accomplish it all.
How can I accept myself when I know I am insecure?
Think of a small child whom you care about. How would you treat that child when it is feeling insecure? THAT IS HOW YOU NEED TO TREAT YOURSELF.....WITH KINDNESS, TENDERNESS, COMPASSION, AND LOVE. Many of us treat ourselves with anger, frustration, and disapproval when we are insecure. This will never work because it makes us feel more insecure, more unsupported, more isolated, misunderstood, and unworthy to be loved. These attitudes breed more insecurity not less. YOU NEED ONLY SENSE YOURSELF WHEN YOU ARE NEGATIVELY REACTING TO YOUR INSECURITY TO KNOW IF IT MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER OR WORSE.
How do I know whether or not I accept myself?
YOU will be the first to know. When we accept ourselves our minds become our BEST FRIEND rather than our WORST ENEMY. Everyone of us know how we are impacted by those who judge us harshly, don’t give us a break, and are critical. The good thing is we can usually get away from those people. THERE IS NO WHERE TO RUN FROM OUR OWN JUDGMENTAL MIND. IF OUR MIND IS JUDGING US HARSLY IT CAUSES CONTRACTION IN OUR BODIES, SHORTNESS OF BREATH, AND STRESS. In time this can cause disease (look at word dis/ease= without ease.) In time this can cause illness, pain in our muscles, rigidity in our bodies that reflect the rigidity of our minds. When we accept ourselves and the human condition we soften, relax, breath slower and more deeply, develop a sense of humor about ourselves and don’t take ourselves so seriously. WE ARE HAPPIER WITH OURSELVES AND OTHERS AND OUR LIVES BEGIN TO REFLECT THAT AND MAGIC HAPPENS AND WE NOTICE IT AS MAGIC. May your life be filled with the peace of self acceptance, Sheila Radha Conrad, M. A. http://www.lifemasteryskills.com http://lifemasteryskills.com/blog/wordpress/
I want to explore the concept of gratitude. Many of us know it is important to feel and be grateful for our health, our loved ones, our jobs, our home, our country, and our friends.
I want to give you the opportunity to be grateful for yourselves, just as you are right now. Yes, I am suggesting you don’t need to change, improve, lose or gain weight or get a different job.
Although self improvement may be very rewarding it can also be a subtle form of self rejection, in which, we are consistently judging ourselves with the intent to make ourselves better, or good enough. What we may not realize, is under this well intentioned activity is a the unconscious belief that we are not perfect just as we are.
Yes, that means with all our limitations, flaws and imperfections, we are perfect just as we are.
Close your eyes and imagine what it feels like in your body, in your heart and mind to feel you are perfect right now and so is everyone else. Nothing needs to change to experience perfection.
Our minds do not like this at all, because the first thing that happens is the mind starts saying “there is no way my thighs are perfect” or whatever else is on your personal list of faults you want to change.
Let’s be playful and imagine feeling a deep heart felt gratitude and love for every area in our mind and body that we think is not good enough or at least needs improvement before we could feel love and gratitude for it.
What magic would happen if we could see ourselves with loving and grateful eyes rather than critical eyes, right now. How would you feel toward a friend who said I will love you and be grateful for having you in my life when and if you lose weight, or get a job, or are less shy?
We do this to ourselves very often, only we may not be aware of what we are doing. I am writing to you so you will be aware and may choose to have more compassion for yourselves and be kinder and more gentle with yourselves.
I love you just as you are and I am grateful you are in my life exactly as you are right now.
My prayer and blessing is that you feel that way about yourself, Sheila Radha
You have been telling people that this is the Eleventh Hour. Now you must go back and tell the people that this is the Hour. And there are things to be considered:
Where are you living? What are you doing? What are your relationships? Are you in the right relation? Where is your water? Know your garden.
It is time to speak your Truth.
Create your community. Be good to each other. And do not look outside yourself for the leader.
This could be a great time!
There is a river flowing now very fast. It is so great and swift that there are those who will be afraid. They will try to hold onto the shore. They will feel they are being torn apart, and they will suffer greatly.
Know the river has it's destination. The elders say we must let go of the shore, push off into the middle of the river, keep our eyes open, and our head above water. See who is in there with you and celebrate.
At this time in history, we are to take nothing personally. Least of all ourselves. For the moment we do, our spiritual growth and journey comes to halt.
The time of the lone wolf is over. Gather yourselves!
Banish the word struggle from your attitude and your vocabulary.
All that we do now must be done in a sacred manner and in celebration.
We are the ones we have been waiting for.
The Elders of the Oraibi, Arizona, Hopi Nations
As I read this I knew I wanted to share this with my BraveHeart sisters. We are on the perfect path at this time and how blessed we are. Aloha and blessings, Sheila Radha
Aloha, I am Radha Conrad the founder of the Sisterhood of Clarity.
Do you know how self-doubt impacts our energy and affects our ability to live a purposeful life?
This is what I have learned from exploring my self-doubt. Our minds are very clever and know exactly how to point out and focus on our limitations, this makes us doubt our worthiness to live a life of Purpose.
Personally, I have gotten many clarity snaps that have taught me the way my specific flavor of self-doubt works and it is, to question me like this:
Are you sure you even know what living a purposeful life means?
Who do you think you are to say you want to live a life of purpose?
What makes you think you deserve it?
We will do the Clarification Process, so you can learn what your specific flavor of self-doubt sounds like and how it impacts your ability to create and live a purposeful life. Remember, as long as you doubt yourself you will sabotage your ability to know and live your purpose.
The only way to dissolve the block of self-doubt is to have the clarity snaps that tell you specifically how you do this and what actions steps you need to take to create a purposeful life.
Now, let's do the Clarification Process to get the Clarity Snaps we need to create a Purposeful life.
Sit in a comfortable upright position, close your eyes, relax your face and your shoulders and listen to the sound of seven in breaths and seven out breaths. Bring the following question inside as you listen to the sound of your breathing. What is my specific flavor of self-doubt and what is one action step I need to take toward living a purposeful life? Trust your first answer and remember your answer may not come right away, it could arise when you are doing the dishes or watching T.V. TRUST THAT IT WILL COME!
Great!
I just got an amazing Clarity Snap, the reason we must take action is because our lack of action is the way our self-doubt stays alive and sabotages us.
Write your Clarity Snaps about your self-doubt and what action step you are going to take at the end of this video or whenever it arises.
I invite you to join the Sisterhood of Clarity by clicking on the join button below.
It is never too soon to dissolve the blocks that get in our way.
Together we are growing in clarity,
Radha
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