grandmomsheart's Blog: Loss, Death,

Bonnie Jean (Lydy) Charette 11-23-1981 to 4-30-2010

28 yr old Bonnie lost her fight with Inflammatory Breast Cancer. Bonnie is survived by her father Jack Lydy of Arizona, mother Patricia Agee of West Virginia, her "Mom & Dad" Karla and George Charette of TX, her partner in life Jason Charette, her daughters 9yr old Tabitha, 8yr old Hailey and her son 5yr old Normand. She was a loving Mother, devoted wife, daughter, sister, aunt and friend. You are loved and will be missed forever....

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Bonnie (aka: My Daughter) has just been diagnosed with IBC, Inflammatory Breast Cancer. It's very rare, and roughly 25% of people diagnosed with this form of cancer survive 5 years.

Bonnie is only 27 yrs old, recently divorced from my son, no income, no job; she visits her children in my home. She was able to get assistance and offered free chemo, eventually a mastectomy followed by radiation. I've asked her to move in with me and her children, but for now she prefers staying at her girlfriend’s home.

We've joked around about "chemo brain" something akin to CRS, and how great it's gonna be not to have to shave anymore..."no more bad hair days" she says softly with a smile... "You wouldn't believe all the guys that are suddenly asking me out on dates mom”, I laugh and tell her that the Dr. has probably slipped some kind of pheromone in the chemo that drives the guys wild..."yeah maybe we should bottle the stuff we'd make a mint". "It’s probably just guys with long term commitment issues is all".... We both smiled and then the tears came.

We're gonna beat this I know it! I wasn't sure how convincing I was, but it sounded good anyways. Her four year old crawled up into her lap and she gave him an extra tight hug as he tried to wiggle free, "I'm never letting go she said, I'm never letting go."

It's going to be tough, and I'm sure there are many things we'll find out as we go through this process, but I know I won't let go either... The cancer has metastasized to her spine, hopefully the chemo will stop the little critters in their tracks. The Dr told her she's got stage 4 cancer (there is no stage 5), but maybe she's got 10 yrs if the treatments work.

I ask that you keep her in your prayers, and that all my BraveHeart Woman friends click on this link & watch this video, and get the word out there!!! This is not a form of cancer that presents with a lump, it spreads quickly, it’s often misdiagnosed, and it can hit at any age.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6P5JpnLRFsk

28 yr old Bonnie lost her fight with breast cancer on the 30th of April. I never believed we would lose her that way...she was a fighter to the end. Her children, my son, myself and her family were with her to the end. What a true Braveheart woman she was. We miss her so much. Please pray for her babies, 5 yr old Normand and 8 yr old Hailey.