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Asking good questions is an important success strategy, and crucial to the quality of your life. Through personal development and coaching, I have learned many valuable lessons. One of these lessons is the necessity to spend time asking oneself important questions. These life questions can be in relation to your career, your relationships, your financial situation and so forth.

Most people in this day and age, do not make the desired shift towards a better quality of life and their desired success, because they do not spend time quieting their minds and asking themselves worthwhile questions. Many will choose to go to seminars and read books which is all wonderful, however they expect the exterior things or beings to do the work for them. Most folks do not want to take the responsibility of doing the internal work.

Whether you know it or not, all the answers you seek are found within. What you need to do in order to get to the answers is learn to sit still, be quiet, slow down the mind chatter, and then ask your deeper self the life questions you want answers to.

Because of our microwave mentality, most individuals want the answers immediately. Know that it may take a few days, a couple of weeks, a month or maybe even longer. However you will get the answer if you persist. A key factor to getting your questions answered is to set out the intention of receiving the answers.

The answers to your life questions may come in the form of a clear knowing or an idea that pops unexpectedly into your head. It may also come from what the person in front of you is mirroring back to you. Just know that answers come in many forms, you simply need to go about your day being aware and open to receiving the answers.

Asking great life questions and finding out the answers is all part of doing personal development. Imagine being able to quiet yourself long enough to be able to connect to your deeper self and by doing so develop your ability to get the information you desire. How would that change your life?

So next time you are confused or frustrated, use the following success strategy - start asking yourself some great questions.

Lynette Chartier
Manifesting Formula

Personal power - do you use and therefore develop your personal power or are you someone who tends to give your power away?

After spending many years giving away my own personal power, I have learned a few things that have allowed me to turn direction.

First of all, if you are always looking to someone else or to something else for the answers, always looking outside of yourself, then You probably give most of your power away.

One of the great benefits of personal development is the remembering and rediscovering of your personal power.

Personal power is having the ability to question yourself until you find the answer that is right for you. All the answers that you seek are in fact within you.

It is difficult to connect with your personal power and to use it, if you have no self confidence and have not yet developed an inner trust. It may feel easier and more accurate to follow what someone else is saying and thinking - basically to simply receive answers.

However that feeling is short lived because next time something comes up for you, you will find yourself once again needing to go outside of yourself.

Through personal development you will be able to start asking yourself the difficult questions and start to go within. With time you will develop the ability to find your answers more quickly and accurately, because you will have learned the ability to listen to your intuition and to your emotional guidance system. You will be in fact trusting your inner self more.

As you are developing this personal power there are many tools and strategies that you can use to support yourself. However the goal is to become dependent on self and not on the outside being, tool or strategy.

The products, tools and coaches are simply there to help you remember who you truly are and to help you recognize the incredible power within.

The one requirement to developing your personal power is to take the time to be still, to quiet yourself and your mind. Meditation is great for this.

Next time you want to deal with an issue, before going outside of yourself, take some time to be just with yourself and to start developing and accessing your inner gifts.

Make it a great day,

Lynette
Manifesting Formula

"No amount of self improvement will make up for a lack of self acceptance." Robert Holden

How true this quote is. We can work on improving ourselves as long as we want and attend all the personal development seminars that are out there, however if we do not accept ourselves for who we are, no amount of personal growth will be able to bring us the joy, fulfillment, and success that we are seeking.

Unless we learn to feel worthy and deserving of the best life has to offer it cannot come to us - we will subconsciously sabotage ourselves. We need to let go of fears, self doubt and self criticism. It is also important to learn to relax and enjoy life.

Personal development is available to help us shed limiting beliefs and maximize our potential. However, it is crucial to understand that you are not flawed and broken. Each one of us is whole and complete as we are... we have simply forgotten that.

Perhaps it was our upbringing and our cultural beliefs, perhaps it was our lack of success (as defined by ourself) along the way or perhaps we had a rough start in life and we were led to believe that we were somehow flawed. Know that you are not flawed.

You may have made decisions in the past that were not right for you and now you are seeing the results. The circumstances you are currently experiencing are simply a result of past thoughts and behaviours. However, your past does not need to equal your future. You can choose differently - right now! Simply take responsibility for your decisions and actions.

The first decision being the decision to accept yourself as you are!

Lynette Chartier
Manifesting Formula

Last year I came across a website and a woman named Thea, from Australia, who has done some impactful work in the field of personal growth and transformation.

The first work that I had the privilege to enjoy were her 50 Life Booster Questions. We all know that the quality of our life depends on the quality of the questions we ask ourselves.

Below I have included her 50 questions, and the neat thing is that you can visit her web site and record your answers on line for Free.

Have fun! You may even want to add and share some of your thought provoking questions to this list.

Create a truly magical day for yourself,
Lynette Chartier
Manifesting Formula


50 Life Booster Questions
Developed by Thea Westra,
Senior Thought Leader
http://www.forwardsteps.com.au

1. What would you love to do or accomplish, before you die?

2. If you were to begin to achieve that/these, what is the first change you would start to make?

3. What would you need to include MORE of in your life?

4. What would you need to have LESS of in your life?

5. Rewrite your goal(s) so it is 'moving towards' something, rather than 'moving away' from something?

6. What is YOUR personal definition of success?

7. If you had to guess your life purpose, what would it be?

8. What daily habits could you replace with a better daily habit? List these.

9. What would a massive action 'look like' for you?

10. What action would you take, if you knew you could not possibly fail?

11. What has worked for you when accomplishing past personal goals?

12. What can you see about any past setbacks, which may actually benefit you?

13. What are you tolerating/putting up with?

14. What will you do, to completely erase petty things that are bothering you?

15. For what will you take 100% responsibility, from now?

16. If you were your own coach, what coaching would you give yourself right now?

17. Who and what are you listening to, most of the time?How will you change that, if it needs changing?

18. What do you keep saying to yourself that usually thwarts your progress?

19. What could you now keep saying to yourself, to empower you?

20. What could you get done this week that you know needs doing?

21. For that task, what is the first step and the next step?

22. What could you put in your environment to remind you of your promises to yourself?

23. What could you include in each day to create and hold your vision for your future?

24. What have you 100%, decided to achieve?

25. What ways do you benefit by NOT deliberately moving toward what you want?

26. What activities and new habits will you deposit into your future, this month?

27. On a scale of 1 to 10, how excited to you feel about taking these actions?

28. What could increase that score?

29. What are your highest aspirations for this year?

30. What are the greatest lessons you have learned in life?

31. What is life asking you to do differently?

32. What are you now willing to do that you've been unwilling to step into?

33. What non-negotiable decision are you willing to make for your life, and stick to?

34. What in your life needs immediate attention?

35. What strategies could you use to better manage your daily priorities?

36. What is perfect about where you are in your life right now?

37. Describe in detail, your feelings once all your goals are achieved?

38. Which books could you read, people could you call and websites could you visit, to support your goals?

39. In what way are you a better person this year than last year?What will be your answer, next year?

40. Where will you fine-tune your use of time in the next 24-hours?

41. Is there anything you are ignoring, to which you should be paying attention? Be honest!

42. What are you most excited about now? What are you looking forward to?

43. What ways will you will get more energy into your life?

44. What newly created, personal standard(s) will you abide by; hail, rain or shine?

45. What are your greatest strengths and how will you leverage those?

46. What would you most like to be acknowledged for, so far in your life?

47. What do you need to give to yourself so that you can give more to others?

48. What new belief could you take on to speed up your personal decision-making processes?

49. What do you already know for certain? Is that the truth?

50. List all the benefits that you got from completing this exercise, and what are your next Forward Steps?

The Online Version can be found at: http://www.forwardsteps.com.au/50-Power-Questions.htm

Last March, as I was walking around Rome, Italy, evidence of the Renaissance surrounded me while I was observing the architecture and the art. I wondered how that related to my present and my future?

This is what came up for me: art and beauty are everlasting. Quality is a value that lasts. There is truth in beauty and beauty in truth.

Despite what is happening in the world economy, truth and beauty will still rise to the top and are currently/will be still appreciated by many.

The collapse of the North American economy is about bringing us back to lasting values and learning to rediscover ourselves - our own greatness.

The collapse of the system as we know it, will in my mind bring us to the end of a dark age - an economical and spiritual dark age.

There will be a new Renaissance. In fact it has already started in the personal development industry. Folks are choosing to design their life rather than living it by default. They are recognizing their potential and choosing to maximize their abilities. In fact it is time to create your future or be created by it. Your future is in your hands - whether you are comfortable with that thought or not.

In order to help yourself create your future: you can choose to respect various cultures and cultural differences. Live for new beginnings. And we certainy have a wealth of opportunity to that here with BraveHeart Women Community.

Insist on the possibilities for yourself and others -a raising of the bar versus accepting continuous lowering of the standards.

Innovation will actually be the cure for the 21st century. It is time to discover your voice and to create. In the 21st century creativity will be a highly valuable skill to possess.

So go forward - be bold - choose to elevate yourself. Find support by being part of a community of folks that are like minded. Choose to mastermind.

Ciao till next time,
Lynette
Manifesting Formula
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I just finished listening to Ellie Drake’s interview with Siedah Garrett – singer, songwriter and so much more…and wanted to share my thoughts.

The word Balance certainly caught my ear when Siedah was speaking – as it is something so many of us look to achieve in different areas of life -- within and outside of ourselves. Siedah has managed to find a balance in her musical career in order to keep herself inspired and grounded - something that is important to remember.

“Refuse to complain about something we can change.” Siedah being a doer sets a great example of taking on responsibility, taking action Now vs later - one more nudge to encourage us forward.

Later in the interview a significant observation is brought forth by Siedah who reminds us of what we can expect when transitioning from one type of career to another ... You will certainly want to hear this for yourself as you are learning to pursue your passion.

There is an enormous amount of value given to us with each interview. Each dialogue is a wonderful gift from Ellie, and personally I look forward to learning and growing with each conversation.

I suggest that we all make time to treat ourselves, and listen to each refreshing conversation.

And with that said, I wish you a productive day!

Lynette
Manifesting Formula

I have come to realize that successful people see failures - disappointments in a positive light, and believe they have what it takes to get over it. They choose to look for the lesson learned, and what value they can take from their setback, rather than focusing on the failure.

If you are a sports fan, you may have actually witnessed the loss of a tournament, a series or a particular game, and seen fans who appeared more upset than the athletes. That is because the athlete knows he or she can, and will get over it. Before long, they are focusing on the next event. Whereas the devoted sports fan gets very discouraged, and frequently takes the loss harder. If you do not believe me go to a teenager's hockey or ball game, and observe the parents.

The difference between successful people and those who are not, is frequently due to the perceptions that they hold. People who experience setbacks or what they refer to as failures frequently take the setback personally. They believe it defines them. They let it lower their self confidence and self esteem. However successful people will share with you that the reason they succeed more is because they have usually failed more times. They are simply more persistent.

Next time you experience a setback try re-framing the concept of failure in your mind, as simply one of a temporary setback or temporary defeat. Many of life's failures are simply folks who did not realize how close they were to success whey they gave up.

You may want to redefine the term success. Success is not only the end result. Start giving yourself credit for all the steps you are taking along the way. Praise your attempts and the learning you are doing. The learning if applied holds great value!

Setbacks are a natural part of the process in any new endeavor. You will attempt many things in your new venture. Some will work, some will need tweaking, and some will need to be ditched. If you are not willing to make errors and move to higher levels of achievement, then you are really not ready to learn and to grow.

With the rate of change accelerating continuously, it is essential to committing to being a life-long learner. When you embrace the process of learning, growing and becoming more, life takes on a richly rewarding and satisfying quality. Fulfillment is possible.

You hold the power in your mind. Let go of what others may think! Choose to redefine Success and "Failure".

Lynette Chartier
Manifesting Formula

Good day BraveHeart Women!

This week as we approach the day of Love - Valentine's day - we may want to keep in mind that in order to love others and bring about lasting change in our own life - we need to love ourselves and accept ourselves first.

Honoring and loving ourselves includes forgiving ourselves for our past errors and choices. This is not easy.. yet, I am learning that self forgiveness is very necessary in order to move forward and not be weighed down by unnecessary baggage.

We are constantly growing and evolving and part of self-love is choosing to access our power within. We can facilitate accessing our power by doing things that help us personally grow and transform - things that will also allow us to have our inner cup filled.

Do you make time to honor yourself, and in which way to you choose to do so?

Create a peaceful and joyful day for yourself,

Lynette Chartier
Manifesting Formula

I hope your week is going well and that you have been able to take a few minutes for yourself despite the busyness of work...

Meditation - why bother or better yet do you need to bother?

What I can share from personal experience is that meditation is worth taking the time to do, and to learn to do in a way that fits for you. I have to admit I did not always feel like this, as I had experienced difficulty in stopping the thoughts from gushing forth.

However, with a little time and some patience, I discovered much to my delight, the benefits of quieting the mind. Here is what you can gain from such a practice:

- develop a sense of peace
- eliminate fatigue
- find clarity of purpose
- reduce stress
- reduce pain

but more importantly it offers you the opportunity to have a direct connection with your Higher source, Spirit, Higher consciousness, God, (use the term that fits for you).

Don't let anyone tell you that there is only one way to quiet the mind. There is no right or wrong way to meditate. Learn to Be You Own Wizard. You can start with a few minutes and expand from there. As always, you can Google the topic and you'll find incredible resources.

Like Nike says ... Just do it!

Lynette Chartier

Relaxed confidence is a state where you are operating in flow; there are fewer or no energy leaks. You have a sense of playfulness about you, and things don't phase you - they don't stress you out

"It's not who you think you are that holds you back, it's who you think you are not." - author unknown.

I am not referring to arrogance - as that is something completely different. The opposite of relaxed confidence is feeling stressed out. Stress is frequently a habit. It comes from feeling that there is not enough - not enough time, not enough resources, not enough money, not enough of something. I know as I have been there and sometimes fall back in that trap.

When we pay attention to our language - wel notice words that reflect the opposite of relaxed confidence. For example: "I have to.." " I've got to..." " I should...".

We need to recognize and then remember that abundance is the law of the Universe. There are enough resources, there is enough time, there is enough money. It has been said that if all the resources were to be evenly distributed, each man, woman and child would be a millionaire.

We do not have to buy into the belief that confidence comes only from experience. It can come from experience, but it is does not necessarily come from that.

Having experience with something does not guarantee we will have confidence. There are many folks who are successful at their tasks and yet they experience a fear or a stress prior to each attempt.

Relaxed confidence is really about having a particular emotional posture. It's about settling into who we are and knowing that we are good enough.

Yes, we will continue to learn and to grow, however we are not flawed. We may have some old programming, at a subconscious level, that needs to be erased or rewritten, but we are worthy and deserving at your core.

Our perceptions affect our reality. If we change our thinking and start perceiving things differently, our reality will change.

Most people are frightened of their own lives. So if we show up with even just a teaspoon of extra confidence, we become attractive to them.

Stay tuned over the next few posts, when we look at how to cultivate this relaxed confidence. Your feedback is most welcomed - as I would love to learn more on this topic from you

"Men harm others by their deeds, themselves by their thoughts. " ~Augustus William Hare and Julius Charles Hare, Guesses at Truth, by Two Brothers, 1827

Lynette Chartier
Manifesting Formula

Good morning BraveHeart Women,

I absolutely love the sharing, the resources, the talents and gifts of others, that I have access to by being a part of this community.

Through the posts I am finding more inspiration and my own courage increases each day.

This past week - I was able to increase my level of authenticity and shed one more layer of the called internal onion.

Results: a conversation that I anticipated being one of the most difficult of my life - turned out better than I could have imagined and I feel pounds lighter.

I believe real authentic communication is truly the foundation to everything.

BraveHeart Women you rock! and THANK YOU for being You.

Love and respect,

Lynette Chartier
Manifesting Formula

I don't know about you, but once in a while I get mentally and emotionally hit, by what feels like a 2 x 4 ... I get to a point where Oh My God! - I finally have more clarity.

This morning was like that ...What I thought was going to be a short conversation went on for a quite a while... I went from feeling like I was not good enough, to feeling vulnerable, to feeling really grateful, and then having this new perception of how I still am sometimes. All good and too much to put into words... so I'll spare you the details.

Bottom line is... that having been a "good student", a so called polite and nice individual all of my life, falsely believing from a young age that others knew more than I could possibly know about myself... brought me to the place of listening to others too well.

My gift of being a good listener actually backfired in many ways... I frequently gave my own power away rather than risking being vulnerable and being willing to let myself hang out to dry...( I think that is the expression in English

So I was trusting others more than trusting myself, and putting off in some instances - Becoming my own wizard...and living my life from that space.

So questions for you: Are you falling in the same trap - that of listening to others too much and believing they know more than you, about what is good for you? Have you actually let go of being responsible for yourself, by not getting to know your true self?

In my own experience - doing the self growth, being willing to slow down, observe, learn, possibly experience a setback, and decide for myself what is right for me - although it might be uncomfortable and difficult, - it is long term, a lot less of a struggle and you will be doing what is right for you.

So go ahead and learn to Become your own wizard!

Lynette Chartier
Manifesting Formula

"Bad habits are like a comfortable bed, easy to get into, but hard to get out of." - Author unknown.

Our habits are either creating big successful rewards for us or bringing about negative consequences. Sometimes to our surprise, the results of our habits do not show up till much later.

For example, habits related to our health often do not show up for years - whether that be from smoking, from lack of exercise, from drinking too much coffee or not drinking enough water.

In my personal experience, I have come to realize that everything one does - actually counts. If we can catch ourselves quickly enough the effects from a negative habit can be minimized or reversed without too much pain. However it will still take some effort on our part.

Ladies, it all comes down to choices. We can start by looking at the different areas of our life and decide which area we would like to enhance, then evaluate the habits we practice in that area.

Are all these habits serving you? If not, which one would you like to change?

Tip: Commit to changing 3-4 habits per year - for a couple of years and see how your life transforms. You may have heard folks say that it takes 21 days to change a habit. But whether it takes 21 days or 21 weeks or more - the important thing to remember is that we can change any habit if we make a commitment to it.

We can get some help and support along the way. We may even want to use an accountability partner where each could hold the other accountable to changing one habit.

I would venture to say that you will feel so good as you change your habit or eliminate it completely that you will wonder why you never started earlier.

Watch our thoughts; they become words. Watch our words; they become actions. Watch our actions; they become habits. Watch our habits; they become character. Watch our character; it becomes our destiny.

Lynette Chartier
Manifesting Formula

Good day to you!

Ever realize that it is so much easier to be patient, kind and forgiving towards others than perhaps towards yourself?

One of the lessons I have come to grips with, as I move forward in life, is that it is never completely done... there is always something new to do, to learn and to grow from.

We can be on the path of the straight and narrow for just so long and then life happens and we are off again for a little while - but now I accept that it is suppose to be like that - getting thrown off the path is where the learning and growing this places - it is how you learn to play this game of life effectively.

My point is - it is in our "mistakes" and our challenges that we are molded and become the sculpted Being we are meant to be.

We really need to cut ourselves some slack and forgive ourselves for what we perceive are our "faults" and "errors" because in reality these don't exist - they simply exist in our mind. Everything is simply feedback for us to use in order to move forward more effectively with our purpose and passion.

I suggest we all take a moment to intend forgiveness towards ourselves.

Lynette Chartier
Manifesting Formula

As women, we frequently under perform in our life because we invest too much time in chasing the latest and greatest information and gadgets, and never apply what we intuitively already know.

Can you imagine for a minute, what our life would be like if we applied half of what we already know, on a consistent basis? My goodness, we would be in greater physical, emotional, spiritual and financial health.

I for one have spent time being like the frog who tries to catch every last fly - thinking that the next piece of information/program was going to be the nugget that was going to change my life. I came to realize that there will always be something new - heck information doubles about every 2.5 years now and it will only continue to accelerate.

Besides trying to learn it all in one area is tiring and overwhelming.

So what's the answer?

For me, the answer is to simplify, simplify, and simplify some more, and to organize in an easy to use format, what I have learned.

Next step is to cut out the unproductive activities and time wasters. I choose to eliminate what wastes my time, money, and energy. In order to accomplish more, we need to be selective in what we do with our time and to learn to focus on the task at hand.

Furthermore we need to apply the right activities, with the right resources, for the right results. We basically need to function with a CEO mindset.

We can also achieve this with the help of a great personal and/or business coach - someone who has a 35,000 foot view and can help us cut through the C.R.A.P. - technical term for confusion, resistance, apathy, and procrastination.

So if you are feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and simply tired of trying to sort out through the maze of information that is out there - I recommend connecting with a great coach. You will be able with some help to regain a sense of harmony and control. You may even find yourself excited once again about your projects because you will have energy to invest.

“Knowledge is of no value unless you put it into practice.” Anton Chekhov

So what is one great tip you can share to help everyone here, simplify their life?

Lynette
Manifesting Formula