What program are you running today? Is it the rush program, the creator, the parent, the distracter, the teacher, the lover or the healer?
Many of these were set up in our first seven years, as we had our first experience in each of them. Unless we have addressed them recently, they will still be running, just as they have become accustomed too. Awareness heals, notice the programs that rule your life and change them!
Some people use 'the rush' program to get in the zone which enables them to do their presentation or to perform at their best.
Pete my mentor suggests 'slow down and then speed up'. Staying calm is also about being in control.
We do not want to wait for the microwave, the fast food drive thru is too slow, we get a cold and we race to the doctor wanting it gone (sometimes our bodies need to release toxins through a cold), we want enlightenment tomorrow.
This is also about feeling our feelings, not rushing through them, allowing ourselves to experience them, like the feeling of hunger, it would be wonderful if we allowed our bodies to graze when we were feeling hungry, rather than be controlled by set meal times?
Imagine how great it feels to allow ourselves to let those rushes of 'inspiration' and 'knowing' to blossom rather than freaking out about them and rushing to let go of them. This often leads to artificial desires that are filled with drugs and other addictions at the same time and we end up burnt out or feeling completely drained.
Be the tortoise, slow and steady wins the race
How well are you creating? What sort of reality greets you each day? If it is one that you are not proud of, start to implement small ways that change it. I was pandering so I stopped and the behavior that greeted me stopped, as did my need to nag my daughter to get ready. "I will be leaving this house at 7.45am and if there is no lunch packed and no breakfast eaten, it will be a hungry day for you?" "I love you too"
How do you parent? We often do it the same way that we were parented because it is ingrained in us from our birth, even though we think that we are doing some things differently, we may discipline using similar phrases that were used on us. I found that I used way too much subtle bullying and now I use the word 'love' a lot! Bring awareness to your parenting style and become a mentor!
Do you allow yourself to get distracted? I do, it is so easy to be walking from one end of the house to the other and be distracted along the way, even to the point that I lose track of what it was that I was doing in the first place! That is why it is a good thing to have a list of things to do and number them in order of priority. This will assist you to conquer the distracter program!
What is your teaching style? Are you good at teaching your children about money and yet shy away when it comes to sex or confrontation ability? Do you praise often, even our pets need praise? Have you taught your partner about favorite food, color and thing to do? What about 'role playing' when your child has an issue at school, I have found this to be a valuable teaching attribute? Be creative with your teaching!