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Personal growth is learning to becoming more self reliant - having the ability to access your power within, and to make the decisions that are right for you - based on what you want.

At the end of the day the person who knows you best, and who understands you best is you. It is, and never will be anybody else. The more you rely on somebody else to dictate what you should do, the more you look to the outside – the less in control of your life you will be.

A woman sooner or later discovers that she is the master-gardener of her soul, the director of her life.

So how do you become self reliant?

You can do so by participating in a great community like BraveHeart Women; by reading books, by attending seminars and taking classes, by working with a coach or mentor, by masterminding with other like minded people and so on...

However, you must realize that in order to become this authentic, self expressed, capable decisive being who is leading herself - you are the one who does the work on you.

A good coach or mentor will assist you by guiding you through the tough questions, the processes, and strategies that will be of benefit for you. But you are the one who ultimately must apply the strategies, and take the steps towards change. In this way, you will develop your own best thinking and increase your level of awareness, consciousness, and intuition.

And so let me leave you with this simple question - What do you really want? Know that you have the power within ( perhaps it is currently dormant - but you do have it) to Be, Do and Have what you want.

Your friend and mentor along the way,

Lynette Chartier
Manifesting Formula

Welcome to another brand new day - I wish you well.

This morning I was listening to a Wayne Dyer tape and I was reminded that my habits will determine whether I will achieve my dreams and my intentions.

When our habits and our intentions are not aligned we are out of balance. Sometimes we even sense a subtle presence by our side telling us that we should be doing or experiencing something else in order to feel satisfied and fulfilled.

Other times, we may even be experiencing some symptoms such as frequent colds, headaches, anxiety, stress or anger just to name a few. These are all signs that you are out of balance.

Today I would like to suggest that we take a few moments to examine what we are currently experiencing in life, what are our main habits are and see if all of that is leading us where we want to go.

Then use your mental energy to direct your thoughts to what you desire and create a new alignment - a better balance.

Next, decide on one thing you can change, one baby step you can take to get you moving towards your desires.

"The single most important tool to being in balance is knowing that you and you alone are responsible for the imbalance between what your dream life is meant to be, and the daily habits that drain life from that dream." Wayne Dyer

Create a wonderful day!

Lynette Chartier
Manifesting Formula

Hello and Happy Memorial Day to all of our Amercan friends!

Personal growth and transformation can occur in many ways - yet there are some key lessons that are fundamental.

Spring with its time of renewal and cleansing, offers us a great opportunity to reflect and to take stock of how the first 5 months of 2009 have unfolded.

"Follow effective action with quiet reflection. From the quiet reflection will come even more effective action."

Are you close to accomplishing what you had set out for the first half of 2009?

I must admit that though I have in many ways - in other ways I have not. And one of the reasons I did not is because I tried to focus on too many things at once.

I got caught in the trap of wanting things done quickly, and having them done yesterday. And yet, intellectually I do know better. It is not rocket science...

It is much more efficient and effective to learn and focus, on one or 2 new things (at most) and do them till they become habits, and then move on to the next item. Otherwise the mind, the energies and the stick-to-it-ness gets diluted and the results are not nearly as powerful.

A skill, an ability or a task done persistently and consistently for a period of 30 days, will bring about more results than something focused on sporadically for a longer period, and with efforts less than 100%.

It is much better to choose 1-2 things and make them priority for 4-6 weeks and then move on to the next thing. Otherwise you may just find that in some areas you are spinning your wheels.

"Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; self mastery is true power." - Unknown

Learn to Be Your Own Wizard.

Lynette
http://www.formulatomanifest.com

"It doesn't matter how one was brought up. What determines the way one does anything is personal power." Carlos Castenada

As I continue to be away from home this week, I noticed once again, that my level of self mastery is really determined by how I handle the every day challenges that come about - versus how I handle a crisis.

Let's face it, when we have a major crisis to handle we tend to have individuals around us who are there to encourage us, and help us get through the days and weeks that follow.

It is really in the day to day living that the true character of a woman is revealed.

Can I be patient, understanding, and compassionate when my plans for the day get changed because of someone else's personal stuff?

Will I choose to eat healthy and exercise, or will I let myself sit around and eat too many unnutritious foods because of the warmer weather, and the fact that it is BBQ season?

Will I get caught up in drama that can abound at this time of year, when people are already feeling run down because of multiple outdoor activities, home projects, and planning the summer around having children at home or will I choose to remain grounded and internally calm, - focus on what is truly important?

"Problems are only opportunities in work clothes." - Henry J. Kaiser


Learn to Be Your Own Wizard!

Lynette
http://www.formulatomanifest.com

"Welcome every morning with a smile. Look on the new day as another special gift from your Creator, another golden opportunity to complete what you were unable to finish yesterday. Be a self-starter. Let your first hour set the theme of success and positive action that is certain to echo through your entire day. Today will never happen again. Don't waste it with a false start or no start at all. Your were not born to fail." Og Mandino

We are soon approaching the mid point of another year.. yikes!

How we choose to begin our day will actually set the tone for the hours that follow...How do you choose to start your morning?

One of my favorite writers - Philip Humbert http://www.philiphumbert.com/ reminded me
that in order to make the rest of 2009 a fine year, I will want to collect approximately 206 great days, and most days begin in the morning.

So it follows that in order for me to have a great year, I must commit to having a good start to my morning.

Perhaps you choose to start the day with some exercise, perhaps you pray or meditate, maybe you write in your journal - whatever way you choose to start your day - make sure that it is right for you!

It will serve you to give some thought to what gets you going and feeling good first thing in the morning, and then do whatever you need to do, to ensure that you can execute your plan. This will enhance your self empowerment.

"You have got to get up every morning with determination if you are going to go to bed with satisfaction." George Lorimer

If we each create 206 or so wonderful mornings; the days, weeks, and months will take care of themselves. We will be able to increase our personal growth, and our transformation has a greater chance of unfolding.

Learn To Be Your Own Wizard.
Lynette
http://www.formulatomanifest.com

Want To Raise Your Level of Personal Power?

Article summary: True personal power comes from the art of mastering one's emotions. You cannot operate effectively and joyfully in this game of life, if you have not learned how to work with your emotional guidance system.

To read the article in its entirety go to the Article Folder in the Document Files over at http://www.formulatomanifest.com.

Lynette

http://www.formulatomanifest.com

Your personal power can be greatly enhanced by turning within.

Many times we come face to face with major decisions to make, and we have a hard time deciding what is right for us.

One of the reason that occurs is our monkey mind keeps interfering, and we have a hard time listening to the small voice within.

Secondly, we often feel we are in a major rush to make the decision, and at that point if we have not trained our mind to quiet down, to tune into our higher wisdom, we feel that it is not time to start the processs.

Personally, over the last four months, I have had two major decisions to make - one in regards to my career, and one in regards to a personal relationship.

By continuously choosing to anchor into my Essence, to set out my intentions, and to trust that I would receive the messages needed in as gently and positively a way as possible... I am happy to share that I have received my answers, though the answers are not what I had orignially thought they would be.

Both situations are now unfolding, and I have learned to trust my inner self on a much deeper level.

Four months, to straighten out two major areas of my life ... now feels like a short time.

One of the greatest lessons through the process of turning within, is that the most effective doing can simply be no doing at all, but rather Be in a better state of Being.

Furthermore, my sense of inner peace has increased and I feel a deeper satisfaction and happiness.

I am truly grateful.

For me turning within is now an essential part of my day ... as I am witnessing my personal power increase.

Can you share a strategy you use to turn within and hear your small voice?

Learn to Be Your Own Wizard!

Lynette
http://www.formulatomanifest.com

Self empowerment - through greater awarenesses and trust.

Life offers us clues, and it mirrors back to us what we put out energetically. So if we want to know what we are putting out energetically, we look at our results.

The way the Universe guides us is through mirrors - ir offers us choices we can make, possibilities we can act on, and then through our free will we make decisions.

Sometimes we are clear on what we want, we trust our Inner Being and the process, and when the choices and possibilities appear in front of us... we can quickly and confidently decide if it is a choice we want or whether this was simply a possibility.. and we then pass up this one possibility, and wait till something better comes before us.

However, if we are not trusting our Essence, we can be in alignment to receive the intentions we have put out, and all of a sudden pull ourselves out of alignment of what we were wanting by settling for something else because of lack of patience.

Trusting means you have confidence in the unkown, and can simply Be with those awkward and uncomfortable feelings, while waiting for what you want to come to pass - rather than not trusting and settling for second best - acting too quickly .. and therefore once again pulling yourself out of alignment.

In summary, we can all increase our personal power by becoming aware of what life is mirroring back to us.

And secondly by trusting that what we want and put out energetically will come to pass if we connect with our Essence/Inner source daily and patiently work with it.

Learn to Be Your Own Wizard
Lynette
http://www.formulatomanifest.com

Self empowerment comes from knowing what you want, knowing your values, and what you stand for?

As I have a few days left of business before heading back home, I have been taking some time to be outdoors ( up here in Canada the weather has warmed up - YES!), observe and reflect....and a line I heard from a very successful woman came back to me: "Every time I have heard a woman tell me she did not achieve her goals, upon further discussion, the same scenario has repeated itself. The woman was not clear on what she wanted, what was important to her and therefore got distracted and derailed along the way."

This morning I am sitting and thinking how have I gotten distracted this past year and what were the results of these distractions? Where was I not clear in my intentions?

"The quality of our lives depends on the quality of the questions we ask ourselves."

You can increase your personal power by taking time to get clear on what is important to you and why. This way any decisions you need to make will be easier to make. And more importantly you will be closer to honoring your true self.

Learn to Be Your Own Wizard.

Lynette
http://www,formulatomanifest.com

Self empowerment comes from assessing the situation and then taken bold, confident action.

This past weekend, while spending time with friends, I caught a few glimpses of the US Open which was being played in less than ideal conditions... And although I am not a golf player and know very little about the game, through 2 types of golf shots, there was a life lesson being played out over and over on the course, that caught my eye.

For every hole that is played, there comes the moment where the player must putt the ball to get it to fall perfectly into the hole. And on some holes, appearances are deceiving because the course actually has a small slope leading to the hole.

As the player is looking over the hole and figuring out how he will attempt the putt ... when there is a slope, he needs to decide how far up the slope he needs to send his ball rolling, in order for it to have the chance of curving just right, and making its way into the hole. I learned that going up the slope is called - putting on the pro side.

If the player is tentative, and hits the ball too low up the slope - (referred to as the amateur side) once that ball starts moving... it curves too soon and will always miss the hole.

Hence a player is better to hit too high and always have a chance of the ball rolling in the hole, versus being hesitant and never having a chance in the first place.

Now the same hesitancy could be seen many times on a second type of shot, when some of the players were attempting to hit the ball on a straight trajectory into the hole.

Some of the players due to the stress of the game, the conditions, and so on... were playing safe, and therefore hitting the ball with less confidence and the ball came up short... it never had the chance to roll far enough, and no chance to ever fall into the hole.

Whereas the players who decided to play Big and on the pro side, would aim for about 2 feet pass the hole and this way even if they were to go pass the hole, at least the ball had enough power to roll and possibly fall into the hole.They had greatly increased their chances.

After seeing this a few times, I thought it best to simply walk away, and sit for a few moments with the questions: Where in my life, am I currently playing big, and on the pro side? Where am I currently playing small and in a tentative way?

When the words " fear of failure" creeped up... although it felt yucky for a while...I actually gained more clarity, and knew what my next step was in order to play big... in turn increasing my personal power and further enhancing my chances of success.

Learn to Be Your Own Wizard.

Lynette
http://www.formulatomanifest.com

“We need to find the courage to say NO to the things and people that are not serving us if we want to rediscover ourselves and live our lives with authenticity.” Barbara DeAngelis

As we continue our journey of personal growth and transformation, we realize to what extent becoming truly authentic goes against our programming. From the time we were young society has programmed us to be the same, to be like another.

Our programming has actually contributed to our false beliefs that others and what is outside of us know more about us than we do.

Therefore do not be surprised if becoming authentic is challenging at times and puts you right out of your comfort zone.

Last night listening to a wonderful channeler by the name of Maureeen (her web site is; www.sourcewithin.com), I gained more clarity on this very important topic.

Authenticity comes in stages. If you were to change and become totally authentic in one full swoop, your body and mind would experience way too much stress. And you can be sure the other people in your life would also experience too much stress from your sudden change. Therefore the change to a more authentic you needs to be more gentle and then it has a chance to become more permanent.

One of the greatest blocks to becoming more authentic is our own impatience and self judgment. So learn to cut yourself some slack here.

When you start to become more authentic, you may actually have a fight going on with the inner you. You will have some false beliefs come up in the form of mind chatter and you will likely be second guessing yourself. That is normal and ok.

The first step in becoming more authentic is being aware when you are not authentic. The second step is to start shape shifting.

You might find the following useful in becoming more authentic:

1. Become aware of where you are not being yourself - where you are not authentic. Ask yourself some questions:
Am I myself with my family?
Am I myself with my work colleagues? You get the point...

2. In the moment you are about to respond to a situation - ask yourself: What would I do if I could really be myself here?

Asking the question, is a big step, you do not even have to take different action right away. Different action, different responses to others may simply come later. Again increased awareness.

3. When the situation arises again and you feel ready, respond more like the real you, begin to take different action.

Being authentic is a journey, one relationship at a time...a way to increase one's personal power.

With whom would you like to become more authentic? With whom do you feel safe enough?

Learn to Be Your Own Wizard.

Lynette
http://wwwéformulatomanifest.com

To increase our personal power as women, we must come to know who we really are and be true to ourselves.

If we do not know who we really are, it becomes very hard to set boundaries around what is acceptable to us and what is not acceptable. And when we do not have those boundaries around us, we tend to get sucked into other people's stuff. No boundaries, and taking in other people' stuff all contributes to our wearing masks and thus having a lack of authenticity.

Without boundaries we are also more externally driven. We rather receive advice than listen to our own inner voice. And when we don't have those boundaries because we really don't know who we are, we usually put whatever is external on a pedestal. Once again we give our power away.

The first thing to do to change this around is ask ourselves: Who am I really? We may need to go back to this question on a regular basis and to sit with it for a while.

Next, we need to start turning within. You can do this using various strategies that will allow you to quiet your mind and to hear your inner voice. You can also do some journaling and read some personal development materials.

We do not need to cut out the external completely to go within, otherwise we may just create fear for ourselves. Everything done in baby steps is easier and less overwhelming.

With time, we start to realize a sense of oneness with the external and internal world. Once you start trusting your internal world to a larger extent, you care less what others think, you can be more authentic, and you can establish and follow your boundaries.

You come to know that what others think is there baggage and not yours. When this happens, you may start thinking that this is your Ego speaking. It can be. At other times it is just an awareness. You are not judging the other, but simply more aware of their reaction.

Your clue to knowing if it is your Ego kicking in is you might feel angry by another person's reaction. You may actually feel self righteous. You may have a button or two being pushed.

Something that often occurs during this stage of internal development is that you start second guessing yourself, because a button within was pushed by another. The danger with second guessing ourselves is that it leads to confusion. The confusion then takes you away form the knowing you might of had within.

If you are confused, take a moment to connect with your inner self/your Essence; speak to it, ask it the question: "Essence, I need to know if this is truth or illusion. Please show me as gently and as positively as possible. What is it that I am still not understanding? Thank you."

As we learn to establish boundaries, we actually develop a thicker skin that will allow us to be truer to ourselves.

The secret is to prioritize where and with whom you would like to establish boundaries. I suggest you start with one relationship at a time, otherwise it could be too overwhelming.

Learn To Be Your Own wizard.

Lynette
http://www.formulatomanifest.com

Personal power comes from taking time to step back and gain a broader perspective.

June 30th marks the half way point in 2009 - It is my clue to stop, take a few deep breaths, and spend some time reflecting on the past 6 months...

Where have I been - physically and mentally? Have I been on purpose and served others? What have I learned? How am I feeling? Did I become more authentic?

"The key to wisdom is knowing all the rights questions." John A. Simone

Over the next few days, with some quiet time... and journal in hand, my answers will help me chart out the next 6 months.

I believe that there is time to make some minor course corrections and tweak my habits, so I can move closer to my stated intentions back in January.

What does the half way point mean for you?

Learn To Be Your Own Wizard.

Lynette
http://ww.formulatomanifest.com

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Learn to Be Your Own Wizard.

Lynette
http://www.formulatomanifest.com

When learning to manifest desired results, it has become very apparent to me that ...

The Universe Always delivers to you what you need in the order you need it, to achieve your desired end result.

So if you do not get the lesson, the healing, or the awareness that is necessary, the first time around... the Universe will keep offering you situations, circumstances and events so that you can learn what is needed before taking you to the next step of your game board.

For example, if you are desiring more financial abundance, are applying strategies and taking actions to get there, and you are still not receiving it - just perhaps the Universe is trying to make you aware of something else that must be addressed first, before you can arrive to that new level of prosperity.

Because if you received your prosperity first, then perhaps a significant piece in your game board would continue to be out of alignment and therefore becoming a greater obstacle down the line.

Therefore if you have been trying to manifest something for a long time and it is not coming to fruition, you may want to take a step back and see what could be the reason ... see if there is something else that is more important, that needs addressing and that you have perhaps chosen to neglect.

By turning within, communicating with your Essence and asking Essence to show you what that might be... you will be find the answers you seek. Remember in your intentions, to ask to receive the insights as positively and as gently as possible.

Tap into your Wizard within!

Lynette
http://www.formulatomanifest.com