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Do You Rationalize? If so, Why?

Posted Apr 14, 2009 07:20 PM
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The next Live Alive video (coming very soon) will be about the # 2 Thing that Prevents Us from Living Alive! One of the telltale signs (of the # 2 Thing) is: You rationalize any thing to make yourself feel better.

I use to feel proud of my ability to rationalize anything and everything! I felt it was a great skill that enabled me to use my creativity to ‘wipe out’ in my mind any uncomfortable situation or unpleasant feeling.

When I was 21 I was living in North Carolina right on the beach, Wrightsville Beach to be exact. At the time I was pursuing acting and like most actors I was waiting tables to pay the bills. One day I came home tired late in the afternoon after working a few shifts right in a row. The sky was very dark and there was an eerie feeling in the air. Then came the heavy rain, thunder and lightning. I turned on the TV to find the news reporting a Tornado Warning! That it was advised to go to the basement and take shelter immediately. I thought, that’s just great! I’m by myself… I have no idea where my roommate is… I live in a beach house on stilts… :O I have no basement… and no place to go! :_| Then, I rationalized this way: If I didn’t turn on the TV, I wouldn’t know this. I’m just going to pretend like I don’t know… I’m exhausted anyway… I’ll just take a nap and forget about it… true story and just one example of how I use to rationalize any thing out of my mind in order to feel better.

Perhaps in this instance there was no real consequence, or was there? I mean, I’m still here so there was no real danger. Yet what about when we’re in the habit, like I was, of rationalizing all the time? What happens when we rationalize... why we don’t listen to our Inner Voice… why we don’t do what we Love… or why it’s OK that we’ve given up on our Dreams?

I found this picture and it made me smile and sort of laugh remembering how I use to be. Isn’t it true that the more we choose to Live Awake in the Beautiful Awareness of Who We Are… the less we can ‘pretend’ things away and make excuses… like there is no turning back! It’s a good thing yet at times still tempting maybe for a moment to want to rationalize some things. ?:|

Question: Do you rationalize? Or, did you use to rationalize like I did? And, if so… what & why? Please share your thoughts and feelings and stories!

You are much appreciated :-x

With lots&lots of Love,
~Amy

Live Alive Community
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Great article amy...you were definitely speaking right through me with this one. Keep it up! --Khrishna
Amy,
I am so excited to see the next video!
You are an amazing woman with an amazing and powerful voice!
I Love You and I absolutely love the message and spirit that comes through in your blogs and videos!
Listening to our Intuition and trusting that inner voice is so powerful!
I am looking forward to learning more from the video!
To Your Total Wellness,
Dr. Sugar
I never liked to rationalize things and sometimes people thought ,That I was from another planet.
Life is so much more peaceful and easier once you listen
from your inside. God gave us a great gift : -our intuition- ,but man,in his inmense "wisdom" thought,that everything needed to be rationalized . Not so at all.
Thank you Amy for bringing this up.The mind is great,but it can never compete with intuition.
Dear Amy,

As I grow more comfortable with who I am as a living being, I give myself permission to speak my message with less rationalization.
Hello my dear Amy,

I clearly remember a moment....I can picture it...where I was, what I was doing...etc. when rationalizing stopped working for me. It occurred to me that no matter what rationalization I used for my behavior or non-behavior....I was still responsible for me.....

no matter what the rationalization...no matter how justified it may seem....no matter how much someone might say,"well of course you did xyz....he did xyz" for example........when the rationalization didnt work anymore to shove down my part, my feelings......it hit me hard. I felt very sad. It was like I couldn't run from myself anymore. I had to own my own life and my choices.

There were a couple of things...one in particular that I made an amend for.....and the biggest amend was to myself.....because I had used these rationalizations and justifications to run from myself and my passions.....i used them to feel ok about not being true to me....excuses for not honoring my truth......

i felt like I had to have a reason for everything....even a reason why I should be me and be alive....I got into the habit of feeling the need to explain my every move and thought...even to myself....I guess I got a little to good at it.:O I used it to hide and to run......

I no longer feel that I need to explain everything to everyone and it is ok to have a feeling...and decide something is right for me....the "no is a complete sentence" idea....the lessening of this anxiety has made me more aware of rationalizing and justifying....to others and to myself!

Thank you for the funny comic:^O and for being here and being you. I always receive inspiration from you, always.....and you give me cause to pause....and ask myself how I truly feel about something

You are an amazing woman...always and forever...I love you,

Debra
Honor Your Truth
Inspiration+Action
You are so much appreciated for the truth. It is better when we face truth.:-x

Deborah Akridge (Deja):)

http://www.nomorepityparties.com/
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