When we are intent on being satisfied with our lives, it takes a level of personal mastery to allow thriving to be our predominant experience. Positive thinking is one aspect of living well. Positive feeling is another.
Positive thoughts married to positive feelings can seem as elusive and mysterious as the phenomenon of spontaneous healings, given the fast-paced, unpredictable world we live in.
We are each a mass of moment-to-moment thoughts and feelings that randomly collide and determine whether our day turns out good or bad. If you want to create a life filled with wellbeing, make a commitment to learn how to thrive, instead of just survive.
There are two well-traveled roads that make up the usual approach to dealing with life’s difficulties. The first is when challenges seem to overpower you and, as a result, you find yourself living in the land of passive victim-hood. The second approach kicks in when you get fed up with being dealt the short end of the stick, so you rally all your reserves, and decide to fight the good fight.
This stance requires that whatever life throws at you, you never surrender. You go on automatic pilot, constantly striving and trying to make something happen, no matter how much the desired outcomes seem out of your reach. Though this seems like the courageous, strong, powerful and preferred approach to living successfully, on closer inspection, this may simply end up as a trading in of passive victim-hood to become a card carrying, full time member of the active victim club.
At least active victim-hood brings a dramatic flair to our tales of insurmountable odds and how we triumphed or suffered defeat. Active victim-hood is much more entertaining and energizing than being the downtrodden underdog who has fallen down and can’t get up.
Limited understanding and lack of expanded vision conspire to create the common experience of using either/or, good/bad, right/wrong, better than/less than thinking to maintain the stance of either passive victim or active victim.
When you make fear and anxiety too important, you become a passive victim who is afraid to choose. If you ignore your fears, you become anxiety-ridden and hyper-vigilant. If you give anger free-reign, you are in danger of becoming mean-spirited, which contaminates and agitates your spirit of wellbeing. When you are stuck using all of your energy fighting or fleeing the perils of day to day living, it is definitely time to choose a new path.
This path will open to you when you set a clear intention to thrive. Thriving can only be accomplished through the active courting of grace and ease. Thriving has nothing to do with the circumstances of your life. Thriving is determined by how much you can ride the winds of change without over-analyzing or over-dramatizing the part you play in the bigger scheme of things. Thriving requires a full partnership with all that is well in you and around you. It requires you to accept your basic goodness and the basic goodness of your life. It calls for a letting go of obsessing over what is wrong while just wishing and hoping that things will magically right themselves.
Thriving requires that you give up the struggle, the striving, and the demanding and commanding voices of your unfulfilled dreams, in favor of allowing innate intuitive wisdom entrance into your plans. As you learn to listen to your intuitive voice and seek inspiration and sustenance from within, you can allow yourself to practice relaxing into the knowledge that you only need to take one right action step at a time to let go of over-reacting and learn to respond well to your life.
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