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I do agree with all of you and with Oprah, however we all know that have been in an abusive relationship that everyone can say what they want, but the bottom line is when we are ready to get out is when we will get out. Sometimes it is best to be an ear and a shoulder instead of a voice. If we are quick to voice our opinions, the victim will never turn to us for support and hugs! Just something to think about! http:/ my book, "Tears of Fears Behind Closed Doors" {{hugs}} Survivor Lyn-Dee aka ~~Woobie~~
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I absolutely agree with Oprah and I am so glad that she is so verbal in warning co-dependent girls and women that they cannot change an abuser. If a man hits you once, he will do it again. Personally, I have a hard time identifying with that kind of world. I've never seen a man hit a woman, slap a woman, or push a woman, etc... Therefore, because that vibration is not in my awareness, I have never attracted it. I have never been slapped by a man, cursed out by a man, verbally or physically abused by a man etc... I believe that women that are verbally and physcially abused attract that abuse from others because "we teach people how to treat us" with just with our way of "BEING". The truth is that somewhere is Rhianna's past or childhood she probably had some kind of abuse in her life whether it was physical or emotional. Therefore, because that inner wound is there she attracted it from an adult male and it will continue to attract it again until she heals her inner wound. However, I've found that lots of woman don't want to admit this and do NOT want to take responsibility for their inner woundedness and want to blame somebody for "doing it to them".... Yes, yes, I know this sounds harsh, but study the psychological principles in "A Course in Miracles" and you will understand why I, as a therapist, know this.... We must all take responsibility for whatever happens in our lives because we have created it either consciously or unconsciously. Rose http:/ http:/
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I believe that if Chris struck once - he will strike again without help. This is a pivotal moment in both Chris and Rihanna's lives. She probably feels like in some way she deserved it. That can never be true. No one EVER deserves to be assaulted. They both need counselling to heal from their past situations and learn how to move forward, whether together as a couple or apart.  Face it men forget their places, bullied by men, 'go out become a man' but are not getting any fine examples. The deny their kids, baby has filled their diaper, 'it your kid', denied it's his once, the kids crying at 3 AM, 'go get your kid', denied the kids twice, he denies all, some not even know where all their kids are. Lots of women are starting to go unmarried and getting pregnant just to have a child and no father or husband due to men are not learning to be men. their fathers have no clue, neither did the father of the father, least it be known He, the Father says be as My Son, as a caretaker of all that are Mine! We will not see a woman given equality ever as long as ignorance rules, get teachers teaching, get government out of the classroom and better certification of teachers, give them as much pay as these government people get, who keep making errors costing our education structure to fail, examination of capabilities, functionabilities and keeping updated should be part of assuring doctors, nursing, medical staff are up to par, as well as dentist, fire and police, even to negative civil rights difference, keep church out of schools and not belittle that what they not know or judge others due to race, age, sex or sexuality, some churches are leaving women out of positions within them due to we are women, anybody has a right to be all they can be and let no man ever stand against anyone who can match or better him. Move over dude, we got the grit to grind. Hi there beautiful Bravehearts, Thank-you so much for sharing stories like this. Many women find themselves in abusive relationships and feel they have no way out. Hearing from women who have come out of one and come into their own are really inspiring. I went through one a long time ago and it was very very difficult to extract myself from it. I finally did and now there is no looking back. Happy to say that I am now married to my soulmate and best friend. There is hope for everyone. Follow your dreams, Love and Peace Kathryn Well, I am going to step out on a limb and remind others why OJ Simpson was divorced. Look where his abusive life took him - his children no longer have a mother. How sad is that! How sad is it that abused people reach out for the attractions that they do. I do believe that we often get what we attract and most every abused adult, child, woman and yes, even men, seem to go back for more because they feel fear, guilt, and a longing desire to be saved by the very person that hurt them. It is almost like an addictive behavior of the subconscious mind filled with so much anxiety and horror, it is part of what they have become and where they are in their lives. I also believe that they can be healed and walk into a safe life, a save environment for themselves and their children if they will take that first step. Wouldn't it be wonderful if parents could capture the needs for their children when the abuse starts? A good time to take my hat off to Ginnie again. I pray for her and pray that she will follow through while it is not too late in bringing another child into the adulthood. We have so many wonderful pro-bono counselors out there, medications that can assist until they are ready to be delivered from chemical imbalance with professional help. I am anxious to hear more from Oprah some time this week on this same subject. This has become a huge issue today and one that must be approached to assist people to their freedom by choice. I could go on with stories too but I will close and listen. I love that we are still educated at any age and to higher levels of love, peace, commitment and freedom. Linda
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What a horrible message Rhianna is sending if she returns to Chris Brown. ''With great power comes great responsilbility.'' Many Blessings, Terry Grahl www.EnchantedMakeovers.org Ask Whitney Houston her opinion...she has first hand knowledge. I have my own horror stories...cheers for Oprah for telling it like it is. Deborah Akridge (Deja) Join the community as we explore new routes to a healthy lifestyle, and let's share ideas together The New You Community
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I do believe that Mr Brown has good intentions and seriously wants to do well by Rihanna but the reality is that he does not know how. Until and unless he takes steps to learn about himself and why he 'loses' it, he will continue to leave devastation in his love-wake. Unless Rihanna takes those steps to discover why she is attracted to and willing to take this kind of abusive relationship, she too, is doomed to repeat her suffering. While, for Rhianna's sake I would hope that Oprah was wrong....I sincerely believe that Mr. Brown has the potential to hit her again. ESPECIALLY because of all of the negative attention he is receiving about this from the public. You don't learn that type of behavior overnight and you certainly can not be rehabilitated overnight.
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