The "What If" Question

I was reading a book given to me by a dear friend. One topic in the book was the "What If Game". This brought a number of questions and possibilities up for me.
What If I didn't have girls, because I had them waiting for me to be a bit older & wiser (I hope).
What If, I have a child with many difficulties, to teach me how to let go. How to have patience and how to have acceptance.

What if, I am exactly where I am supposed to be? Guess what. I am. Defining one's purpose is as easy or as difficult as we make it. We can choose to dwell on on the difficulties of our life, trying to figure out their purpose, or we can go with the flow and accept what was, as just that...what was.

I would have never envisioned my life as it is today. Today, I have a purpose that I better understand. It has taken all of the ups & downs of life to get to this place. I know there will be many more. I don't wish to waste a single second of my life's picture looking back on the old pages with regret. Only gratitude for what is.
I have some friends who find themselves in the same shoes I found myself in 5 years ago. Having two additional children to raise. They are experiencing the "adjustment" period, and the only thing I can tell them is to keep putting one foot in front of the other. It gets easier, it gets harder. It teaches us. It shows us what is important. It gives great reward....love and safety for two young lives, who found themselves in extreme circumstances.
Recipe for Extreme Circumstances
1Cup Willingness
2 Cups Understanding or may Substitute for
Compassion
1 large Pkg of Hugs
Several Shoulders
1-2 Cases of Tissue
mix altogether, wrap in blanket with child and extra
tenderness.
Don't Cook
Done...Never
Result....The best gift of Love you can give or receive.
So again....WHAT IF