Anger banishment

Anger is something we all feel from time to time. Giving it and being at the other end of it can be a difficult thing. I've learned that with anger it can always be controlled. Yes we
might have the feelings of anger and being angry but we never have to
act on them. When we do we are just acting out our feelings and hurting
innocent people in the process. There is never a good reason for getting
angry at someone. You might try to blame the other person but that is
just an excuse. In the end the only person it really hurts is you and
the person at the other end of it.


I also know from experience of being angry and being at the other end of it that it never solves problems. It actually can make the situation worse.


God did not create us for anger.

"A soft answer turneth away wrath: But a grievous word stirs up anger:

_Proverb 15:1


I also know from receiving anger how sad and disheartening it can be. For a long time I was in an abusive situation with a relative. It hurt me
very deeply and I felt like I was losing my self esteem. I was then
filled with anxiety and grief that I never could please and would be
scolded with wrath if I made a mistake after all I'm only human. I also
was a doormat. Allowing this person to walk all over me and treating me
this way because I never said anything. Then there where two incidences
one where this person yelled and screamed at me and I told them "I loved
them but didn't deserve being yelled at." Then another time where I
said "I don't deserve to be treated this way." It felt good to put my
foot down in a nice way. Of course this person did not appreciate it but
I know it's what God wanted me to do. God wants us to stand up for
ourselves in a nice way. I realized for a long time I gave things up
that where important to me to please this person. I didn't go to school,
I worked for minimal money, and didn't do things that where important
to my well being. I realize now I was actually doing the opposite of
what God wanted me to do. All out of fear. "Perfect love casteth out all
fear."