Is Your Life Stagnated Because You Choose Not To Forgive?: General: BraveHeart Women

Is Your Life Stagnated Because You Choose Not To Forgive? Posted Jun 30, 2009 07:02 AM
Are you perfect when it comes to forgiving yourself? Are you perfect when it comes to asking someone to forgive you.? We are not perfect in the flesh, but if we could be I would want to strive for this perfection. Forgiving yourself and others can go a long way in understanding Unconditioned Love. The first step is to put yourself in the shoes, body, mind, heart and soul of the one you are trying to find a way to forgive (especially yourself). Hard to do? Of course not..which is why forgiveness is a faith process...because you are asking yourself if the person is worthy to be forgiven ( as if we had the right to judge anyway, because most of the time we never have all the facts, even about our own self)... and then again, you don't know if they want to be forgiven, because they just might be content of what they did anyway. You know I enjoy receiving a little assistance...so take a look at a Faith Process of Forgiving: To truly surrender means to let go of my ego and its judgements by surrending to Divine Will that will guide me along the way. I now let go of the resistance that is no longer relevant to who I am today. ~Ellie Drake Deborah Akridge (Deja) Enjoy Inspiration In Action You are Welcome to Join This Unique Community As We Explore Healthy Lifestyles THE NEW YOU COMMUNITY http://www.nomorepityparties.com/
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I love the video!!! I work daily on forgiveness...forgiving myself that for the first 8 1/2 years of my daughters life I was a "stolen life" victimized by Adrenal Fatigue, CFS, Fibro. Your community is a place 2 realize we can change how WE feel about ourselves and others. I look forward 2 learning more and more!!!: My new life is a time I can show forgiveness in all areas of life!!

wow! That is truely beautiful.
~kisses~

Aloha Deborah,
Thank you for the beautiful video and for discussing forgiveness. Today my contemplation was "How can I learn to more readily forgive myself and others?" How serendipitous!
I know that my unrealistic expectations of myself and others is how I push myself and others to live up to my ideals.
What arose during the contemplation is ....lay your burdens down, you are perfect the way you are, let go, let God. Life is not here to live up to my expectations, but rather to unfold before me. Blessings, Sheila

Dear Deborah,

I had a conversation with my daughter the other day, where she intimated that some past events in our family were not my "fault". However, I believe that some of my past choices helped to make negative events line up to cause future problems.

Her assertion was that she could see the weight of me being burdened by this guilt, and not forgiving myself. I have been able to acknowledge past mistakes, but one must move on to forgive themselves and others. Otherwise, one can not live wholly and at peace.

"To err is human - to forgive divine"

Thanks,

stephiesstuff

I find that sometimes the act of forgiving is more beneficial to you, the forgiver. I'd like to share a poem that I wrote entitled, Forgive & Forget.

Forget about the wrong
Others have done to you
Remember only that
Glory comes to those
Individuals who
Value the word of God and
Exercise forgiveness;

&

Forgive those who try to
Oppress or torment you
Revenge only brings feelings of
Guilt, shame and regret
Everything's better when you forgive
Trust and believe in God's way.

“Peace on Earth, Good Will Towards Men”.
Although this may be our common wish, we all know we are are not there yet. As an inner activist I ponder the difficulties in making this wish become a reality.
To create outer peace we need to have inner peace. When we are in a state of peace, that state naturally flows from us to all those we come in contact with, as well as to all of humanity.
Many of us focus on the world and how humanity has not evolved to a point where we can live at peace with others, particularly if they have different beliefs, dress, and customs than we have. However, the greater problem lies much closer to home, and is our inability to be at peace with ourselves.
Many of us wage war on ourselves, by not accepting who we are and understanding with compassion and kindness our personal situation, which includes our capacities as well as our limitations.
This state of inner conflict is torturous and so we than project our dissatisfaction with ourselves onto others and judge them and find fault with their limitations.
In order to create outer peace we all need to honestly become aware of how peaceful we are inside our heads and hearts. To do this takes courage, self awareness, and kind perseverance.
We have a great opportunity in each moment to sense into ourselves and listen to our inner communication, in order to know whether we are in a state of peace or war. We can choose to replace angry or self doubting thoughts with loving, caring, and accepting thoughts. When we do this we will feel better, treat ourselves with kindness and will naturally treat others the same. This will bring Peace on Earth and Good Will Towards All!
Learn how to do this go to www.lifemasteryskills.com I wish you peace, love and joy. Sheila Radha

I think you are one of God's beautiful angels. Sarah

Dear Deborah,

Forgiveness is absolutely necessary in order for us to have peace in our lives.

Sometimes that means asking for forgiveness from someone who may refuse to forgive; but we can still have peace as we cannot control another's thoughts and actions, only our own. SWe can still offer forgiveness to others and model that type of love to others.

Great video....loved the music, too ~~ Thanks for sharing!

Sue :-x

Hi Deborah,

You are so wise and always on the button. You seem to always know the right thing to say or do and I absolutely adore you!

Re forgiveness, here's a short poem that I've posted before but which deserves another airing. It's anonymous as far as I know (unless one of our BH sisters knows otherwise?):-

It is often said to forgive and forget
But some fires leave an ember;
Isn't it more noble yet
To forgive and remember?

Thanks for the reminder, D.

Chineme x

Dearest Deborah,

Your question... "Is Your Life Stagnated Because You Choose Not To Forgive?" Is truly deep...

Ahhhhhhhh... Forgiveness and the Freedom of Letting Go! :^O

Deborah, the quote in your video that truly resonated within me was...

"To forgive is to remember, that we have room in our hearts to begin again and again, and again..." ~Author Unknown

Deborah, Thank YOU for sharing this Empowering, yet thought-provoking video with ALL of Us! :-x

With Love & Gratitude,
Bell Rushing

Gentle Warrior
Peace & Inner Strength…

Ahhhh.... Deborah: I FINALLY figured out how to respond back to you!!

Thank you for your warm welcome to Brave Heart Women! I haven't had much time to really look at your site but what I have seen is awesome! I look forward to connecting! Till then, take care, and have a wonderful 4th of July weekend! Gwen

Deborah,

Thank you for this.....a powerful message and one that I feel is the key that will unlock the doors to our true freedom....the idea of letting go of the need to punish...to truly Love ourselves and others.

"A being at war with himself thinks nothing of starting wars in other places...Jeshua from "Love Without End" by Glenda Green

With Much Love,

Kathy

Hello Ms. Deborah - my BraveHeart Sister
What a wonderful post - which brings to mind some thoughts - So often people get so wrapped up in the idea of forgiveness having something to do with forgetting about an action or even justifying an action - letting someone off the hook, so to speak...
For me, I believe that FORGIVENESS is allowing yourself permission to FREE yourself from a predicted REACTION. It is NOT about forgetting or even reconciliation. It is being able to REMEMBER without feeling ANGER or PAIN in your body. It is healing cellular memories so as to stop the DIS-ease in your body.

One of the ways that we strengthen ourselves is by finding the courage to look at ourselves and our lives and to find out who are the teachers that we have learned from.... and often times we find that it is out of worst memories that we have learned the most valuable lessons and out most painful memories often come from those who taught us the most.

Thanks for the video
With Love, Wellness and Compassion,
Dr. Sugar

Would you like to join your Community Doctor?

Dearest Deborah,

Synchronicity...

I was out walking for the past hour, and one of the thought streams that I focused one was forgiving myself for past mistakes...

And then here I get back at my desk and your blog is the first I read and video I watch.

Thank You for sharing, and reminding us of this very important process ... faith in forgiveness.

Lynette
http://www.formulatomanifest.com

Resentment is enemy Number One!

-Claudia

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