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Self Esteem is the Foundation of True Health

Posted Apr 15, 2009 04:14 AM
Self Esteem is the Basis of True Health
Hello, I am Doctor Sugar, your Internet doctor bringing you your dose of MEDICAL INSPIRATION for the day. I wanted to have a little heart to heart talk with you today about the subject of self esteem so lets get started shall we…

Not everyone realizes that self-esteem is the true core, the true barometer of how you act physically and mentally but I have seen it over and over again in my years as a physician and I feel strongly that self-esteem is the very FOUNDATION of True Health. Now when I say true health, you know I don’t just mean your physical well being but I am also talking about mental, spiritual and emotional health as well. If that self-esteem is so low you don't even recognize it any longer for what it is, then your health can certainly be drastically affected.

One of the most recognizable symptoms of low self-esteem is that one begins feeling like they have no energy or even the desire to do anything. Often this is called depression, but it directly relates to your own personal view of WHO you are and what you are – in other words how you view your "self." What usually happens in situations like this is that the lack of self-esteem causes you to do less, and the less you do, the less you feel like doing. A vicious cycle that needs to be broken or it can have damaging effects on your health.

A depressed mind causes negative feedback and negative feedback causes our bodies to respond to the negative side of our thoughts in a manner that promotes illness. You probably all have had experiences with this at one time or another. The best example of how powerful our mind, body and spirit connection happens to be is if we lose a loved one.

A death in the family is a gut wrenching experience and often severely impacts those left behind. The questions about what you could have done differently, about the lost time you never made up with your loved one, or about what else you could have done to prevent their illness or death. The "what if's" are killers, and those thoughts are set in a negative loop in our minds until sometimes we no longer recognize who we are or what we are doing – and what we are doing is running our immune system into the ground with stress.

I remember when my mom passed away after a 10-year battle with cancer. It was a devastating experience for me not only as a daughter but possibly more so as a doctor. Was there anything I could have done differently, what if we would have tried this chemo, or started that treatment sooner and why didn’t I consider the cancer had spread to her lungs when she got that nagging little cough that wouldn’t go away, what if I had figured it out a few weeks sooner, and why was I so busy maybe we should have seen one more specialist… Oh believe me when I tell you, I know what the mind can do. I was very fortunate to have had a many years to get used to the idea that my mom had a terminal illness and also fortunate that during that time we were very close - - but the mind can still ask so many questions and this coupled with the loss of the loved one can often lead to intense feelings of sadness and grief (called situational or bereavement depression) and all of this may literally cause a person to get sick. That mind-body-spirit connection is powerful indeed.

This is just an example but I think a very powerful example of the mind body connection and the powerful affects the mind can have on the body. So take this a step back and forget the loss of a loved one for a minute and now what if there is no reason for the mind to be asking all these questions and doubting every move you make – what if you are in this vicious cycle of negative feedback – how can you get out – what can you do?

I am Doctor Sugar and I want you to take a few minutes right now to think about your own sense of self worth – self confidence – self esteem … who are you? – who are you really? – and is the person on the outside the same as the one on the inside.

I will leave you with that thought for tonight but will be back very soon with much more information on this topic of Self Esteem as the Foundation of True Health. Thanks for checking in and when you have a medical question, simply click on my picture and check out my blogs and videos, which are available on a wide variety of topics. Thanks for your interest in Total Wellness. I’ll see you soon!

Giving You Your Dose of MEDICAL INSPIRATION,
Dr. Sugar
TO YOUR TOTAL WELLNESS!!

The information contained in this blog is not medical advice.
Please consult your medical doctor before making any decisions
or taking any actions on your health or the health of your family.
32 Comments
Hello Dr

Thank you so much for the insipiring words.
What great information to share. I'm always happy to see a medical professional dealing with such an important issue as self-esteem.
If you would like to visit my profile you will see that I believe it is vital for all of us to lead full and happy lives .
Karen Connell
Dr Suar,
You are so right. If you fee; bad about life. It effects how you feel about your self. A death of someone close can effect your health. My first husband of 26 years died 12 years ago. 10 years ago I had something no Dr could pin poin. 1 Year ago I was told I have MS. I know it was brought on with the death of my husband. I was very heathy.

Thanks for doing what you are doing
Margaret
Marion,
Welcome to BraveHeart Women. I hope you will continue to follow the self esteem blog series where you will receive valuable action steps which can be implemented into your life to raise self esteem.
This community is a place where you can rediscover the person that you truly are as well as a place to receive encouragement and inspiration. I look forward to connecting and collaborating with you. Thank you for your courage, your honesty and your boldness - - I can tell that you are an amazing women with an amazing story and that you will be an inspiration to many!
With Love, Wellness & Compassion,
Dr. Sugar
Maureen,
Thank you for your comments and welcome to the community! I absolutely agree with you that a small percentage of people who take anti-depressants do have either a chemical/hormonal/neurotransmitter imbalance.

However, it is my opinion that many women are put on antidepressants as a "short term fix" if you will. And while I do agree that in some cases this is necessary and helpful, most of my friends who are psychiatrists often comment that better results can be seen through other modalities such as cognitive behavioral therapy for example - - however, this takes a lot longer and it is much easier and quicker to just write a prescription and start someone on a medicine. Aaahhh the joys of practicing medicine in the 21st century. :)

Congratulations and I honor the decisions you have made in your life - I am glad you are working with a psychiatrist who is assisting you with your depression - - it sounds like you have a plan that works well for your life.
It is my sincere desire that all women live a life of abundance, gratitude and total wellness - mentally, physically, spiritually and of course emotionally.
With Love, Wellness & Compassion,
Dr. Sugar

While I agree that self-esteem and depression can be  connected, the lack of self esteem is not necessarily a factor when it comes to depression.  I have my self esteem intact and feel good about myself but I still suffer from depression, and see a psychiatrist for medication management for the antidepressants that I take every day.  Without them I could not function.  I think that it should be mentioned that chemical imbalances in the body play a role when it comes to depression,especially when it goes beyond having a case of the blues.  There have been times when all was well in my life, everything was going my way but yet if somebody "sneezed crooked", I would break out in tears.  With the use of antidepressants keeping me balanced, I am able to enjoy my life the way I am supposed to.

Dr Sugar, I agree 100% with your view on how low self esteem, can imprison a person into a way of life that is so difficult to break. Of course it depends on how low a persons self esteem has become,for it to impinge on their daily living functions. I at the moment am finding that my self esteem is at the lowest ebb possible, and with the advice of brave heart women such as yourself, I am hoping to rediscover the person I truly am. and during this journey of mine I hope that other members will be inspired. thanks Dr Sugar, be well, love Marion.
Yes Pat
Absolutely - - there is certainly a link between self esteem and depression. Thanks for sharing and I certainly invite you to continue following the self esteem blog series for much more information on why I consider self esteem to be the very Foundation of True Health!
With Love, Wellness & Compassion,
Dr. Sugar
Dr Sugar I agree with you that self esteem is so important to your self growth. There are so many reasons for the lack of self esteem,. Dealing with depression on a daily basis I have found that self esteem is the first to go. It takes a lot of support and encouragement to get it back.

Regards

Pat
Ellie, I couldn't agree more with your outline and especially 'Your new body is ready for this new task of your soul......'. :)
As I mentioned in my blog today about a BraveHeart Woman's body, I feel it is extremely important to keep the body healthy and fit. Otherwise, we are always surrendering to the weaknesses of our body, leaving us with suffering self-esteem and low spirits.

Dr. Sugar has covered her topic with expert thoroughness and care. Thank you for your nurturing spirit and guidance Dr. Sugar!!! :-x

Love,
Rijuta Tooker
Soul-Power Community
Deborah
You have a gorgeous smile that lights up the whole room! I am so pleased to hear that you are showing it off and that it just keeps showing up on your face! That is awesome!
Your past has prepared you for greatness my sister - you are an amazing woman and an inspiration to so many!
Remember being grounded is a way of life - live in that place - no more roller coasters :-x:-D
Love,
Dr. Sugar
Audie
I am so looking forward to spending the weekend with you & so many other Brave Heart sisters in Pagosa. I am beyond excited for all that we will share together!
Thank you for your comments on the blog.
Congratulations on taking baby steps - - this is what we all must do!
With Love, Wellness & Compassion,
Dr. Sugar
Thank you Linda for the question, and thank you Ellie and Dr. Sugar for your responses. I have only lost a few pounds, but I have been celebrating so much until I was beginning to feel guilty because I haven't reach my goal yet. People and friends are walking up to me and asking why am I so happy and smiling all the time. I have developed a natural smile without any effort...it just keep showing up. Now I am preparing myself to stay grounded when I reach my goal. Thank you all for the heads up.:-x

Deborah Akridge (Deja):)

http://www.nomorepityparties.com/
Sue,
You bring up some excellent points Sue - thank you for sharing!
The average human has an average of 60,000 THOUGHTS per day. Interestingly enough -95% of those THOUGHTS are the same thoughts we had YESTERDAY and the day before and yes, as you point out, unfortunately 80% of those thoughts are NEGATIVE.

What we all have to realize is that because we have a thought - it doesn't mean it is true - it doesn't really mean anything except what we make it mean. So while there are many habit robbing thoughts that may appear in your mind throughout the day - I recommend that you acknowledge those thoughts lovingly and with acceptance and then quickly release them to go along their way - - you can also replace them with a positive thought if you like to do this.

The key is to let the thoughts go - - don't dwell on them and hold them in your mind - - also don't allow thoughts to lead you through your day - - I mention this in my blog about setting daily intentions.

If one is always thinking about the past and worrying about the future then they will miss out on the present - - and all the gifts in life that we are to receive can only be given if our presence is present.

Good for you for wanting to set a great example for your children and grandchildren. Children learn what they live!
With Love, Wellness & Compassion,
Dr. Sugar
Ellie - thank you so much for your wonderful suggestions my friend and sister!

You make an excellent point about celebrating our successes. I think this is a MUST for women. We must get really good at patting ourselves on the back, taking on our successes, and saying good for you and then celebrating our accomplishments. So many times women will hang on to the pain, guilt, shame issues for (practically ever) and think about these over and over again - - but we are so quick to brush off our success and think - oh it was no big deal - - LADIES - - we have to reverse this trend - take on a new level of confidence - take on our complements - take on our success and take on and acknowledge our accomplishments and say YES I DID THAT & YES IT IS GREAT!

Ellie - you also recommended a big celebration - I am in total agreement - We have to allow our spirit to PLAY a little bit - especially when we are on a long journey - such as Linda has just completed. If the spirit is not allowed to play it will sometimes rebel - - and this is never a good thing. (2 steps forward and 1 step back)

Also excellent to consider "WHAT's NEXT" - - that is my favorite affirmation from the morning affirmation CD set - - love it! Your advice in steps 2-6 is incredible advice - - we should all consider these steps as we move forward in our lives.

So Linda - - what is your vision - - what is your purpose - - what's next? Remember that with commitment will come clarity and once you feel what you are meant to do next, surrender to and trust the process.

Your new body is ready for this new task of your soul...... and the 'gap' you explained in your question will be filled by the steps above!

Such wonderful words of wisdom -
Thank you
With Love, Wellness & Compassion,
Dr. Sugar
Linda,
Aloha my Brave Heart Sister - how are the Islands this time of year? I want to come and visit :-x

Thank you for you comments. What first came to my mind in reading your comments was what is referred to as the "i'll be happy when syndrome" - - - I am sure most of you are familiar with this - -"I'll be happy when I am retired or I'll be happy when my divorce is final or I'll be happy when my kids are out of college or I'll be happy when my house is paid off." Many people PUT OFF their happiness waiting on external circumstances to come into perfect alignment in order to MAKE THEM happy. The biggest problem with this is HOW in the world is someone going to KNOW HOW to be happy WHEN these things happen if they have never been happy the whole time they were waiting on these external circumstances to come to fruition.? Is this making sense?

HAPPINESS and SELF ESTEEM canNOT be tied to external circumstances NOR can it be tied to the perceptions of OTHERS! It is ONLY our perception of ourself that really matters.

So what I heard when I read your comments Linda was "I'll be happy when I lose 100 pounds or I'll be happy when my teeth are fixed..." I may be reading too much into this so tell me if I am overstepping here.

Before I make any recommendations, may I first just say CONGRATULATIONS to you for taking an amazing leap in your life. You have done so much for your health and for your longevity. I am so so proud for you! Truly this is a job well done and you should definitely celebrate this - BIG TIME!! It sounds like you look great, feel great, dress great and have a great smile - - so let's address what is missing.

What sometimes happens when people change their physical appearance in a drastic way is that their psyche or their subconscious mind still remembers the OLD them. So even though you now are a beautiful, energetic, healthy, thin, hot mama this is NOT what you SEE when you look in the mirror. Is this correct? So is there anything we can do to change this?

An exercise that I love and recommend for all women is a mirror exercise in which you get to know yourself a little better. You will also come to be grateful for your parts and be much more comfortable with the person who looks back at you in the mirror - so here is what you do:

Take a look in the mirror and pick a body part - say your nose for instance - look at your nose in the mirror - and tell your nose - "nose - I am so incredibly grateful that you are my nose - you are a perfect nose and I am so glad that you do such a great job everyday smelling things and allowing me to breathe - you are a perfect nose and I accept and love you exactly as you are - thank you for being my nose" Obviously it doesn't have to be word for word but you get the idea. The words you say must be said lovingly and with sincerity - NO sarcasm - NO control or other unhealthy feelings - - just love and acceptance. Stand there in the mirror for a few seconds and really admire and be grateful for your nose. Then move on to your eyebrows or some other body part. You can do this for 5 minutes twice a day - moving around to different body parts.

One last nice touch to the exercise is before you leave the mirror - look yourself directly in the eye and tell yourself "I LOVE ME"

IF someone does have low self esteem it is sometimes easier to start with inner organs - - your liver for example - - and then move to the face much later after you have gotten comfortable with the exercise.

A couple reasons for this exercise - - you will really get to know your own body MUCH better - you will notice that you start to physically feel better - - you will notice that mentally and emotionally you begin to release unhealthy feelings about your body - and I would think in a matter of months - the burning question of "Who am I now?" would become much clearer. From a physicians perspective - - this exercise is very valuable as well because knowing your body on this level, you will be aware if anything become awry - - a growing mole or a breast lump for example - - you will know your body so well that these things will be noticed immediately.

Now will you feel silly the first time you do this? maybe - - will you feel shy or embarrassed and not want to stand in front of the mirror in all your glory? maybe - - doesn't matter - - get over it - step out of your comfort zone - and do it anyways - - and be consistent with this for a few weeks. I can't wait to hear back from you - - - and I hope all of you ladies reading this will consider doing the exercise as well.

Linda - those are the thoughts I have to offer you at this moment. I absolutely look forward to more dialogue with you about this. You are a beautiful amazing woman who I am so so happy to call my Brave Heart Sister. I love you dearly and I am so happy for all of your success.
Take Ellie's advice and CELEBRATE!!

With Love, Wellness & Compassion,
Dr. Sugar
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