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Being Your Own Personal Alchemist:

Posted Apr 19, 2010 06:54 AM
Dear BraveHeart Women:

This past week an opportunity presented itself that was let's just
say 'challenging'...

I see different opportunities in my life as ingredients. Some are
sweet and savoring, some are sour, some are spicy hot, and others
are just plain bitter.

This one that I'm talking about was more on the bitter side... It was then
that I found myself wanting to let this bitter ingredient affect my entire
personal internal recipe at least for a day or two (or three)...

Suddenly though, I used some of my tools (a vagus breath combined with a
couple of other grounding tools---If you're a core member you get the drift)
and here's what happened:

It was already about 7 p.m. that I decided to cook a delicious dinner for
my family... Not only that, I decided to make it an amazing experience for
mySelf... I was determined to discover another ingredient that was different
tasting... I wanted sweet, so I decided to create it!

I had my favorite music playing in the kitchen, I started singing like I
had a good voice, dancing like no one was watching (my kids & husband were
watching indeed), and...

I began creating a delicious & healthy dinner... Oh, yeah and I opened a
bottle of organic red wine, and sipped out of my shinny glass with joy!
Literally as if I had no other care in the world! Believe me the bitter
ingredient was still there, but it did not have the power to get in the way
of me using my inner hammer to crack open a new ingredient , unleash
it's taste, and experience the potent sweetness of it!

We sat down and had a great dinner...

After dinner, I opened my mouth graciously and said: Did you enjoy it?
Everyone said, oh yes.. Then I said: good…now who is gonna clean up?

By the way, my son is standing right next to me as I type this note to you...

He is reading it…. At first he said: Mom what's the point of you writing this?
Then he read more and said: Oh you're talking about the delicious Italian
dinner you cooked the other night... Then he read more and said: Ah! I see...
You're talking about, how to be in joy whenever you choose, and then he read the
last part about 'who is gonna clean up', and is now laughing out loud...

Today I know that my inner hammer is ready to crack open whatever ingredient I
choose for it... Sure, life cracks open some ingredients for me, and sometimes
it seems like most of those flavors are not taste-bud friendly, but it sure is
possible to crack open other ingredients and balance the entire recipe to my
own taste...

If your life's recipe right now is not to your taste, then pull out your inner hammer
and start cracking open new ingredients, and begin enjoying the explosion of the
type of taste you're looking for...

Balance your own recipe... Perhaps that's what the bitter or sour ingredients are
trying to teach us... Be your own inner alchemist!

It's an honor to journey with you.
Being Inspiration In Action,

Ellie
27 Comments
Thanks Ellie,

After reading this I felt what you were saying and agree totally. This is what I need to do, include some NEW and exciting things to my life. The recipe that I have been using is old and not as nourishing as before. I have included one ingredient that is much NEEDED and that is GOD.

I want to thank you for these words of wisdom!!!
Thank's Ellie for sharing and encouraging.
It is soo fantastic to be a part of Brave Hearth Women.
I feel so blessed to have such a great teacher. You show us the way how to conquer life and not letting life conquer us.
This morning when I was listening to morning affirmations I thought; 'This is interesting Ellie is probably age of my daughter and probably I am destined to learn from those joung women"

Love, hugs and blessings
Hi Ellie!

Having just read your "ingredients" post, I am committed to turning around what is becoming a "bitter" experience. I see how I was becoming more and more "sour" regarding a recent risk I took in opening up to others. You know how expectations are....well I discovered mine, and now need to see them for what they are. Expectations!

With my trusty hammar, and your very real approach to opening up to other " ingredients", I'll get over my wallowing in "bitterness."

Much gratitude for you, your connection to your inner wisdom and for your sharing so fully!

Pam
Dear Ellie,

I too am experiencing a "bitter " tasting challenge that although is teaching me many life lessons, would be better digested if it was of a more balanced and sweeter variety.

The inner ingredient that I am choosing to use is to live each day as though the challenge is behind me and I am already living and enjoying the sweet tastes that I desire.

Love you,

Audie
Kids and Pets community
Dearest Ellie,

Delicious... as usual!

Only you would imagine turning your personal alchemy into a delicious meal!

We could all use more sweetness in our lives to temper the bitterness that may still show up... or that we may house within ourselves.

So, Ellie, the real question is...

When am I coming to dinner? :^O

I await your invitation to a delectable feast! ;)

In Loving Light and Laughter...:-x
Dr. Pamela
Free Your Soul Community

P.S. Laughter... yet another very important ingredient!
I could visually see you in your kitchen preparing, dancing, singing and trying those different ingredients! :)

I too am learning to add a little spice here and there and disguard a little bitter sweet as well. I like your analogy of life like a recipe, adding the ingredients that you LIKE and trying some that may or may not work but having your own choice to use it!

I have also loved learning about the Vagus Breath. I use it all the time now and have learned and used it even more by taking a pilates class. Its all about your breathing techniques, your core. It has made such a difference in my posture and in my stress reduction. I even noticed that my singing has improved with my breathing techniques as I used to sing from my throat and now I use my Belly to blert it out!

My two granddaughters spent the weekend with me and they think I am the coolest of grammys. LOL Emily said: your the best grammy as she giggled watching me dancing to Salsa Music.... It is so freeing to just let it go. I love my new Ingredient of Self Expression...it is so emancipating to just let go where ever you are and act like no one is looking but knowing people are all around you!

Afterall, Life is for Living, Loving and Laughing!

God Bless, Charmaine
Thank you Ellie for sharing. I am walking own into my own inner sanctuary of love, acceptance, and I am This I am. The Vargus Breath has produced wonders in my life and affairs. I am grateful being a BraveHeartWoman sharing the most incredible journey of love and nourishment to the Soul.
Trulia
Thank you Ellie for sharing! I am having one of those days myself. Thanks for the reminder about Vagus Breathing. I'm going to press the reset button on my my day, go do some breathing, trusting, take another shower and see where I go from here today.

I must say I was hesitant to become a Core member. But the information on the calls has been so very helpful. Vegas Breathe has made so many little shifts in my day, every day, that can't possibly all be coincidence. I am truly in a better place, energy-flow wise. And it is miraculous.

Thank you for the reminder that we all can have crap days, but that doesn't mean they have to continue in that vein.

-Michelle
Hi Ellie,

Sounds like you and I were somewhat on the same path last week. Great blog and nice to know another BraveHeart sister and our leader is on this amazing journey with me/us.

Hugs,

Anita
This is great - glad I'm not the only one out there embarrassing her children.

Having a nice sit down family dinner is a priority for me - so much gets said and shared at the dinner table that I would otherwise never hear. When the kids get home and I ask "how was school today ?" they just say fine - then at dinner they suddenly have a lot to say about it...

On the other hand, that means I have to cook A LOT! Luckily I work from home - but making dinner after a long day was mostly a chore. That us until I made a discovery not unlike your own.

Now instead of dinner being a chore on those crazy days - I make it an opportunity to listen to my favorite music on my IPOD as I clean and cook. It's a pretty regular sight to see Mom swinging her hips at the stove....and now that I also channel Julia Childs in....they seem to be some of our tastiest meals.

When They have friends over for dinner - they BEG me not to dance while I cook. My husband, on the other hand, just takes it as a sign that he will also get desert!

The woes of the day just fade away.....

Sweet and Sour is a great combo in cooking.

Thanks for sharing. Boggie on!
What a great article! As a new member, I am grateful to find this like-minded community. I experienced some bitterness myself last week, and reached a similar conclusion to Ellie's. Our experiences are what we choose to make of them. No person or thing can make us feel bad -- for long, anyway. We have ultimate control over how we feel.

While navigating the headwinds of emotion, it's good to have friends around to remind us. Luckily, more and more people are stepping up to the plate to help each other.

And Ellie -- about the bitterness. Heard a great story that helped me swallow mine. In the 60s (?) they experimented with building a perfect world in a sort of plastic bubble environment. The experiment failed because when the trees reached a certain height, they started falling over. The culprit? No wind. Apparently strong winds cause trees to sprout deep roots. In the absence of the wind, the trees had very shallow roots. So think of your bitter pill as root fertilizer. It is the wind that is making you a stronger tree. It truly is ALL good!
Great concept Ellie you Brave Hearted Women;) thanks for sharing. GO mama!
Dear Ellie,

I absolutely love your analogy and how you incorporated the balancing of "ingredients" both figuratively and literally. :-x

I've got some bitterness to balance myself. I'll try out new recipes in my life as well!

Thanks for this wonderful organic prescription.

Believe me, you just provided me with the "soul-ution" I need at this time. Better yet, you have just saved me an appointment with a therapist!!;)

Sending Beautiful Blessings to you,
Rhonda
Beautiful Ellie,


Thank you for sharing a bit of you, I loved reading it!

The balance of a sweet, spicy and sometimes bitter ingredient IS what life is all about. we all can relate so well.

Have a beautiful day Braveheart Women

Love,

Tara

http://braveheartwomen.com/forum/Elegant-Femme-Society/Welcome-Page/13000142859
Vagus breath taken. Now I'm off to create a wonderful lunch for myself before diving back into the day job...then we'll see if I can get my kids to clean the kitchen ;D

Thanks for the reminder that I have the ability to use my inner hammer to crack open a new ingredient and release that bit of 'something' to make my day, my life, an awesome one!

HUGS!

~B
Aloha Ellie!

That made me very hungry! I am guessing you are a wonderful cook - always adding that generous portion of love in all you prepare. Thanks for the very savory reminder that our lives are ours to mold, and that we choose the kind of experience we have.

Starting about 4 years ago when you taught us the breathing and grounding technique, I have found that ( when I choose to to quiet all of the inner chatter and chaos ) to be THE sweetest experience! Thanks to you, I have developed the habit of beginning my day with conscious loving breathing, and gratitude...

Now, I'm not saying that I have mastered the art of living there full time - or that everything is a bed of roses, "b'dand" it has GREATLY enhanced the quality of my existence.

You have, with your guidance, and your steadfast example, GREATLY assisted me in finding my joy, and for that... I am challenged to find the words to thank you enough....

Love to you and your beautiful family. You all serve as magnificent examples of joyous choices and this particular BraveHeart feels that living in our highest possible place always encompasses being an example of our hearts feelings.

I have true love for you and am grateful to you for your belief in all of us and the constant inspiration you ...live!

Our friendship has blessed me immeasurably. I trust that bitter ingredient is being neutralized by the sweetness you cracked opened, and that today'[s journey in your adventure is easier Done than Said.

Warmest Aloha, Ellie,

Linda

LET IT BE FUN ! B-)
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