The cost of being normal and perfect.

Dance like no one is watching

Last weekend was a friend’s big birthday bash. The birthday man is a very good dancer. In his younger days he was a part of a dances team.

As you can imagine this birthday party was filled with great dancers. The night went on what started to happen on the dance floor was, a circle of people were formed. One by one everyone was being pulled  and got  put in the center to dance solo.

Of course, for dancers each one of them did some super cool tricks, while dancing inside the circle.

 Next, we have the sexy girls, they each do their sexy dance in the center.

Then, we have the ‘No WAY, No How’ people. These people will go dodging away from being pull into the center of the circle. A few times some of them got caught and were placed inside the circle. They refused to dance and some of them even got a little angry.

I was watching all that was going on and found the whole thing was interesting. Then suddenly it happened… I felt a tuck and next thing I knew I was placed in the center.

So, I just start dancing. I don’t know how to do any dance tricks and I am NO Sexy dancer, I just did my own thing.

Later that evening a beautiful woman came up to me and she said, ” You are a little nutty! Most woman would try to dance sexy on the dance floor, but you looked like you are just having fun. Do you not care about what people think?” I replied, ” It is a good thing to be a little nutty… and no, I don’t worry about what people think.”

Her name is Dee Dee and she started to open up to me. As it turns out Dee Dee spend her whole life trying to be picture perfect. She married the perfect guy after college, only to find that he is the wrong guy. She stay married because they look to be the perfect couple and they are living the perfect life according to their social circle.

Dee Dee said her parents are CPAs and naturally she became a CPA. She is very successful in her work and she is the CFO for a major corporation. However, Dee Dee’s dream was never to be in the financial. As a young girl Dee Dee knew that her passion was in a different path than her parents. But Dee Dee didn’t want to want to create any wave, so she just follow her education path that her family have planned for her. Than before she knew it, Dee Dee had made her family very proud of her.

Dee Dee told me that she have a strong urge to start her life all over again.  She wish to walk away from her empty marriage, her so called perfect life and her perfect career.  I recognized at this moment that I am looking at a desperate woman. A woman who is desperate to re claim her life… to feel alive.  I asked Dee Dee, ” What is stopping you?” She said, ” Everyone will think I went Nuts…”

I was almost speechless, all that I could say to her was, ” So, you are a normal person, living a perfect life. All of that is great, if it is working for you…”

I wonder how many people are living a life like Dee Dee’s? At what cost are we willing to pay to be normal and perfect?

My personal opinion is that, being normal is overrated! I would rather be call a little Nuts any day.

Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action