Do you generate a good attitude?

A person with a friendly Attitude

       Attitude defines the type of world we each live in. If you have a bad attitude, you live in a miserable world. If you have a good attitude, you live in a world ripe with possibilities and happiness. A good attitude means having the right perspective. It’s the lenses you look through to see the world—sort of like magic glasses. The great thing about these glasses is you get to choose how they’re tinted.  It’s a choice. You choose how to respond to people and situations. No one else has the power to dictate the way you react to any given situation. Why then do so many people have bad attitudes?

          I believe very strongly that people are aware when they have a bad attitude. They recognize that they are being grumpy or angry or bitter, but they choose not to change. They refuse to take responsibility for their attitude and take control of their own choices. Living like this starts a dangerous downward spiral.

          Your attitude effects the people around you, and the fact is, people don’t want to be around someone with a bad attitude! People are attracted to individuals with good attitudes in all arenas of life, whether as an employer, coworker, friend, family member, or romantic interest. If you have a bad attitude, people don’t want to be around you and that fuels the negative attitude. It is a feedback loop of negativity.

          On the other hand, if you have a good attitude, people will want to be around you. Some people ask, is it the chicken or egg that comes first—is it being successful and having good people around you that creates a good attitude, or does having a good attitude cultivate success and draw good people toward you? I think you already know my answer. The good attitude definitely comes first. You either control your attitude or your attitude will control you.

          I understand that many people are hesitant to embrace the idea that having a good attitude can solve all our problems, and you know what, in a way those people are right. We hear the saying “Have a positive attitude!” get thrown around willy nilly all the time, and I know we’ve all met people in our lives who fake their positive attitude and say everything is peachy and great even if it’s not. It doesn’t work that way. That’s why I say we need to have a good attitude, not a positive attitude. Having a good attitude is 80% about being positive. The other 20% is about being realistic.

          Having a good attitude is all about: Don’t criticize, don’t complain or make excuses. Focus on what you have control of—which at the very least is yourself!—and don’t fixate on things that are beyond your control. Always make the effort to improve every situation you are in, and have faith. Believe that everything will work out in the long run as long as you follow your purpose and have a good attitude.

           Also, recognize that you control how people perceive you. Your attitude is expressed in many ways. Only 7% of your attitude comes through based on what you say. Another 38% is based on your tone and how you say it, and the other 55% is non-verbal. How do you carry yourself? Do you smile? Do you make eye contact? Do you give people hardy handshakes? Do you hug?

          All these things dictate how people perceive you, so it’s important to be aware of your attitude and how you express it. If you generate a good attitude from within you, you’ll create a positive attitude around you and people will be drawn to that.

          Pay attention to your attitudes, you may learn something new.

Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action

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