Are you practicing the Law of Attraction backwards?

I recently received an email that revealed so much about how we think ourselves into problems in relationships and everything else. Here it is:

Answer me first then forward to your friends!!! If you saw ME in a police car what would you think I got arrested for? Reply to me, alone, then fwd this on and see how many crimes you get accused of.

What an example of the Law of Attraction, of course, a great way to brighten any day!

My friend was operating on the belief that there was something bad about her, and she was seeking others to tell her what she assumed they saw wrong in her. You give the universe or your friends a request, and generally both will fill it right in the terms you ask. The universe usually fills it precisely, so be careful what you ask for. Best to just vibrate how you’ll feel when you have what you want, rather than focus on what you think want.

Funny aside story on this. I know of a woman who asked the universe for a particular type and color of new car in her garage, spent time visualizing it. Then one of exactly that type and color crashed into the garage. She did not feel good about the result. Gotta be specific, especially about how you’ll feel.

That’s why it’s so important to be aware of what you ask for, what you focus on. Good to focus on what people appreciate and do more of it. My friend could have emailed asking if she was being applauded, for what would it be?

Assuming there’s something wrong and focusing on the negative is different from asking what's right and how things could be improved. A nice little exercise if you really want feedback is “On a scale from one/lowest to ten/highest, how would you rate our relationship? What could I do to make it a ten?” That gives you something to go on, and you can decide whether, for example, being consistently on time vs., say, always cleaning up after him, is what you consider worth the ten.

The real problem is when we don’t realize that we are asking for what we really don’t want. We are caught up in a thought paradigm and can’t recognize the terms in which we are thinking. We think that by requesting criticism, we can somehow see our weaknesses and correct them. In my experience, I get plenty of opportunity to improve myself through the feedback and interactions of everyday life. It is vital to confront and release or transform our negative beliefs, but asking for negativity only reinforces what you want to release. And my friend was assuming that others’ responses to something they had to make up had reality!

The funny thing was, when I read about seeing her in a police car, my assumption was that she’d had car problems and perhaps the police were giving her a ride to get gas. I didn't think in terms of crime, even though she'd asked. But that was because I'd learned some things I'll post in the next blog.

Namaste,
Hedy
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