This video could transform your life

What are love, romance and relationships about? Can you be in love for life? What do you need besides love for a good relationship? In the acclaimed film about conscious loving, How Will We Love, filmmaker Chris Brickler started out exploring his grandparents' 65 year marriage, then moved on to interview experts such as Helen Fisher, Harville Hendrix and everyday people.



Here are just a few ideas from some of the experts in the movie:

The more intensely you fall in love, the deeper you were wounded in childhood.

You develop an unconscious list of what you want in a mate in childhood.

Conflict can indicate you are with the right person.

Most people leave a relationship just at the point where it could turn around and deepen.

Why we fall in love.

Love as a spiritual path

Did this movie move you? Which idea did you find most insightful, interesting or objectionable? Hard choice for me, but perhaps most interesting that going through the worst, a sort of dark night of the soul of the relationship, can bring new depth and connection. Of course, the problem is determining when it's worth going through. I think can relate to a favorite quotation:

“Should you shield the canyons from the windstorms you would never see the true beauty of their carvings” -- Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

There are many interesting and controversial ideas. We will be discussing some in The Relationship Dance Community. Join us there for more discussions of specific ideas.

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