To school or not to school
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Thank you, Lynette, for your encouraging and thoughtful response! I needed to hear those words. And, I do feel I'm keeping my son's best interests at the forefront. It could very well be that my husband is feeling negatively judged about his way of homeschooling (and with what I've said to him, I can't blame him). However, this issue goes much deeper for him. He's the father of 5, with his eldest two daughters both grown (29 and 26), and he wanted to homeschool them, but "capitulated" (as he says) to his former wife. Now, his 29 year old has two sons (6 and 1) and she's fully into homeschooling, actually more into "unschooling". She serves as inspiration for him and compares our situation to theirs, which I have pointed out that what she does with her family is irrelevant and we can't compare situations, as they are completely different. (She's not the sole breadwinner, for one.) So, I think part of what's happening is he feels he's repeating history, but the difference is we're not breaking up like they did when their girls were 5 and 3. This morning, with the calm after the storm, he apologized to me, and he's much calmer about the whole thing, acknowledging that we'll try this out and see what comes. You're right --- it's not black and white. Life is filled with so many grays... it's our job to tune into them and work with them as best we can. Thanks again. Many Blessings, Jenna Hello Jenna, First of all give your self some credit here, and a cut yourself a little slack... You deserve credit for looking at what would be best for your son, for having the courage to share with your husband what is important to you, for being open to possibilities, and for making the best of your current reality. I feel the fact that your son is excited about going to school should be worked with and kept up. Maybe you and your husband can look at it from the perspective... that not home schooling right now, can take some pressure off - pressure off of time and energy which you can put into your business and work. At night and on weekends you can do a lot with your son and share your values, and delight in being reunited. Having been involved with the Education system for approximately 30 years and having raised two great boys of my own - now 26 and 22 - I will be the first to tell you that the school system is not perfect however there are many wonderful experiences that your son can gain from attending. Like most things, this situation is not black or white and furthermore your son will have a period of adjustment in starting school. It will be important that your husband and yourself not use that time to make either of your stance the right one - but rather remain open to your son's experience and learning, and that you work together through this. Can you show your husband where and how he might benefit with extra time of his own to work on his business? And if I may be so bold as to suggest that perhaps you want to ask yourself "Is your husband feeling negatively judged for his attempts at home schooling? "Could it be that it is more about him feeling hurt, and less about the actual sending of Tristan to school?" Warmest wishes for ease, grace and gentleness during this time of transition. Lynette Ritual Divas Community
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