"Don't forgive and it changes nothing about the offender or you.... Forgive, and it changes nothing about the offender....but it changes EVERYTHING about you!" Judy ZobroskyHarmonic Living Now Community
All of us can relate to finding ourselves in a poor to devastating circumstance and then holding on to the residual effects of that incident for weeks, month and even years.
Holding on to anger, fear, resentment, hate and all the other emotional conflicts that go along with not letting it go, results in living a life that is controlled by our involuntary reactions to certain people, places or instances that trigger us, that hit that old pain body.
Having been there many times in my life, I have learned the hard way of the damage that holding on to the past and not forgiving can cause.
It can wreak havoc on our health, our relationships and our emotional wellbeing.
The harm we do to ourselves spans from mild depression to literally destroying us, manifesting itself into self- destructive behaviors and even undesirable actions towards others.
By allowing these emotional leaches to live in us is like feeding the ants in the kitchen and expecting them to go away.
We have a choice!
When I finally realized that I was the only one chaining myself to this and victimizing myself, I immediately made a conscious choice to begin the process of letting go and forgiving.
I began to experience the transformation, from feeling that dark cloud hanging over me and being someone who was always on the verge of tears (whenever something or someone triggered that old pain), into enjoying a sense of freedom, joy and empowerment.
Somewhere in my journey, I made up this quote to keep myself moving forward toward the goal of ultimate forgiving.
I have to say….it was well worth the effort! It was and continues to be my gift to myself.
I would love to hear your ideas, my BraveHeart Sisters, we can learn so much from each other!