Pain and Letting Go

In America, women have learned to play the 'Man's game' whereby we get emotionally slapped down, and we then understand our place is not to speak out, not to make waves, not to say anything that could be taken as a negative. American men's self-esteem is very delicate. I think that is probably the case in many parts of the world. In order to move on, we suck it up, take deep breaths and try to move on as best we can. Perhaps you find that to be the same in your part of the world too? I would be interested to know. What we women need more than anything is a place to go where we are uncensored, supported, united in purpose and understanding, clearly identified as valued. My hope is that BraveHeart Women is such a 'safe' place -- a safe port, so to speak, where we can moor our vessel for comfort and rest.

Almost three years ago, in one month, I suddenly lost my job which I absolutely loved. I worked for a church as coordinator of Christian Formation and Education for children and youth. I also separated from my husband of 20 years and started back to college. It took me 16 months to finally become so overwhelmed and exhausted by the emotions that swirled around and were supressed inside me by being rejected. The last thing I was supposed to do was to allow anyone to feel bad by what they had done or by decisions they had made.

I so badly wish I could have had the ability and knowledge to let go of all those emotions after being consumed by them, but I didn't, and I stayed angry for far too long. I took college classes in Buddhism to understand the need to let go of negative feelings -- to let go of the past. I'm still struggling with 'letting go' of many things. What I find though is that my life takes a downturn when I start to allow those same painful feelings of three years ago to take over.

When we as women become healthier -- NOT playing the Man's game -- we will be able to teach others the viability and importance to value everything in our lives. When we can start to value the other person who we are sitting next to, sitting across from, writing to, hearing from, calling, loving the way we ourselves want to be loved and valued, then we will begin to grow a much healthier environment.

Here's my hope to all those connected with BraveHeart Women that we absolutely value every person, even when we don't necessarily agree, because we won't. Yet, we need to learn to start somewhere in how to 'let go' by positively working through our pain.

May blessings be in abundance in your life today and always,

Krista
EcoFem