I attended a great seminar recently that got me thinking about motivation and what it is that gets us and keeps us moving toward our goals. Or away from them as the case may be.
Sharing your goals with others is a good way to garner support and keep you motivated, but it can sometimes backfire.
Have you ever been excited about something awesome you had in the works and wanted to tell everyone you knew, but a few of your friends or colleagues were less than enthusiastic? Well, you might be hanging with the wrong crowd.
Do these people look like anyone you know?
Superior Sally - she thinks your idea is a little pie-in-the-sky. She questions whether you have the know-how to accomplish it, and suspects you are getting a little big for your britches.
Blame-Game Gary - he thinks your idea is great but warns that you'll be lucky to succeed. In fact, he once thought of doing the exact same thing, but he couldn't get his idea off the ground because the loan officer at the bank didn't tell him about an issue with his credit report, so the start-up loan wasn't approved. And the black mark on his credit was because his accountant forgot to pay a bill. And let's not even talk about what his attorney did, or rather didn't do.
Control Freak Fran - she loves your idea. In fact, she wants to help you! But do you mind if she makes a few minor tweaks? She has lots of suggestions to improve your plan. So many, in fact, that your original idea is barely recognizable.
There are lots of reasons why some people are negative - - they don't want you to succeed, they think no one can succeed, or they think the best way is their way. When you share your plans with these Negative Neds, your goal loses its sparkle, its shine. Unfortunately, this can lead you to abandoning your plan all together.
Instead, be choosy about who you share your dreams with. Seek friends and family that will positively support you through your successes, as well as your failures.
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