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Put a Little Romance into Your Daily Routine

Posted Jul 27, 2009 02:00 AM
I'm on vacation this week, and one of the things I have been looking forward to doing is spending some quality time with my husband.

Normally, it's hard for us to connect because he works at night, and I work during the day. With the household responsibilities and an active teenager (who can't drive yet), we don't have a lot of free time.

Does this sound familiar?

We can make a lot of excuses for not making/finding time for romance, but the truth is we can put a little romance in our day...EVERY DAY!

When we think "romance," we assume that means something like a candlelit dinner, soft music, the little black dress, and champagne. But that's at the far end of the romance spectrum, where special occasions reign--occasions that don't come along very often. About as often as we wear that little black dress.

But romance shouldn't be an occasional thing. It should be part of your daily diet. Now, I know you're already thinking again, "But who's got time?"

YOU DO! And I'll tell you how.

Let's look at the ordinary, everyday variety of romance, otherwise known as "affection." Yeah, I've got your attention now, don't I? Because affection is easy, affection is doable. As a matter of fact, you may already make affection a part of your daily routine.

If not, here are the first steps to put a dash of romance into your every day--hold hands, kiss, hug, compliment, write a note, give a gift, and of course, say "I love you."

These may seem pretty basic and you might be thinking there are a million more ways to be romantic, and you're right!

So tell me, what are your easy, every day strategies for romance?
6 Comments
As a therapist, I am always excited about those who "get it" that romance is an essential key to a healthy well-balanced relationship. Thanks for sharing your truth!

Anita
Lynn,

Wow, isn't it amazing how one small gesture, especially one that starts your day, can have such an impact on your relationship!

My husband often makes the bed when he gets up. I don't especially like making the bed, so this small act means a lot to me.

Melissa Gordon
For twenty years, my husband brings me a cup of coffee before I get out of bed. Now that is hot!
Ruby,

I love your story! What a great example of how "special occasions" don't have to be all glitz and glamour. The small gestures can pack as much punch as the grand gestures.

Thank so much!

Melissa Gordon
Linda,

Great point! Simply being polite--saying please and thank you--shows your loved one that you love and respect them, every day.

With appreciation,

Melissa Gordon
Life-SMART Community
Hi Melissa,

I AGREE with you....more "romance" is key to healthy relationships with our partner.
And....a hug will work wonders! :-D

We hug a lot in our family....another important addition is to say "thank you".
It shows a sign of respect and gratitude as well as caring and love.

Thank you for reminding us of the "simple" things and to take a few minutes each day to take action with them. :-x

With hugs and gratitude...:-x
Linda Kay Holden
New Beginnings Community
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