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Chineme, Thank you for your thoughts here: "Forgive and Remember" That is very powerful. I strive each day to be the change I wish to see. It requires diligence and awareness, and it requires the presence of Love. My thoughts and prayers and best energies are with you as you and Amadi face your opponents. Your love is victorious! Love to both of you! Linda
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Love is indeed a conqueror.  The New You Community Deborah Akridge (Deja)
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Hi Linda, What a great discussion. I too had great challenges in conquering with love and then a few years ago I came across this beautiful poem: "It is said that we should forgive and forget, But some fires leave an ember.. Isn't it much better yet To forgive and remember?" This did it for me. Forgiveness is so very important for our own souls and well being and often paves the way for reconciliation or at least acceptance. Remembering also affords the protection we may need to ensure the same mistakes are not repeated. Thanks for opening up this thread and for the wonderful responses it has engendered. Love Chineme
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Hi Linda, I hope this will help: "Change begins with awareness" "First, I would examine what your beliefs are around the situation:" Examples could be: I feel anger because _______________ I'll never do _________again because __________ happens "write down all the beliefs (without judgement) you have about the situation." "Acceptance" (this is the toughest part for the ego) "Things are what they are. "the more we surrender to and accept "what is" right now, the easier it is to create and allow something genuinely NEW to emerge." "Responsibility "If you are experiencing anger , it is yours -- no one else's "There is so much of our lives that we really are responsible for, and until we stop blaming ourselves and others and simply take authorship for these aspects, our lives cannot unfold in a powerful way." Responsibility is the doorway to increasing levels of freedom and the conscious use of power." "Forgiveness" "To forgive is to give up all claims to punish, or "make someone pay". "You can judge and beat yourself up (or the other person) for something, or you can give up any claim to punish yourself or the other person, and simply learn the lesson at hand." "When our hearts are open, we become more magnetic to our true purposes and desires. In turn, our openness leads to abundance and financial prosperity. An open heart also increases the flow of joy in our lives." "Gratitude" "After we truly forgive, we are available to the powerful and healing energy of gratitude. ..When you wake up (and before you get out of bed) ask yourself the following: "What is one thing I could feel grateful for today?" "How does this gratitude feel in my body?" "When you are in bed ready to go to sleep at night, do this again -- only change the wording to: "Looking back on the day, what is one thing I could feel grateful for?" ...once you focus on gratitude, you can then start applying it to other parts of your life that you felt compelled to "fight against". "If you have done the past 5 steps whole-heartedly, you are now ready to more fully move into the new reality you sincerely desire." Business from the Heart: Entrepreneurship at a Spiritual Path Kathy Bibby and Dr. David Kamnitzer I am a student of A Course in Miracles. The meaning of radical forgiveness is: I forgive you, I forgive me, and everyone else involved because it's all an illusion. "Fear binds the world, forgiveness sets it free" -- A Course in Miracles With Love, Kathy Bibby Aloha Debra! You raise some great points! I am so familiar with that "I have to do something" urge...which is in such conflict with my knowing, which guides me to "Honor the place that they are on their path..." In my mom's words: "Mind your own business, Linda" To be the change I wish to see in the world... to live as I perceive would make our planet a more understanding and peaceful place...I believe we are charged with being very selective about what we take on as "our work". On this journey, it has been my focus to take the lesson in gratitude, and release that which makes my heart sad, or uneasy. I think I like the "Just pray for them" default! It allows that each being has a journey, and yours is the one you are required to focus upon. It allows you to perceive, accept, and move forward! It also requires trust in your instinctual connection with the divine. I wish Ghandi could join in on this blog!  Now, everybody who is reading this blog - RUSH over and check out Debra Hadraba's video series - WHAT A TREAT! it will make you think! Love you Debra! Linda
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Aloha Beautiful Bell, you have brought to my attention such an important reminder that I am always (always, always) blessed with the option of course correction... As a very wise woman has taught us: Awareness Always Precedes Action Thank you for sharing your most personal strategies with us here. I have a secret for you... YOU ARE the change I wish to see in the world. Lots of LOVE, Linda
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Dearest Linda, To answer your question… “Am I BEING the Change I Wish to See?” My first thought was… I am in the process of BECOMING the Change I Wish to See… Taking one day at a time… Linda, I realize that my Life symbolizes how the heart beats… Ups & Downs… Ebbs & Flows… And when challenges occur, it’s “How” I bend with those interesting times in my Life... It’s “How” I respond to them that will determine being the Victim or Victor… Today on my Blog, I shared some “Words of Wisdom” from Eileen Caddy… “When you feel that you have reached the end and that you cannot go one step further, when life seems to be drained of all purpose – what a wonderful opportunity to start all over again, to turn over a new page.” by: Eileen Caddy And I shared… When I am drained & feel like I just can’t go on… I find a way to “Press On”… For me, it’s about being Aware of my Feelings… Allowing those Feelings to BE… Accepting what IS in that moment… While taking several deep breaths from my core… And realizing, I can make the decision to push the reset button to start over again & create a New Reality… “IF I CHOOSE TO”… So, no matter how many times I push the reset button, I know that I am making adjustments to continue My Journey to “Become the Change I Wish to See!” Linda, my dear Sister… Thank YOU for sharing this thought-provoking question… From my Heart to Yours, Bell Rushing Gentle Warrior
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Hi Dear Linda, I have heard time and again......"say a prayer for them" I would say ah yes of course good idea etc not really knowing the value or feeling motivated to do so..... Recently, I have come to understand what that means for me. When someone would say that, I felt as if it was something I had "to do". When in fact, it is the opposite. I do nothing but pray and turn it over to a power greater than myself whom I choose to call God. God Does for me what I cannot do for myself. Often times, the dynamic, the situation, my resentment, whatever the challenge goes away on its own or changes.... sometimes there is very little that i can do...so i have to let go....the person is "not ready" to hear me. letting go is the best possible thing i can do for myself as well as for others. I used to feel there was something I had" to do" always......almost like i had the power....I dont....which is a relief of sorts. I miss you.....I can see your smiling face in my minds eye....and you look fabulous darling!! Love, Debra
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Thanks, Linda, such an important issue. Such a perfect quote! It reminds me of my favorite Gandhi story: A mom brings her child to Gandhi and asks him to tell the child to stop eating candy. Gandhi says, "Bring him back next week." Next week she does, and Gandhi says to the child, "Stop eating candy." The mom says,"Why couldn't you have said that last week?" Gandhi says, "Last week, I was still eating candy." I don't think about conquering opponents. I guess that's one place I don't see things like Gandhi. Conquering, even through love, implies win/lose or up/down to me. I accept there will be those who will disagree with me. All I can do is truly listen to people who don't believe what I do and show them I understand what their position is, even if I don't agree with it, and respect them as persons. When people feel respected and heard, they tend to soften. I try to find common ground, underneath there is always something we agree on. I'm not in a strong enough place yet to take on really dangerous people, but fortunately, I haven't encountered any. All I know is that hate and anger hurt me more than the other, while I feel better when I have a more positive attitude and look for the gift in the situation. If all else fails, better forget it than seethe and add to the negative energy. To have soft thoughts, it helps me to recognize the needs and feelings people are coming from that I share. Generally, anything that upsets me in another is something that's also in me, so I think about, for example, how I must have done something similar to the driver who has annoyed me, and the reason for it was my own unhappiness or ungroundedness. There's a cute Southern custom when talking about someone you disapprove of, you say "Bless him." So I bless them and wish for their return to wholeness and my return to wholeness for being upset by them. I think this all relates to what we've been talking about in terms of energy and water and happiness as contagious. The study I talked about that showed that happy people influenced not just those around them, but people linked to those people, shows how by being positive we can have a positive influence and bring about change. And of course, vice versa. Bible that a soft answer turns away wrath, but I think that the softness has to come from strength. People sense energetic weakness. So it does come down to being the change you want to see. I need to be stronger and more loving and accepting. Giving up candy looks easy by comparison. Namaste, Hedy
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