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What We Don't Say

Posted Oct 12, 2009 01:21 PM
I have the dubious gift of a laser tongue.

In the plus column, that quality makes a lot of people laugh…and laughter, as we know, is the best medicine!:^O

In the minus column, if not monitored carefully, my words can land on tender spots and cause a lot of pain.

I never want to hurt another person. B'Dand... I know I have.

I feel that a large part of my purpose is allowing myself to beA Voice Of Encouragement”.
I first used that term way back during my college days and it has stuck with me.
Nothing feels better to me than to see another’s eyes sparkle at the realization that they CAN.

I believe that anything is possible.

I have learned that our obstacles are of our own making… all of the time. ( Personally, I had more than a few gray hairs before I could wrap my fragile psyche around that one…)

On this path we all share, and forge in our own way, each is at their individual point of reckoning and we on the outside cannot know what our fellow forgers have to manage internally. That is a very important thing to remember. Personally, I am challenged to place that knowing in front of my “talent” for laser response.

This morning, as I write this, I am reminded of the quote:
“Be kinder that necessary. You do not know what the other person is going through today.”

"Kind" is always a much higher service than "clever."

Having fun at anyone else’s expense is thoughtless and hurtful and never…NEVER justified.

As I continue my journey, I aspire to place my emphasis on being a "Voice Of Encouragement” even if I have to let an opportunity to crack up the room with a witticism go by…

We so often have an opportunity to live a higher purpose in what we don’t say.

BraveHeart thoughts?


Linda Carol Berry

LET IT BE FUN!
B-)

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3 Comments
Hi Linda,

Thank you for sharing this wonderful post with us. When I was growing up, I was always told, "Keep your words sweet; you may have to eat them." Over the years, I have had to eat quite a few of my own words. My takeaway lesson--think before you speak.

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, "Be silly. Be honest. Be kind." As a writer, I know there is a way to be silly, even witty, and yet kind. I also know there is a way to be honest and yet be kind. I have been wounded by hurtful words, so I know the importance of kindness.

Words are powerful tools--sharper than any two-edged sword. We can use them to cut, or we can use them to heal. I choose to use them to heal.

Thank you for this timely reminder.

Peace, blessings, and much love to you.

Diana

Phoenix Rising Writers' Corner
Dear Linda,

This is a really long quote but couldn't see a way to cut it down...very profound.

Michael Beckwith says in "Spiritual Liberation" about the Authentic Self,
"...When you realize that you are on the planet as a co-creative agent to fully express your unique identity, you are claiming that you are a distribution center for delivering what is happening throughout the cosmos: love, beauty, compassion, joy, creativity, harmony, peace. Challenges arise, but you relate to them in their proper context--as rich material to work with.

As you begin to love and appreciate yourself, you realize that all beings are an emanation of First Cause, and so it becomes natural to express compassion and forgiveness and pray for everyone to experience the glory of their existence."

"You begin to realize that how you see the world and what you experience are projections from your own consciousness. Equipped with this insight, you quit demanding that circumstances and people change, and instead you take self-responsibility and work within yourself for a transformation in consciousness."



This puts my ego in its place!!

With a Song in My Heart,


Kathy
One Voice
Yes Linda, You speak wise words.
The best way to lead is by an example, as not to do "do as I say not as I do"!
Actions speak louder than words!
The ones who do and say things to hurt are living in the shadows of wisdom, it may be our duty to shine the light and show them the path out of the shadows, but it's only up to them to follow that path, for it's up tp them to chose their destiny...
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