Where Did The Love Go?

This morning as I was taking a few moments to journal and to read - I had an AHA moment..

Whenever people are faced with changes in a relationship, they frequently ask themselves : Where did the love go?

I realized that love does not go anywhere. It has not evaporated... Just like the clouds that roll in to hide the sun, so do the moments of difficulty arise in relationships to obscure the love we once felt.

We must ask ourself what is permanent and what is temporary?

In the case of the sun and the clouds... the sun is permanent and the clouds, thunder and rain are temporary. However, it is inevitable and it is even a good thing for the clouds to come in...albeit at times it is darn inconvenient depending on what we have planned.

So in a case of a relationship, we must ask ourself: What is permanent in the relationship, and what on the other hand is inevitable and only temporary?

I would bet that I am not the only one who has already viewed at one point, the temporary creation of sorrow, grief, pain, anger, loneliness, as permanent and not as the temporary state it really is.

Just like we need to learn how to accept and flow with the weather changes, so we need to accept and learn how to flow with the temporary blows that occur in relationships. ( I am not referring here to cases of intentional harm/abuse that one human being inflicts on another - that is a completely different topic altogether).

Learning how to deal effectively with the changes that manifest in relationships is a skill we must all learn. And as we will do so, we will discover that love never really disappeared - it was always there - though it has transformed.

Love is part of a process that includes pain and sorrow. Resisting this can cause even greater sorrow. Yet, unless we learn this about love, we will not be able to take in the changes that life offers us, so that we can grow.

What else in life is temporary, and yet we may be led to believe that it is permanent?

Learn to Be Your Own Wizard.

Lynette
http://www.formulatomanifest.com