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Ritual Divas - Healing Within Is The First Step!

Posted Aug 29, 2010 10:25 PM
Hello Divas :-D

I just finished spending an afternoon researching education and parenting models, and once again the research points to a life lesson I learned several years ago... and that is "You cannot never give away what you do not own. One must be nurtured in order to nurture in return."

You see in many ways we have made leaps and bounds over the last 200 years when it comes to educating boys and girls, yet the next leap in evolution really depends on being able to let go of shaming and punishing... and being able to respect individual differences and unique interests.

However, in order to be able to do that for the young ones on this planet, we must first be able to do that for ourselves as adults. We must stop the blaming, the guilt, the shame that we put on ourselves and start to heal within.

Because when we are stressed, tired, overwhelmed, overworked, over stretched... it does not matter all the courses we have taken, all the knowledge we have accumulated... in the moment of stress, we will likely react the same way we were treated.

We need to learn to develop our emotional capacities - so that in turn we can cultivate that with our young ones.

Can you share what has worked for you in developing emotional capacity?

Cheers to manifesting more Joy, Internal Success and Abundance!;)

Lynette
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Dearest Barb,

Thank You for stopping by, and sharing with us your valuable insights in regards to emotions and choices... it's profound and I am grateful.

Like yourself, with the years of experience, learning to master my emotions has saved me much grief.

Secondly recognizing when to make a choice that allows for healthy respectful boundaries has also been very life enhancing. Boundary setting continues to be a work in progress at this time and I have come to see that it is an issue that we must learn and cultivate - most are not born with this skill.

Barb, may you have a week filled with moments of grace and Essence based flow experiences.

Your BH sister,

Lynette
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Dear Lynette,

Thank you for sharing ... :-x ...

YOU are a very wise and experienced woman and your wisdom and experience are demonstrated often in your Blogs ... :-D ...


Many times important things deserve to be addressed through MOs (modus operandi) and SOPs (standard operating procedures) ... I strive daily to instruct people in these regards as they establish effectiveness and efficiency in reaching goals ... Work gets done as it needs to be ... Sometimes requests need to be made not once, but several times ... I often persist till I stop ... IF I choose to stop, it is not a good thing for anyone concerned because it expresses my decision to no longer try to communicate about something or to someone who seems unable to "get it" ...

In that context, it is not about "blame or shame," it IS about choices ... We ALL have them and that IS what makes freedom sooooo important in the lives we ALL live ... We ALL get to choose ...

Where either party feels disrespected ... it does NOT work ... I know as I face these challenges sometimes and what I choose to do is take a "time out" ... to reflect ... to research ... to ponder ... What I decide in the final analysis weighs as many factors as I am able to weigh so that no one is disrespected in my decision ... B-) ...

That IS my MO ... I try hard to inform others of SOPs ... I repeat my requests where repetition is needed or seems to be ... and then I decide when my input is disregarded ...

I say everyone deserves at least two times to conform to SOPs ... a third time is a "gift" ... After that, IF there is no reason for the failure to honor my requests ... I make decisions that need to be made ...

In my view, emotions are kept out of such decision making as much as possible ... In the moment of anger or frustration ... emotions are present, but for me personally ... I have lived long enough and experienced sufficiently that decisions that are critical and meaningful are always made with the mind and not the emotions ...

I hope this helps all who choose to read this ... Life is complex ... Life is time ... And, ALL of our time is valuable ... We ALL get to choose how we spend that time ...

With an abundance of gratitude, respect, love, and many blessings ... :-x ...

Aloooha pume hana, my dear BHW Sister ... :-x ...

Barb
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