Most of us have dissatisfactions in our lives at times. However, as much as we wish things were different, we are still resistant to doing something about it to change the dissatisfaction. Change is difficult for many people--especially those of us who grew up in dysfunctional families; simply because we like to stay in our comfort zone.
Most of us do not like to feel uncomfortable because it feels good to have that feeling of security and things being the same as dysfunctional as it may be. It gives us a sense of knowingness that we know how things stand; and we like that.
We prefer things to be safe and secure. Even little changes that we choose for ourselves can often require months of emotional adjustment-- like having a baby or moving to a new area. However, when change happens that's out of our control such as being laid off from a job or a partner asking for a divorce; we often feel overwhelmed. In addition, when the world economic structure falls apart, like it has recently, it can look like an insurmountable crisis.
When you're not aware, change can make you feel worried, stressed, and uncomfortable. RELAX!
On an unconscious level, change can make you feel vulnerable and out of control, which reminds you of negative experiences from childhood when you were small and vulnerable. If you're not aware, you can unknowingly go into defensive, reactive behavior, expecting the worst and protecting yourself from your perceived enemies.
Fortunately, with awareness you can transform those negative responses. You can choose, instead, to see change as a gift which can “change the course of your life”. In addition, by making that choice, you can open to the amazing opportunities that change offers you and that is to-- learn and grow in the process.
So, what can you do when the world you know falls apart? Why not learn to ride the waves of life instead of trying to control everything? Yeah, that’s right—don’t resist.
Two of the things that you can do to make peace with change are:
1. Surrender and let the Universe take charge of your life. The Universe knows much better than us what will be for our best and highest good.
2. Stay open to the life lessons that the Universe wants to teach you. The Universe always wants you to learn about self-acceptance, self-esteem, and self-actualization. In other words, let yourself trust that everything is in divine order for your life.
Whatever you do, don't forget to stay open to the good the Universe has in store for you. When you look back ten years from now, you may be saying, "Even though I thought that the world had turned upside down; those were the best years of my life!"
Change is always working for our good!
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