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Will I bother someone, What if I fail, what if I succeed?

Posted Feb 7, 2010 05:19 PM

Aloha BraveHeart Sisters,

 

Many of us have experienced that we sometimes unconsciously undermine
our own dreams...

 

I am inspired to share with you a process to bring you deeper into clarity.

 

In my recent blog, Helen talked about how fear stops her from being
committed to her purpose by causing her to worry about such things as:
"will I bother someone, what if I fail, what if I succeed"? I am sure many of us
can relate to these fears and probably add a few more to the list.

 

I know one that comes up for me is the fear of being shamed.

What are the fears that arise for you?

 

Let"s do this exploration together:

 

Sit in a comfortable position. Close your eyes. Gently bring your awareness within.
Listen to the sound of your in breathe and the sound of your out
breathe. Allow your awareness to be with your breathing as you take 3 more
breathes. Now ask yourself who would I be if I lived a purposeful life?

 

Visualize or write who this person is in as much detail as you can, take your time.
How would you dress, how would you walk, how would you talk, how would you feel
about yourself, how would you relate to others, what would you do differently?

 

These are some questions to answer, you may think of others. Paint your picture
in your mind or on a piece of paper. The picture may be the written, it may be
images, poetry, music. Allow whatever arises for you to be expressed. Take about
10 minutes to do this. Now sense yourself and see how you are impacted.

 

Please, share your experience with us. By doing this exploration you will be
motivated to allow these old patterns to dissolve and choose new patterns
that serve who you truly are, not who you think others want you to be in
order for you to get their love and approval.

 

 



p.s. Please join me in the 'Sisterhood of Clarity' where we dissolve
the blocks that get in the way... Click Here

Together we will grow in clarity,

Radha
8 Comments
Aloha Rebecca,
You are so right, fear is almost always mentally created and driven. Awareness that we are in fear is also clarity. Once we realize this we can begin to explore and learn more about the fear. Together we will grow in clarity, Radha
HI Radha
As I read your title it made me think about so what if I fail,have I really failed or have I gained wisdom, knowledge and experience from my "failure"? We often have fear for no real good reason. Most fear is self manifested....unless we are in real danger of injury or death...fear is in our own creation. Of course we all experience fear and the "clarity" comes when we are "aware" of why we have the fear and look for ways of "clarity".

Rebecca Hofeldt
Horse Lovers - Free Spirit
Aloha Debra,
Your clarity allows you to know that all your fears have two sides, it could not be any other way. Any thought that arises from our limited mind will be dualistic, unlike the awareness that arises from our intuition which is based in "knowing". Together we will grow in clarity, Radha
Aloha Debroah,
You have touched on a most important "clarity snap", the "crockpot" is made of those blocks that are melting away. Our mind often judges the content and ourselves for what's in the pot. Patience and trust will give the needed cooking time and the transformation that will result will be delightful. Together we will grow in clarity, Radha
Aloha Angeliis,
I always find the idea of "fear of the unknown" interesting because under that fear is a scary story which each of us need to get clarity on. Even if the story is about lose of control, because we don't know what will happen. The truth is we never know what is going to happen, we make believe we do so we don't have to understand what we are afraid of.
I agree acceptance is a life's work. It is often easier to accept what we like about ourselves rather than what we don't like. This is conditional acceptance, not true acceptance. To truly accept myself includes all of the parts of myself, my limitations as well as my capacities. Transformation happens when I embrace all of me.
Together we will grow in clarity, Radha
Dearest Radha,

Fear of being told I'm crazy or stupid....coupled with the flip.....fear of succeeding. The interesting thing I have noticed about my fears is that I have the yin and yang of them all. I always have the equal and opposite fear. HMMM! and I don't know quite why. I have an idea that my mind or heart are arguing sometimes.

Thank you for all of your inspiring thought provoking posts!

Love:-x

Debra
The Honor Your TruthCommunity

Fear is dissolving in the "crockpot" one ounce at a time. Smile I appreciate your thought provoking blogs that illuminate my awareness to greater intentions to focus on positive thinking.

 

 

Deborah Akridge (Deja):) 

 

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February 8, 2010

Key To Emotional Wellness

 

Well...I think FEAR is definitely a culprit for many. Myself included. The fear of the unknown is usually what holds most back. Once fear is faced and if a positive result is achieved then one feels confident and excited and reassured. Acceptance is another biggy. I think ALL humans like to feel accepted. There are just some of us who are content with accepting ourselves by "knowing who we are" and being confident in that fact and don't let others views affect us. but that is not easy for all to do.

To answer some of your questions above.. Who would I be etc.. I would be MEEEEEEEEE haha with a little more spice haha..I would ditch fear,insecurity and the feeling of being ashamed if I make a blunder.. However I do think we experience those particular feelings because they teach us something and help us to grow..so sometimes it is necessary to experince. I would walk confidently, dress any way I wanted ..haha whatever fit the mood or desire at the time..and I would relate very lovingly, compassionate and accepting of others...with some boundries if they affected me negatively but would never treat them mean or cruel.
What would I do differently? I would not allow others to hold me back from achieving my goals or fully being true to who I am. But I also think thats part of lifes journey..Is to figure out who you are along the way...and life experiences teach us just that. :) In fact I really think its lifes experiences that give us clearer view..or what you would call clarity. Oh and one more thing.. something I would do differenlty would be..I would have a career...but one not just for monatary purposes..but for truly what I love to do. Currently that would be to write poems all day ..Honest..I just love it.

Angeliis
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