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Do You Live In A Stressful State Of Dis-ease?

Posted Apr 18, 2011 03:05 PM
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Have you ever used self-rejection to motivate you to do more, do better or be different? Clarity shows you the affects of self-rejection on your mind, emotions and physical body.

Many of you feel the only way to motivate yourself is to criticize yourself using comparison, perfectionism, or telling yourself you are not good enough in the hope you will perform at the level that you desire or to stop behaviors you know are unhelpful.

Clarity shows you that this does not work, in fact, what it does do is make you have low self-esteem, low self-confidence, feel angry, irate, or devalued. In time these feelings and thoughts cause you to live in a stressful state of dis-ease. Your bodies react to these negative emotional and mental states by contracting and holding tension, which in time can become pains in the neck, shoulders, stomach or head.

Let’s do the clarification process to get the clarity snaps you need to dissolve the block of self-rejection that is having these negative impacts on you.

Sit in a comfortable upright position, close your eyes, relax your face and your shoulders and listen to the sound of 9 in breaths and 9 out breaths.

Bring the following question inside as you listen to the sound of your breathing.

How does using self-rejection affect my emotions, mind, and body.

Remember to keep your awareness in your body. Clarity snaps come in the form of body sensations, thoughts, pictures, images and words.

Trust your first answer.
Great!

Remember, even if you change your behavior using self-rejection, it will be temporary and in time you will sabotage your efforts by feeling overwhelmed, disorganized, tired or resistant.

Clarity shows you that it is only when you accept yourself with loving kindness that you are motivated to make permeate change.

It is never too soon to dissolve the blocks that get in our way. I invite you to join me in the 'Sisterhood of Clarity' where we dissolve the blocks that get in the way. Click Here


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11 Comments
Aloha Captain,
Hurray for you.:-x
Here's to clarity, Radha
I used to wonder what would motivate me once I stopped feeling guilty and failure. So you are right self-rejection was a motivator.

Until recently, I wondered, how do I love myself? I know I am supposed, and I didn't know how..... I have discovered just how! I have tapped into my Talents, Abilities and GIfts. By filling myself up with me, who I am really, I have filled many of the holes inside. I know what it means to love myself truly and more consistently. Whooppie.
Aloha Barb,
I am touched and grateful by your acknowledging that I have helped you. It is my purpose and passion to assist people in coming into clarity and alleviating their suffering.
Together we are growing in clarity, Radha
Dear Radha,

Thank you for sharing ... :-x ...

I had intended to revisit this Blog post and comment ... but ... my daily requirements have kept me from doing so till now ...

For me, personally, it has never been about "self-rejection" ... I received early feedback in my life that spared me that feeling ...

Where my challenge lies is in trying to change things for the BETTER ... and recognizing what a challenge that can be ...

"Fear and Greed" motivate far too many ... and though they have never motivated me (maybe "fear" on occasion, but never greed) ... I have had to justify my "existence" amongst many who do ... B-) ... Yikes! ...

My fibromyalgia and the reasons for it are no secret to me ... But ... my desire to bring my knowledge base to those who CAN benefit from it has been the challenge ... I have worked long and hard to accumulate the knowledge base I possess and passing it on to those who I love is very important to me ... But ... people need to be ready to receive ... as Salanda sooo eloquently points out in her Blog post today ... :-x ...

Vindication is near ... I CAN feel it ... HOW to get there, though ... that IS the question ...

BTW, I hope you understand where I am coming from and I hope that you saw my Blog post or a response post where I tried to explain our interaction of a few months ago ... If not, do feel free to reach out ...

I can be impatient (and I DO apologize for that) and I DO know what I am searching for ... and I will recognize it when I find it ... The complexities of the environment I am required to navigate would take too long to explain ... that more than anything else made me go back to my coach from my past ...

A solid foundation makes "self-rejection" something one does not need to deal with ... that is my personal belief in any case ...

Working hard to establish "solid foundations" is what I would encourage my BHW Sisters to strive for ... Nothing TRULY worthwhile ever comes easy ... Hard work IS its own reward ...

My life goal has a bit to do with helping others recognize that basic fact ... "Quiet but effective" is what Governor George Ariyoshi of Hawaii used as his slogan and mantra ... I align with that notion ...

Maybe that IS why I love blogging so much ... I share a side of me people rarely see ... Hmmm ... ;) ...

YOU have helped me a lot ... and that is the bottom line of this response post ... I just needed to find the time and the manner in which to tell you so ... Thank YOU! ... :-x ...

With much gratitude, sincere respect, my love, and many blessings ... :-x ...

Aloha pume hana,

Barb
Radha,

I think I'll copy thiis and frame it for my desk: " I find it takes less effort to be my best friend than my worst enemy."

I love it.

Chickee
Aloha Chickee,
Everything worth while takes effort, in time I find it takes less effort to be my best friend than my worst enemy.:-x
Here's to clarity, Radha
You're so right on about this issue, Radha. I was brought up this way, and I had to learn that though it did motivate me, it didn't make me happpy. Once I realized this, I set about changing it. Takes work, but it's worth it!

Chickee :)
Aloha Everlasting,
I appreciate your transparency, we are all on a journey of removing the blocks and learning how to be truly compassionate and kind to ourselves. ;)
Together we are growing in clarity, Radha
Aloha Langford,
I love your quote and to do this we need to be kind to ourselves first.
Here's to clarity, Radha:-x
You know, sometimes I think I'm not because I watch what I eat, I workout regularly. But what I realize is even limiting thoughts leads to dis-ease. Thoughts of doubt, worry, fear no matter how subtle it may appear. So I have to admit, as a practitioner of holistic health, I am not truly free of dis-ease.
Beautifully put

Peace & love be with us while we each cultivate ways, "we must be kind to our fellow man"

Thank you
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