2x4 Therapy For The 21st Century

There are many psychological and environmental influences that determine how an individual responds to a crisis. In the workplace powerful persuaders include: 1) the level of initiative allowed by the immediate supervisor and 2) the prevailing attitude of the employer regarding the outcome of previous crises.

Often, however, the first consideration by an employee is the degree of responsibility...

How do most people deal with a crisis? The best approach, of course, is to cope effectively and to learn from the experience. This requires learning and using your crisis skills, of course, and we will be discussing these skills later.

The second approach, which is quite common, is that of the survivor. The survivor has primarily learned to shut off his or her emotions and concentrate solely on...

As we get ready to start the New Year, most people are talking about new beginnings. I’d like to take a back door approach and talk about crises. Why? Because new beginnings can summon up a lot of crises in our lives!

Just mentioning that you're in a crisis can conjure up all sorts of negative or disaster-related thoughts and feelings even for the listener. That's because we generally view a...

This was the other half of yesterday's post on 7 Ways To Fire Up Your Life. To those of you who match the score at the end, the conclusion may sound a bit negative, but it is true. 

Do you have trouble achieving your goals? Do you feel like you have to stay on red alert just to maintain what you have? Then you need to take this quiz...

1. YES or NO  - When your dream starts to spit and sputter ...

1. STOKE YOUR FURNACE!

Wood must be added to a fire for it to continue to burn. If your life resembles a dying fire, find some positive idea, person, or interest on which to focus your attention.

2. EXPLOIT YOUR WEAKNESSES

Weak muscles in your body respond to exercise and become stronger. Weak parts of your psychology are no different.

3. ANSWER THE QUESTION:  What would I do if nothing stood...

Guest Blogger: My husband, John Williamsen...

For many years, I wasn't ready to admit that a visit home for the holidays traumatized me so badly that even after returning home, I was in a dark mood for days and sometimes weeks. I often justified my state of mind by blaming it on the long drive home or the pressure of catching up at work. But then I heard something from Ed Rabel that opened my ...

I had an experience the other day that was uplifting. I was sitting in a restaurant when I saw a car back into another car. On impulse, I wrote down the license plate number. When I realized they were going to drive off, I gave the license # to the waitress in case they could discover the owner of the car that was struck. In a few minutes, a man came to my table. He thanked me and asked if I would give him my name and phone number.

Later that night, his wife called. She was so grateful—not so much for the sake of the car because there was no obvious damage—she was grateful for another reason. She said I had restored her faith in people because she didn't think anyone cared enough anymore to take the time to do what I did or get involved. She was all choked up. It took so little on my part, but look what a difference it made in her life!

So, when you go out today, think about the little things. Open a door for someone, smile at others. You never know—it might be the one act that helps them change their attitude about life.

All the best on your quest!

Dannye Williamsen
MindSlap!
2x4 Therapy for the 21st Century

Yes, Virginia, there is a system in place that you cannot see that has brought to you all the things you've experienced in your life. That system is not controlled by others. It is controlled by you because it is your creative birthright.

Those who tell you otherwise are wrong. They have been affected by the belief that they are so small that nothing they do could possibly impact the Universe. [continued]

Could something as simple as breaking tradition change your life? Well, I have to admit that something like having chili on Thanksgiving instead of turkey probably won't have an immediate impact on your life; however, it could certainly whet your appetite for the freedom of making your own choices about what you want to do in your life.

All too often we do what everyone else expects of us despite having a strong desire to do something else. We go to our parents' house for Christmas when what we really want is to have a nice romantic Christmas alone with our significant other for once. We keep participating in some activity that we've lost our passion for because others expect us to...when all along we just want to experience the freedom to do what would nurture us.

So, why does something like eating chili on Thanksgiving instead of turkey matter? It matters if you are consciously doing it to break loose from the hold that others' expectations have on you. Are you ready to take the chance of upsetting the apple cart (and all that goes with it!) in order to make choices for yourself? Even if you decide to follow-through on others' expectations, but you have consciously and honestly made the decision that you enjoy doing whatever it is—that it gives you joy—then you have made an important shift that contributes to your growth.

In this journey of life, it is important as I say in Metaphysical Minute to make sure when life comes calling that you consume life rather than letting it consume you. When you are ruled by what others expect from you, you are letting life consume you. You cannot grow spiritually if you continue to do this. No matter what your choices, the driving force behind them cannot be anything that feels "one-down."

So, whet your appetite for freedom and make a move today in some area of your life to consume life by taking back your power.

All the best on your quest!

Dannye Williamsen
MindSlap!
2x4 Therapy for the 21st Century

Are you looking for the gift in your problems? Are you taking a moment to climb out of your frustration, your fear, your anger, or your disappointment? If you do, I can't guarantee you'll never have problems again. In fact, I guarantee just the opposite! Those problems you have are designed to make life sweeter—but only if you step out of them long enough to appreciate their value.

All the best on your quest!

Dannye Williamsen
MindSlap!
2x4 Therapy for the 21st Century

Spiritual Psychology for Life and Business. In my new blog titled "2x4 Therapy For The 21st Century," we talk about the day-to-day thoughts and feelings you have, how they influence your life experiences and how you work through the process to change the life you’re living. That's it in a nutshell.

If you want to understand the link between your inner world and your outer, but you’re not looking for a guru and you don’t want to dig through complex labels or pay big bucks for seminars, then this is the place for you!

Join me. I'd love to have you along for the ride! I hope to post previews of my blog posts here.

Dannye Williamsen
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Do you have a “fast food” mentality when it comes to your spirituality? Sometimes it feels like we live in a drive-thru society even when it comes to educating yourself about personal growth. Just grab it and go! Unfortunately, there’s no such thing as a quick fix. No one else can do the work of change for you.

You should learn the basic concepts, but there is no 1-2-3, and everything’s fixed.

This is the point at which your growth as an individual begins. It involves the recognition, acceptance, coordination and integration of your subpersonalities in order to create a personality that expresses in a mutually beneficial manner. However, this is only part of the process of synthesis.

Synthesis is about carrying the same integration that is being achieved at the level of one’s

Coordinating your subpersonalities was about changing their “states of mind.” The fourth stage of integrating involves the relationships between subpersonalities and ultimately how these relationships influence your overall state of mind and behavior.

Lack of harmony manifests in conflict, competition, and perhaps isolation. So it is important to recognize that although you may feel that you

The third stage of harmonizing your subpersonalities is coordination. Coordinating them requires that you recognize that each subpersonality has at its core a simple need that is good.

In order to coordinate these diverse subpersonalities, however, you will need to embrace each one to understand what its need is. Then you will need to use reason, communication, and compassion to discover a

How much would you pay for a service that nudged you every time you lost your temper, let someone's remarks deflate you, snapped at someone for no reason, started spiraling downward into depression, or put yourself down? Sound great? It would be a little like having an angel on your shoulder, wouldn’t it?

The bad news is—there's no such service out in the world anywhere. The good news is—you are