Alice McCarthy

Commitment, what is it?

It is making a promise to yourself, trusting in
your choices, believing in you, and following through!

What ever it is in your life that you commit to, make sure that
it is very important to you, or you will break that commitment.

It is just human nature.

Someone that is committed will go through the storm to get
to their goal.

If they are not committed, the rain will stop them or any other
little obstacle that may come their way.

Before you commit to anything, be sure that you are committed to yourself.

Being committed to yourself means you are determined to build
the life you want.

You are willing to do what ever needs to be done to get
healthy, be successful, and to be comfortable in life.

This is very important.

Take a good long hard look at yourself, and know where you
are now and where you want to go.

This applies to all areas of your life.

It could be getting a job, getting married, working for
yourself, or as simple as going on a trip.

You must believe that you can get there without the slightest
bit of doubt to pull you off track.

To stay committed you will have to put your blinders on
and stay with it, your destination is straight ahead,
but only if you stay focused on your promise.

It is a choice, the choice you chose to commit yourself
to no matter what.

You will never make it to your destination if you change
paths often.

You must be willing to, go over, go under, go around
and through the rocks.

Remember, a commitment is a promise you made to yourself.

Before you make a promise to yourself, search your heart,
really think about it, and make sure you are committed
and willing to stick with it till you reach your goal.

Now the commitment has been made, the promise is there,
now what?

Now you have to line up your actions with that promise,
and stay away from all actions that will steer you away
from that promise.

There will be many temptations along the path to your goal.

Write them down, and ask yourself are these temptations
worth taking me away from my promise to myself.

Often they are not, but sometimes they are.

If you find a commitment you have to end do so with honor.

I wish you much success along your journey.

Alice McCarthy

What do you dream about?

What vision do you see and is it strong?

If you romance your dreams often, and stay

completely focused with blinders on… your dreams

will become your reality.

You will have dreams that come and fade out of

your mind.. and then totally disappear.

These dreams either were not meant to be, or

you gave up on them.

Think back when you were a little boy or girl…

everything was possible.

Life was magical, when did you start letting those

dreams go?

You asked for that ice cream, a doll, or a truck till you

got it

That is the same drive you must find RIGHT now to

make your dreams come true.

The moment you REALLY connect to your vision, or

dream, it now becomes your purpose.

So what is your dream, can you see it, taste it, smell it?

Can you tell me every detail of your dream?

It has to be clear to motivate you to your goal.

So now do you have the picture clear in your mind where

you are going?

You can’t get there by yourself, time to put your ego away

and allow the people that are brought into your life to help

you along the way.

Hold on tight to your dreams my friend,

Alice McCarthy

Write it down, write it down, write it down.

Goals, dreams, wants, desires, your stories
and thoughts should all be recorded in a
journal.

Any thoughts that make you stop…should be
written down, leave nothing to your memory.

The chances are greater when you write them down
for them to happen.

It’s also fun to look back at your journal and see
what has come into your world.

Some more ideas for your journal:

1. Your Purpose

2. Your Why

3. Books you want to read

4. Things that inspire you

5. Lessons you have learned

6. Quotes that move you

7. Songs that inspire you

Your journal is special and will become one
of your favorite possessions.

It is your life…and it is worth recording.

A simple way to journal is to buy a three
ring binder with lose lined paper and tabs.

As your thoughts appear always have
paper with you to write them down.

Then simply place them in your binder
where you feel they belong.

Use the tabs to organize your journal.

Now start capturing your life!

Alice McCarthy

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We have all heard that our choices create our life.

While there is some truth there, it really is the choices that

others make about you that shape your life.

Think about it…we are always trying to get others to pick

us for a job, a spouse, a friendship, a business partner, or

just to win a contest.

Choices are made everyday about you, and sometimes

they just don’t seem fair!

Your spouse decides to begin a life with someone else, your

best friend chooses to end your friendship, your child decides

they like your spouse better, and your potential business

partners or partners decide to join someone else.

You can influence their choices, but they have the final

say.

When choices are made they shape someones life.

We all make choices everyday…we decide to open or

close the door to others and to opportunities.

It boils down to listening, believing and value.

First you have to get others to really listen to you.

This isn’t so easy with so much noise out there.

Now they have to make a choice to accept what you say

as truth.

Think about it, you hear many things throughout your

day, and only accept a few as truth.

You must be believable and it might take several times

before they really believe you…that is just human nature.

Last is value…what they think you can offer them.

If you get people to listen to you, and they believe you,

but they don’t see value in what you have to offer, they

will seek someone else out.

That being said…you are not for everyone and everyone

is not for you.

Keep going, keep offering what you have and the ones that

are to be with you will choose YOU!

Alice McCarthy

We know we are what we eat and our mind is what we feed it!

Whatever you let into your mind, will become how you think.

To keep your brain active you must feed it good information.

Like your body...you can feed it empty fuel or power fuel...it

is a choice we make everyday.

You have heard a mind is a terrible thing to waste.

Those simple choices we make everyday, create who we

become, how we feel, how we look at life, and ultimately

those choices become the road map of our life!

So how is that map going for you?

Pull over, examine your map.

If you are traveling in the right direction keep going, if not, make

a detour into the right direction.

Feed your mind and body with power food, keep your vision

very close, hug it tight, now start traveling down that road...

your destination is straight ahead!

Alice McCarthy

Do you love what you are doing?
Until you do, you will continue
to struggle.
Find out what it is about
what you are pursuing,
that is holding you back.
Find a quiet place, take a
notebook with you... and now:

1. Write down 10 things you like
about your journey.

2. Write down 10 things you dislike
about your journey.

Look at the things you dislike and find
a solution to getting around them.
If you are not willing to, your journey
is not going to be an easy one.

Look at the things you like and make
a plan to fall in love with the process.

You do not have to love everything
about the journey, just as you don't
love everything about your spouse.
You will have to learn to live with the
things you do not like, or you go your
separate ways.

Until you fall in love, you will continue
to struggle and the pursuit will suck
the energy and money out of you.

P.S. I Love You!

Alice McCarthy

http://alicemccarthyonline.com

We all know of someone that seems to
attract customers and friends with no
effort. We use words such as drawn, we
say that people are drawn to him or her.
Now, you can’t force people to like you,
but if you give them the right food they
will come to you.
If you put a can of cat food on your back
door step…you know you will draw all the
cats and other animals that like the smell
to your door step.
With these three basic foods, people will
be attracted to you also.
Now, nice people do not necessarily attract
everyone. You can be the nicest person in
the world, but if you do not offer the food
they are hungering for, they will not be your
friend. Sometimes, being around nice people
makes some feel uncomfortable, guilty and
inferior. With that being said, here are the
three basic (A) foods people hunger for.
Once you understand what is behind them
more people will warm up to you.

1. Acceptance ~ We all want to be accepted
for who we are. We want to be around others
we can be relaxed with. Kick our shoes off,
drink right out of the milk carton. We don’t
like to be around judgmental people with a
solution to everything. These people repel
others. Let people be who they are, if they
are a little strange, let them be! Don’t insist
everyone does things your way…there are
many ways to do things. People that accept
others as they are, have the most influence
in that persons life.

2. Approval ~ Approval goes much beyond
acceptance. In acceptance we accept others
with all their faults and still call them friends.
Approval means we have to find something
positive about the other person…it goes
beyond just tolerating their faults. Now, we
can find things we like and things we don’t
like in all our friends. It depends on what it
is you are looking for. If you are a negative
person you are always looking for things you
can disapprove of. If you are a positive person
you are always looking for things to approve of.
No one is perfect. Find something to approve of
in others and you will attract and keep more
friends.

3. Appreciation ~ Finding value in others. Let
others know how much you appreciate them.
Find ways to show them just how important
they are to you. Don’t keep people waiting,
answer them as soon as possible. Make sure
you thank people, even send them a little note.
Treat people with respect…make them feel
special. Now, when you treat someone special
make sure it is not the same way you treat
others, because let’s say it was that special
note you sent out to them…and they saw you
sent the same note to someone else, the value
is no longer there.
If you study the people that are attracting others
you will see they are offering the basic things
that others are hungry for.

Like A Bee To A Flower,

Alice McCarthy

http://alicemccarthyonline.com

A real sincere smile works like “magic”.
Think of all the people you know that
are easy to get to know…they all smile
and laugh a lot. People that smile give
joy to others and you want to be around
them. A smile says ” I like you”, ” I am
approachable”, “Let’s be friends”,.
A true smile comes from the heart! You
cannot just go through the motions of
a smile on your face…it doesn’t work.
If you want your smile to be a friend
maker, it must come from deep inside of
you. Imagine yourself smiling from the
inside..you can’t feel friendly and hostile
at the sometime.
A smile can change your mood from sad
to happy. Think about it…a total stranger
walks by you and gives you a warm, sincere
smile, it makes you feel good. A child smiles
at you and lifts your day…try it!
Now, lets go for a big smile. Some of us do
not smile because we were taught not to
show how we feel. Or maybe you think you
do not have a nice smile. We all were
blessed with a great smile. It is within
you…the question is are you willing to let
it out?
Use your mirror everyday to bring your
smile out. Look in the mirror and think
about something that makes you very
happy and let go. Now you see the real
smile that will say to others ,”I am
friendly”. It may sound silly and too
simple, but it works…try it! If you have
trouble at first, keep trying, maybe say
the word cheese, get the muscles
warmed up. Remember, our actions bring
out our feelings, just as our feelings bring
out our actions.
A genuine smile works wonders. Ask a
friend a favor with a smile and they most
likely will do the favor. Give a smile to a
stranger, and they feel like they have
known you for a while. The smile MUST
be a real smile…fake will not do, you may
as well not smile at all if you do not mean
it…they can tell.
Do not be afraid to be the first one to
smile, assume the the other person is
friendly, you will be right most of the time.
Sometimes, they are not friendly, you
cannot do anything about that, don’t let
that hold your smile back. Start today,
practice your smile, you know what a
real smile looks like.
Relax, and make smiling a habit!

Let Your Smile Out,

Alice McCarthy
http://alicemccarthyonline.com

Remember the Etch – A – Sketch toy we had when
we were young?
Etch – A- Sketch is a red-framed plastic toy with a
screen on which you draw a picture by turning a
couple of knobs. When done drawing a picture you
just shake it up and start over. This is a good example
of what you can do to change your life. Reflect on
your life, and the things you do not like, it is time to
shake it up. It is up to you to create the life you want.
Let go of the past, let go the the images that are
holding you back. You can make a new vision as often
as you need to. Keep your goals high, work on you…
not others. Do not be afraid to be yourself and go
against popular wisdom. Be true to yourself…and shake
up your life whenever necessary.

Alice McCarthy

http://alicemccarthyonline.com

Interesting talk is simpler than you think.
Many people have great topics they just
do not know how to bring it up in their
conversation, and feel a fear of being
seen as dull or simple, when they
start off a conversation with obvious
things such as “Well, it looks like it might
rain.”
Many conversations will never start,
because people are afraid to say the
wrong thing, be too obvious, insincere
or even unworthy.
Your conversations will flow freely when
you take the chains off your heart and
let your tongue free. Be yourself, stop
trying to be perfect….no one is perfect.
When you relax and are not worried about
every word that comes out of your mouth,
the gems come flying out.
Most of us have a mental picture of what
is expected of us…let it go! Simple talk isn’t
suppose to be brilliant, and many think that
simple talk is well…too simple.
Everyone engages in “small Talk” you don’t
have to be clever. Here are some examples
in the beginning stages of your conversation
“No, really?”, “You don’t say”, “well, now!”,
“That’s interesting”, “Well, what do you know
about that?
In about half of all conversations, even the
most interesting…what is being said is
meaningless at least in the beginning.
After the warm up stage, then the wheels
begin to spin and the conversation takes
on a life of it’s own.
Remember, small talk is necessary, don’t be
afraid of being dull, and you will find that you
too can start a conversation even with total
strangers.
Keep it simple, strike a conversation, the fire
burns small (small Talk) examples, “What is
your name?”, “Where are you from?”, Do you
have a family?”, How many children do you
have?”, “What does your spouse do?”, these
are just a few…nothing too clever, but they
do melt the ice for the conversation to flow.
Simple right? Well, so simple many think there
must be more to great conversations. Get the
other person talking, simple talk, talk about
them…people love to talk about themselves.
They will warm up and give you the green light
for the conversation to continue on.

Keep it simple,

Alice McCarthy
http://alicemccarthyonline.com

No matter who or what created your present circumstances,

from this moment on you control your own destiny.

You have the freedom to imagine the future that you desire.

Now that you are taking control of your life...you must also

take the blame from this moment on.

When things go wrong in your life and business you look for

reasons as to why...and it is never your fault.

It is a lot easier to blame it on something other than yourself.

The blame game is an ego game, you are defending your

present place in business and life. You are at your present

place in life right now due to the influence of others.

Regardless of how you got to where you are, you own it!

It is your story, building a better future takes determination,

dedication, and courage. If you are committed to a better life

and business, the blame game must stop NOW!

It's time to face it, our parents, teachers, and preachers did

the best they could. Nobody has a perfect childhood or life.

We have all had challenges to overcome. The windshield of a car

is larger than the rear view mirror because you are suppose to

spend more time looking where you are going, than where

you have been. Life and business are the same...look at where

you are going instead of where you have been. Stop defending

and explaining why your business isn't working and take

responsibility for it and work on changing it. You have more

control over tomorrow than you do over yesterday.

Look at where you are right now...this is the place that

you need to grow from right now! Refer to your past

just don't live there or it will be very hard to build a better life!

If you look for reasons to stay where you are they are all around you.

If you want to change let go of the past and improve your choices.

It's your choice, remain stuck or move forward. A successful life

is nothing more than a series of successful choices.

Watch your thoughts and be careful who you let influence you.

You may already be an entrepreneur, or just beginning
on your journey. Building your business may at times
feel very lonely, because you have found the courage to
build your dreams and sail into the open waters. That is
why there is so much opportunity to have your dreams
comes true.
When you picture your unique vision of your business,
realize that your vision is unique. No one else will ever
have the exact same vision as you. No one else has ever
walked in your shoes…and no one else can deliver your
message in the same way.
You will succeed in your business by marketing your
uniqueness, that only you can bring to the table.

Market you and not your business. People join people
not companies. Forget about competition, there is none.
You are the only you there is. Get your vision and set
your sail. Give yourself permission to be different from
everyone else. This means living in your authentic self.
Allow people to see who you are, instead of playing it
safe behind the many hats of the ego. Release the need
for approval. The only approval you need is your own.
Do not worry about what others think of you. If you let
what others think of you affect you, you will never sail
very far out into the open waters. Be yourself, have
fun, and I wish you much success my friend!

Alice McCarthy

Commitment, what is it?
It is trustworthy, can always be counted on and is
always there.
What ever it is in your life that you commit to,
make sure that it is very important to you, or you
will break that commitment. Someone that is
committed will go through the storm to get to
their goal. If they are not committed, the rain will
stop them or any other little obstacle that may
come along. Before you commit to anything, be
sure that you are committed to yourself.
Being committed to yourself means you are
determined to build the life you want. You are
willing to do what ever needs to be done to get
healthy, be successful, and to be comfortable
in life.
This is very important. Take a good long hard look at
yourself, and know where you are now and where
you want to go. This applies to all areas of life.
It could be getting a job, getting married, working
for yourself, or as simple as going on a trip.
You must believe that you can get there without
the slightest bit of doubt to pull you off track.

Once you determine your path, stay with it, your
destination is straight ahead. It is your choice, the
choice you chose to commit yourself to no matter
what. You will never make it to you destination if
you change paths often. Remember, a commitment
is a promise you made to yourself. Before you make
a promise to yourself, really think about it, and make
sure you are committed. Once you commit to anything,
you now have to line up your actions with that promise,
and stay away from all actions that will steer you away
from that promise.
There will be many temptations along your way. Write
them down, and ask yourself are these temptations
worth taking me away from my promise.
Often they are not, but sometimes they are.
If you find a commitment you have to end do so with honor.

Alice McCarthy

There are no coincidences in life,

you get what you expect and

strive for. You can just sit back

and let life happen...or you can

take control and make your life

happen. Set high goals for yourself,

dream big, think beyond what's

reasonable into outrageous thoughts.

Stop being logical and start being

limitless in your thoughts and dreams.

As long as you can see it in your mind,

you can have it...if you are willing to

pay the price. Take control of your

thoughts and images and change

your life. Your mind works in pictures,

not words. Your words create the image

in your mind, when you focus on the

image you can bring it into your reality.

The power of the mind is awesome...

don't waste it, USE IT !!!

Alice McCarthy

You will only be successful in winning an argument
if you can slip your ideas pass the ego of others.
The ego is like a prison guard guarding the subconscious
mind. If you push the ego too much, it will not let any of your
ideas through.
Here are six steps to help you to get by the prison
guard of the subconscious mind of others.

1. The magic of listening…let them talk. They are set on
getting something off their mind and until the say their
peace they will not be willing to listen to your ideas. It
is a good idea to repeat some of their points and ask
if they would like to say anything else. This shows that
you are listening to them.

2. Always pause before you give an answer. Pausing shows
you are thinking about what they have just said to you.
Look straight at the person, and with a slight pause, give
an answer. Careful not to take too long, as this suggest you
are trying to evade the answer. If you must disagree with
someone, pause to show you have given what they said
some though. A quick no say’s you were not interested
enough to give it any thought.

3. You do not have to always be right. No one likes to be wrong
and we try to prove that we are right. Someone with skill
knows to find some point of agreement. If the other person
has a good point, acknowledge it. Let the minor stuff go.

4. Say what you have to say, but don’t be forceful. If you act
as a know it all this causes the listener not to let your ideas
through.

5. Speaking through the third person helps when you have a
difference of opinion and want the other person to see things
your way. People are always skeptical of you and of what you
are saying. Talking in the third person is less likely to arouse
the ego and your ideas can get by the prison guard.

6. Let the other person save face. Many times the other person would
gladly change their mind, but to do so would mean they were
wrong. Remember, no one wants to be wrong. A skillful person will
leave the door open for the other person to escape their previous
stance without losing face. Create a hole for the person to escape.
Some good things to say are “Anyone would have thought the same
thing under the circumstances” or “I felt the same way before I came
across this information which changed my thinking.”

The goal is to avoid bringing the ego of others into play,and to leave a hole
to escape through without making them feel they were wrong.

Alice McCarthy

http://journeytofreedom.info

Do you admire the ability and

achievements of others?

Study them and use them

as inspiration. You can be

a success too! While everyone's

story is different, there are some

habits, behaviors, traits, and

characteristics that most heroes

possess. If you truly want to change

your life you must study, embrace and

copy the actions of those that are

successful. Keep reminding yourself

of what you can accomplish if you

put your heart and soul into it.

Heroes have learned to not allow in

negative thoughts or people. They

let nothing get in their way to greatness.

When it comes to your future, you will

have to make choices...choose wisely and win!

A few habits of heroes:

1. High sense of priorities

2. Clear vision

3. Personal resilience

4. Doing more than others

5. Strong self image

6. Think for themselves

7. Dream BIG

8. Invincible

When your passion for a better life

becomes greater than your willingness

to settle and stay in your safety zone,

you will become an invincible hero.

Alice McCarthy