DrErica's Blog

Hi Fellow Braveheart Women,

We are less than 2 weeks away from the incredible RISE event on 11/11/11 and the days before and after that auspicious date. Today I watched the most incredible TED video that is just perfect for the goal and mission of BraveHeartWomen. Change IS happening, one woman at a time and collectively.

Are you seeking security, clinging to security, or branching out to change your world and the world around you. Listen to this empowering brilliant TED talk by Eve Ensler. You may have seen her before performing her one woman show: Vagina Monologues. She is an amazing woman on a mission to support women worldwide. Security for Women

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His Braveheart Sisters,

Did you know that this month is International Women's Month?
What a concept, an entire month devoted to celebrating women.

Watch this beautiful video from Simple Truths and remember to share your light with the world.

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Warmly,

DrErica

Tonight was the first call for the Braveheart Women "My Vision and Me" mentoring program. What a delightful experience to be able to connect directly with Ellie Drake who has fearlessly, courageously and abundantly succeeded in marketing, speaking and mentoring - areas often dominated by men.

I have worked for over two decades, helping men and women to heal from traumas, from emotional confusion, from body image problems, from sexual dysfunctions, sexual mismatches, marital discord and even divorce nightmares. But I have worked mainly one on one and one on two.

My goal is to help transform the consciousness of men and women so that they can truly heal through love. I believe that no matter what the question, the answer is always LOVE. Love can take many forms, however. We do not have to be a wimp or a whoos. We can be strong and powerful, self-confident and self-interested. In fact, it is actually impossible to love someone else when we are coming from a one down, weaker than thou, position.

Yes, I have helped many individuals and couples to heal what ails them physically, emotionally and even spiritually. However, I want to reach a broader range of people, those who may never actually step foot in a therapist's office but could benefit greatly from my accumulated knowledge and wisdom.

With the advent of the internet and now the flourishing of social media networking, I have learned a lot about marketing and self-promotion, but mostly from a "crush your competition," "get it done by yesterday," and "crunch those numbers now" male perspective.

What a relief to discover the female prosperity hormone, oxytocin, the "cuddle hormone" so often associated with a satisyfing sexual experience. As I take another deep oxytocin breath, I realize I am on the right path toward achieving my dream.

Thank you Ellie for offering me this opportunity to blossom!

Warmly,

Erica

When we think and talk about relationships, most of us are talking about people, men and women, friends, family members, co-workers, and intimate partners. But what most of us don't realize is that everything in this world and beyond is in relationship to everything else. We have a relationship with everyone we meet, with everything we do, with everything we think and feel and experience. We have a relationship with our senses, with our thoughts, and with our behaviors.

Think about it. When you think a negative thought about yourself, e.g., "I can't lose weight." The way you choose to relate to that negative thought can either keep you stuck in a downward spiral of negative thoughts - or - help you to be receptive to a new and yet unknown solution.

Using as an example, the thought "I can't lose weigh,." if you believe this thought, if you think this thought is true for you, then what will you do? You might try to go on a diet anyway, but your will defeat the diet before you even begin. As soon as the diet feels difficult, as soon as you get a food craving, as soon as someone invites you to dinner, or when you feel sad and lonely - poof - you will go off your diet and eat the current comfort food available.

However, you do not have believe a negative thought. You can at least doubt the truth about this negative thought. Creating a doubt about a negative thought can lead you to finding and believing a new and more uplifting thought that can help you to change. For example, you can change that negative thought, "I can't lose weight." to a thought that can help you to achieve your goal. A more progressive and receptive thought might be, "I have had difficulty losing weight and I just need to find the right diet, the right coach, the right motivation, and losing weight will be easy for me).

If you are struggling with your relationships, intimate, family, co-workers, friends, or anyone else, take a serious look at your primary relationship - the one your have with your own self, your own thoughts and your own beliefs. Find a way to change the relationship you have with yourself and you will be amazed at how your relationship discords with other people seem to miraculously diminish and disappear.

Hi. I am excited to have been invited to join this inspiring community of high quality, spirited and success oriented women.

My current goal is to transform relationships by creating more healing and love in the world now. So many of us expect our partners to provide for us whatever it is that we desire. I am not just talking about intimate relationship partners or even business partners.

I have recently realized that any time two people are involved together in an activity with a common purpose, e.g., playing doubles tennis with a partner as your teammate, it is a relationship and requires the same relationship skills as the most intimate of encounters. My tennis partnerships have taught me about these seeminly innocent but often deadly relationship destroyers: expecting your partner to help you to succeed, expecting your parther to make you look good, and demanding that your partner behave in ways that fit your limited perspective of what is right and correct for specific situations.

The whole point of being in relationship with another person is to "share' experiences, to learn from each other, to grow and expand your knowledge and skills, and - a biggie - to learn how to give and receive love.

So many of my tennis partners, as well as colleagues sharing a specific goal or task, have usurped my right to be me by making unfair demands and criticisms before understanding the way my style can complement theirs and lead to greater success. Instead of trusting my strengths, they actually drag my inadequacies to the forefront and manage to squelch my confidence in the process.

Does any of this sound familiar to you? it works the same way in a tennis match as it does in the most intimate relationship. So many marriages end in divorce because of just this type of interaction. Without proper guidance and true understanding, the relationship reaches an inevitable impasse and love seems to disappear.

My goal is to bring back the love by healing the emotional blocks and rigid expectations that so often rob us of our inalienable rights to life, love and happiness.