My daughter Elisha is nine and we like to keep each other informed as to how life is treating us each day, it has become such a habit that I now realize that she is not always letting everything out?
Whether that is because we have 60,000 thoughts a day or she just thinks that she has dealt with it when it happened?
As a Mom, I have come to realize that it is important to keep fishing, because eventually you catch something!
This week, it came out that this boy in her class, who is probably the most intelligent 'A' grade boy, has become a mastermind at bullying her. He does it so sneakily and cleverly, that she felt she would be the one to get in trouble for defending herself!
I do spend time in her class so I contacted her teacher and he is supporting her, although it is almost like in the workplace, where the incidents need to be documented, as it may just be her word against his?
To a certain extent, I am able to understand this, mean while, my daughter does not want to go to school because of the pressure of it? Although she is the one being bullied, the system protects the one doing the bullying?
I did tell her that if it became too much today, that I would go to the school. We have been doing role plays where she says "Stop that you're hurting me".
I do ask, why a nine year old boy puts so much intelligence and energy into bullying another class member? Is this where the evil adults come to learn their ways? This boy has known my daughter since she was 2yrs old. Or is he copying behavior from his parents?
There have been many times, in the past 6 years that my daughter has said, that I do not support her, she has wanted me to phone parents, when there have been issues with other children.
I have lovingly supported her emotionally and given her some tools to work with. I have made her aware that we do not receive phone calls from other parents about similar incidents. I told her that unfortunately, there may be times, in her life, when people may cross her path, with similar traits and that she would now know how to support herself.
I am so glad that I have supported her in a different way this time and I will forgive myself for the times that I have not supported her in the way that she wanted my support.
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Love from Down Under