fungirl29's Blog

Hey Ladies, for some time now I have been trying to find my passion and purpose in life like a lot of us have. I am taking online classes to earn my Bachelor's degree in Human Resource Management, so I have chosen a career path, but I need something to do everyday that excites me and gets me out of the house. I am very passionate about fashion, I love fashionable clothes and shoes. I would like to know how can I have a hobby or daily activity that involves fashion. I am always watching fashion television shows and when I go shopping for myself it excites me. People are always complimenting me on my clothes. I know I have great fashion sense, I can use some suggestions on how to make fashion a hobby, cause I already chosen a career in another field. I would have chosen a career in fashion, but in Chicago where I live, there is not a lot of fashion career opportunities. I just need to use my fashion skills somewhere to have a fulfilling life.

_Tawana.

Hello Ladies, I have a bit of a problem and I need some serious advice. Okay here it goes, I have a friend that is keep lying to me constantly about serious things, For months now she has been telling me that she is pregnant, and told me at first her baby was due at the end of August, I told her okay I can't wait for the baby to be born, me and her talk everyday, she considers me her best friend, and me the god mother to her three year old daughter. The end of August came, guess what? No baby, I asked her I thought you were going into the hospital to have your baby, then she told me the doctors said they couldn't get her to go into labor, that she will have to wait October 15th, which is my birthday by the way. The whole time I knew something wasn't right with her story, but I didn't say anything. She called me and wished me happy birthday, and I asked her shouldn't you be in the hospital giving birth, she told me that she went into the hospital early that morning and walked out because her doctor was on vacation, so she will go into the hospital that following Monday which was, October 17th, right there I knew she was lying. I have not heard from her since then until today, she called me crying saying she lost the baby, and she has done this before. I think my friend needs professional help, she sit in the house 24/7 taking care of her sick mother, and her child, she has no life of her own, I know she is miserable and she seriously obese her child is too. She knows that I go out a lot to nice places with my husband, and with my other friends. I believe she feels I left her behind, because we used to have fun all the time before her mom got sick. I am tired of her lying to me all the time, should I end the friendship or should I confront her about her lies, and help her talk to a mental health professional? The worst part is she lied about losing a child.

Hello Ladies, I have something to share with all of you and I really need your advice. I have a great husband we been married almost six years now, and we have a nice apartment by the lake, we go to nice restaurants and other places, and I went back to school to pursue my bachelors degree and I have my health and strength, but there is a problem. I don't feel positive about my life, because I have been thinking negative for so long. I want to enjoy my beautiful life, and be thankful for what I have. Everyone around me tells me how lucky I am to have such a good husband and great life. I am grateful because I do thank God for what I have in my life. I just need to know how to feel the positive emotions and feelings that goes along with the blessings that I have in my life. I have tried meditation and prayer, but after a while I stop doing that and feel negative all over again. I hope this doesn't sound crazy, I just need to know how to embrace my life more. Thanks .

-Tawana.

Hello Ladies, I would like to share something with you that I have been experiencing lately. I believe that I am growing as a person because, everybody that I was once friends with has disappeared from my life. A few friendships I recently had to end due to jealousy and envy, I don't hear from old friends like I used to. I have a strong urge to meet new people and go visit new places all the time. I don't have anything in common anymore with the people I once was very close too. I want to start a career and learn new skills and meet people that are more on my level. I feel like my husband is the only one in my life that is on my level, which is a beautiful thing. It is something grabbing at me out from the world, I know I have a place out there somewhere I just don't know where, but I know what makes me happy and that is spending time with my husband and trying new things, and the people I know don't like to do anything but stay at home and do the same things over and over again that is not my thing, so I know it's time to meet new people. My husband said he wants to take me to the Bahamas on a cruise on Valentine Day next year. I have never been out of Chicago, I am a little nervous, I have never been on a plane or on a cruise ship. This is really out of my comfort zone, but then again this is certainly something new. I am so blessed to have a husband who will take me on an romantic trip so I can feel better emotionally and physically. I need to know how can I stay motivated to try new things when I surrounded by people who are depressed and bored all the time? Everyday I feel myself growing more and more from the few friends that I have left, I really need some advice on how to handle personal growth.

_Tawana.

Hello Ladies, I would like to share a story with you. Yesterday me and my husband celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary by going out to a very nice restaurant here in downtown Chicago. We had a great time the food was a little pricey but we were very satisfied with the whole evening. My mother in law and a few close friends called us and wished us a happy anniversary which was very sweet, I did not get one call from my two sisters or my father, which was very disappointing. They knew how important this day was to me and they didn't even bother to call and wish us a happy anniversary. One of my sisters call today and didn't even mention the situation at all, I asked her why she did not call to wish us a happy anniversary or to see what we had planned, she told me it wasn't important. She also said it's not like it was you or your husband's birthday or anything, That really made me feel bad for her to say something like that she know we were not raised that way. Every time I tried to talk about the good time me and my husband had and how beautiful I looked she changed the subject. I got so upset I got off the phone with her. I am the only one in the family that is married, and it seems like my family is not really happy for me. They are always miserable and complaining about money and my husband takes really good care of me financially. How can I maintain my happiness when everyone around me is unhappy and broke?.

_Tawana.

Hello Ladies, I would like to talk about the way I want my life to be. I want to be a brave woman inside and out, I would like to go any place I want without fearing of being judged by others. I want to cherish every moment that I have with my loving husband which I do. I would like to keep exercising every day or every other day so I can stay healthy and have a positive outlook on life. I want to be successful and follow my passion, I love fashion and learning about current hairstyles. I want a career that would make women feel good about themselves which is very important. I would love to do hair and be a wardrobe stylist and I also like to do makeup. I want to be a positive minded person and not let negative people get to me. All of these things I know will make me happy and fulfilled inside. Sometimes I just don't know where to start, cause I know transforming my life is going to take some time.

-Tawana.

Hello Ladies,

I would like update you all on my self esteem. Well I have been exercising on a regular basis and I am losing weight and feeling a little better about myself. My husband can't keep his eyes off me he says that I am looking great, but he said I was still beautiful before the weight lost, he is so proud of me. I still struggle with coming out of my comfort zone though. There is so much that I wanna do this summer, I want to go to the beach, poetry readings,art museums, and other fun places here in Chicago. I just need to take that leap of faith and go after what makes me happy, but I don't know how. I would love to go out and meet some new people just the thought of that makes me feel so free and rejuvenated. I am almost there but not quite, I know that my self esteem could be at the level I want it to be, but I just need that extra push. Someone please give me some insight on this, I would appreciate the advice.

Much Love, Tawana.

Hello My BraveHeart Sisters, I could really use some advice about my fragile low self esteem. For the past couple of years I have become to have low self esteem, and it is interfering with my social life. I want to get out in the world and do so many things like workout at a local gym or go for a brisk walk around my neighborhood for exercise, and going to poetry reading and art galleries. It is so much that I want to do to improve my life and be a happier person. When I look in the mirror I don't think that I am as attractive as I should be. I complain about my weight and my hair not being long enough. My husband tells me that I am as beautiful as the day he met me six years ago. I know he means it but I still feel so negative about my appearance. Everyone I know says I am an attractive woman but I don't see what they see. My low self esteem is causing me not to have the happiness that I know I deserve. I just wish I can go out and meet new people, go to the places I love to go, and start a new career with my head held high. I just need to know where to start. I love being a braveheart woman and I love how supportive the women is here, I just need to have the confidence and the healthy self esteem of a braveheart woman.

Much Love, Tawana.

Hello BraveHeart Ladies, I would like to share something that I have on my mind today. Lately I have been feeling a little disappointed because some members of my family and a few people that used to act like friends to me seem to be so self absorbed. They don't seem to care about spending time with me or calling me to see how I am doing. All they care about is money and their own problems and they are constantly complaining about not getting blessed with money and other material things. I feel that if they will stop acting so selfish their luck will change and they will see more of God's blessings. They need to learn that there is more to life than money. I know money is important to survive but that should not be the only thing they are focused on. I barely hear from my father and we live in the same city, he never calls or visits me. He is always worried about money and how he can make it all the time. He don't seem to care that he has four adult children and two grandchildren that would love to hear from him more often. He told my brother today if no one is offering him no money he don't want to talk to them. That is a horrible thing to say to your adult children. Our mother died six years ago, I would think by him being the only parent we have left that he would be a stronger father, but he's not and it is upsetting. It's a shame how family and friends want your money but not willing to give you their time. I also had a friend since high school who don't like to answer my calls or return my messages on facebook or by phone she seems self absorbed too. I give up on people like this, one person can't make any relationship work on their own.

Love Tawana.

Hello, My BraveHeart Sisters,

I would like to share a personal story with you all and I need some advice. Lately I have been feeling a little down because I have been losing all of my friends. These are not women I just met, they are women that I been knowing since high school. They were a joy to be around when we were teenagers and a little bit into our early twenties. Lately they calls me less and less until the phone calls just stopped. We never see each other or do fun things together. When I call them some of them don't even return my messages. I try getting us all together sometimes for a little girl time they don't want to cooperate. Last night I just lost a friend over facebook. She said a few things to me that kind of hurted a little. Now remember I have not seen her in like four years and I just found her on facebook last year. We have not seen each other yet since. I have tried to invite her to my house she said she would come she never did. I have tried sending her messages over facebook and calling her for the past two months, she have not returned any of them until last night. I sent a message to her and told her, I have left you messages and you have not returned them it seems like you don't want to talk to me anymore, cause that's how I truly felt. She told me that sometimes she wants to talk and sometimes she don't. That was a horrrible thing to say to a friend who has been there for you since high school. So I told her I want bother you anymore I will give you your space and I heard nothing else from her. I deserve better friends than this. How do I move on and meet new people that are on my level? I really would appreciate the advice.

From Your BraveHeart Sister,
Tawana.

Hello BraveHeart Ladies,

I have a story that I want to share with you all. I have a friend that I have been knowing for twelve years now. She is a sweet person, but I don't know how to tell her that our friendship is not working anymore. I like to be friends with people who share the same interest is mine. The last past year she has become depressed, I tried to convince her to go get some help, but she will not do it. She calls me everyday wanting to know what's going on in my life because she says she do not have one of her own. She sounds so sad most of the times when I talk to her, because I tells her that I went out and had fun. Sometimes I don't like to tell her that cause it makes her feels worst that she choose not to have a social life. She takes care of her mother that had a stroke a year ago, but she also has family that can help her out more with her mother and she also is raising a two year old daughter on her own. She would stay in the house for weeks and sometimes a month. I am worried about her I know she is depressed. I don't want to end the friendship but I do want to limit my phone conversation with her because she makes me feel sad when I talk to her. What should I do?

Tawana.

Hello Ladies,

It's spring time so much to do and so much to experience. I would like to do everything in my power to do all the things I want to do this spring and summer, but I am having a bit of a problem my comfort zone. Trying something new can be scary but I have to do it to move forward in my life. I wanna do the things that makes me happy everyday without fear. I wanna dress nice and go to social scenes like art galleries, and comedy clubs, and poetry readings, but it's one thing standing in my way my fear. I need to find out how to take the first step out of this rut.

Much Love To All,

Tawana.

Hello Ladies, I am so happy to be a Braveheart woman, my life is changing more and more everyday in a positive way. I want to talk about stepping out of your comfort zone. I have been stuck in the same place in my life for about three years now. I am learning how to take more risks and see what the world has to offer. Out growing old friendships and making room for new ones is not easy but necessary. I am currently going through this stage of my life right now. But with prayer, and self confidence I know I will get through this. Bless You All!

Tawana.