Women are the main care givers of elderly family members. It can be frustrating and lonely. I think education is key to being able to handle everything that needs to be taken care of. Whatever you do, you need to take time to hug the elder. They can suffer from "skin hunger". That is an unfulfilled longing for human contact. Contact receptors are less sensitive with age, so a hug has to be firm to be truly appreciated.
No matter how busy or frustrated you get, a hug will make you both feel better.