In 1995, I was working 14 hrs/day in the corporate world and though I enjoyed my job, I missed being with my son and in my heart, I knew I was doing something wrong. I wanted to be a mother and yet I knew I had to bring home income for my family. In Hawaii, one income is not enough to have a descent life. I felt like I had done everything right and yet inside of me, I knew I was not doing the right thing for my son and for me.
I remember reading this book titled “you2” by Price Pritchett. It was a book about Quantum Leaps and in the front of the book was a story which I will never forget. I would like to share that story with you…
I’m sitting in a quiet room at the Millcroft Inn, a peaceful little place hidden back among the pine trees about an hour out of Toronto. It’s just past noon, late July, and I’m listening to the desperate sounds of a life-or-death struggle going on a few feet away.
There’s a small fly burning out the last of its short life’s energies in a futile attempt to fly through the glass of the windowpane.The whining wings tell the poignant story of the fly’s strategy—try harder.
But it’s not working.
The frenzied effort offers no hope for survival. Ironically, the struggle is part of the trap. It is impossible for the fly to try hard enough to succeed at breaking through the glass. Nevertheless, this little insect has staked its life on reaching its goal through raw effort and determination.
This fly is doomed. It will die there on the window sill.
Across the room, ten steps away, the door is open. Ten seconds of flying time and this small creature could reach the outside world it seeks. With only a fraction of the effort now being wasted, it could be free of this self-imposed trap. The breakthrough possibility is there. It would be so easy.
Why doesn’t the fly try another approach, something dramatically different? How did it get so locked in on the idea that this particular route, and determined effort, offer the most promise for success? What logic is there in continuing, until death, to seek a breakthrough with “more of the same”?
No doubt this approach makes sense to the fly. Regrettably, it’s an idea that will kill.
“Trying harder” isn’t necessarily the solution to achieving more. It may not offer any real promise for getting what you want out of life. Sometimes, in fact, it’s a big part of the problem.
If you stake your hopes for a breakthrough on trying harder than ever, you may kill your chances for success.
I was like the fly. I was working harder and harder and I continued to let the years go by without spending time with my son. Why don’t we try another approach to life, something dramatically different? Fortunately for me, in 1995, I decided to take a step back and look for another approach. That’s when I found the home based business industry. It was a whole new approach which set me free from my self-imposed trap!
Here’s what I found:
Being a home based business owner will set you free and give you the education to become valuable to the marketplace. If you would like to receive the rest of the lessons that I learned, sign up for my free entrepreneurial training at the top of my blog, and you’ll receive the remaining sessions from me.
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