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The best meditation music I recently found and listen to for meditation but also simply playing in my house is John Friends chanting and vocal music.

He chants the Om so gracefully that I wanted to share and encourage all women just to listen to this wonderfull music.

Also because Chanting the Om Namah Shiva
is known as the great redeeming mantra also known as five-syllable mantra

The meaning :
It means "I bow to Shiva." Shiva is the supreme reality, the inner Self. It is the name given to consciousness that dwells in all. Shiva is the name of your true identity- your self.

According to Hindu mythology there are three Gods who run this creation. The Brahma - who creates the universe, the Vishnu - who preserves the Universe and the Shiva- who in the end destroys the universe. Among the three deities, Shiva, though considered as destroyer, also symbolize the - the inner self which remains intact even after everything ends.

In this mantra the chanter (one who repeats the mantra) bow to Shiva- his true self.

Om Namah Shivay is a very powerful mantra. It has been said about this mantra that if this mantra vibrates continually in your heart, then you have no need to perform austerities, to meditate, or to practise yoga. To repeat this mantra you need no rituals or ceremonies, nor must you repeat it at an auspicious time or in a particular place." This mantra is free of all restrictions. It can be repeated by anyone, young or old, rich or poor and no matter what state a person is in, it will purify him.

I highly recommend you to find his music, and just listen to it, and see what his music does to you. It is for me direct access to me and the univers, song beautifully gracefully, full of purity and so much love.
When I play it in my house, even my kids are more calm and relaxed, so it is not only me who enjoy.

The link below is direct link to online shopping, but I think it is possibe to google him and find links, where you can hear some before buying.

Copypaste into your browser John friends link for shopping:
CD: invocation

http://www.anusara.com/index.php?page=shop.product_details&flypage=flypage.tpl&product_id=2659&category_id=34&option=com_virtuemart&Itemid=154

Please comment, I would love to hear from you, how you respond and what you feel.

I was once asked to help a child in need. She was a anxious and scared 9 years old girl, who couldn't explain her parents what was wrong, because they could not understand or accept the world she was living and seeing. They had been to the doctors and through her school and doctors seeing several psycologist's etc.

I was at the time very young women myself, but was asked to help out because a family member knew me and felt I could help her.

It was my first experience of healing a child. She was too open and could see both worlds. In her case it was not always good what she saw, and was too young to understand it. She had no one to comfort, help og talk to her about it, as her parents did not know of this, they rejected it as imagination, none of the treatments she was given helped her, so things got only worse. They finally looked for other alternatives and asked a cousin for help who happened to know me.( the cousin was a holistic couch and in theire view, not a real therapist.)

I did not know her nor her family, but on my way to her house, I was by my inner voice, told everything about this little girl, her family and what to do to connect to her.

I came to her house, felt her parents, and looked at little girl Sophia. Scared, transparent, skinny and pale she was.I asked her to join me outside. She knew me and I knew her, so we really did not need to talk much, she knew I had come to help her. So it was a very blessed moment for both of us. I told her that I knew she took dance lessons and that was a very good thing for her for grounding. So we danced for half an hour on the grass infront of her house before we went into her room, I told her, she needed to help herself. and needed some protection and explained her about the 2 worlds.
That she had to find a way, a tool, to close off and just be present here. I asked her, what was precious to her and if she collected something. She told me then, she collected stones from the sea with holes in. I asked her if she belived they could protect her. She said yes. We then build a string with all the stones around her bed.
I told her to lie down in her bed sourrounded by the circle of stones. I healed her and she immidiately felt safe and calm.

After healing I went down stairs and told her parents about the troubles theire young daughter was having and asked them to respect her " imaginary" world as it was very true and very alive. I recommened study of clairvoyant childrend gifts. or as I call them angelchildren.

2 weeks later Sophia came to my house for one more healing. Her mother was different and I could feel mildness accept and releif. My heart melted when I saw Sophia next to her mother , She had come back and was shinning. She had colour in her cheeks and new glowing energy.
I was a short healing, because she took my hand and said, Pernille, you do not have to do more, I am fine now.
And from that day on she was a happy smiling child , full of love, joy and playing with her schoolmates again. She was able to deal with her skills, protect her from being too open and closed down enough according to her age.

I was only 23 years old when I had this first blessed experience and have over the years healed children cooping or injured in some ways. Usually theese angel children do not say much, the know and feel and take silently healing offered when it it right..

If you have similar lovely stories please feel free to comment.
Thank you for taking the time to read it.
Pernille

I recently made a big decision, when my friend and her child moved in for a short period after breaking up with her boyfriend, to make it a permenent solution to move in, and creating a "womencollective" It has now taken us 2 month to adjust and sharpen our "to do's" between us/ kids but also between our 2 girls.
My daughter is 13 and her daughter is 9 years old.

When she asked me for help, i did not hesitate for a moment, we all know when a friend needs help and when it is serious. So I opened my house and arms for her.
I have been single for 13 years and very used to be on my own, but can still remember how it was to separate from your love and a long term relationship. It is hard and hard on everyone included in the separation. it can also be very scary and awfull to loose your best friend, for me it was like loosing half of me by breaking up with my husband. And took a long time to heal.
When my friend asked me for staying a few days, I did not even hesitate to invite her and her child home. And I said to her, stay as long as you like and know that in my house you have peace to heal and Here is time, space and care for you and your child.

A long the way we dicovered a lot of good things when women decide to make things work.
We just quickly adapted, organized and planned and merged our 2 families. That also happened with our 2 girls. They are like sisters now.

So we talked it over and decided to make it permenent for them to live with us.
We each have our own bedroom, and share living and kicthen spaces.
it works!
My friend dicovered, that the pain and loss, she thought she would feel and was afraid of, did not appear by staying with us. She is not alone, she is in company of sisters that care, love her, and sourrounds her, same goes for her child. She also says, that if she had known this was a solution before, she would probably have left him before. But the thought of managing a separation and still be the best mum, best at work, cope the caos, etc. made her take the long way of waiting into it became ugly separation.

What I have realized when deciding to ask her of trying out a longer stay at my house is, that this is actually a solution to a lot of women. Or should be! Why is it not a normal solution to do so? I hear only, living single mums or finding a new man to move together with. Or have i just not researched right?

I have now tried to search on the internet for days on what we do, us power women/ mums, when marriage is no longer an attractive solution and we want out? We still want a good life, nice environnement for our kids, keep a nice house, look good in all aspects, fit the dress, being the 4 womens within us, successfull career and financially independent.
So what happens when you divorce, what are the options to keep on track on all lifestyle aspect for women with high qualities and standard?

Manage, work harder, faster?

What if what we have here is a model that should be more present in the solutions to how we live and choose to live if likeminded women choose to make a new family platform.
It is not really a clear option, since I can find no topics, blogs or sites where women choose to move together and make things work as a team. When men are not in the picture. Or is it only happening in Scandinavia?

My friend and I have realized, that we can still maintain a high lifestandard as if we were a couple, sharing the obligations a family usually share. We are not romatic involved in each other, which make it easier, we are mums and friends making life easier by helping eachother in the house, household and with our kids. And we are having a lot of fun living it and getting high energy levels from it!!

We are truely sisters! We also inspire eachother everyday, and we have realized that living together like that, makes us grow in another way that it could possible happen with a man, We are not saying it is forever, and we both love men and are not excluding them, but for now it works and we discover new things everyday,
We call us and our lifeplatform: The way we want it.

I hope this will inspire other women to see, that if the thought of living single mum holds you back from leaving dead relationsship or are already living single mum,constantly running behind schedule, maybe it is possible to make a new life, match up with another single mum, and make it work! it empowers women to help and work together.

Since I am truely danish I apologize if my english is sometimes poor and possible with a few spelling mistakes.

Thank you for reading my blog.
Pernille