The more I accept that bringing a vision to life is a journey, the more at ease I feel with a process that has many ups and downs. I look back one year ago, two years ago - and one word that comes to mind is "vibrating." I was vibrating with my intense desire to make it happen N.O.W. This intensity created stress that actually hindered my clarity, creativity and overall effectiveness. I see this same vibrating intensity in many women I meet.
As I shift away from the masculine blueprint for creating into
the feminine creative process that I am learning as a BraveHeart Woman, I feel so much more at ease. My desire is to create from the core of who I AM, my essence, so less vibrating intensity and
more "ease" is a must! There are three ways Visionaries sabotage their creative process. These are "infertile habits and behaviors" undermine our ability to be effective over the long term.
When these habits become chronic and a way of "getting things done" they also produce adrenaline in the body, a hormone which is not helpful for women in the long term. Adrenaline in the female body lowers our response to stress and makes us more prone to fatigue, illness and burnout - not to mention disconnecting us with our creative flow.
Without going into this in depth, Ellie Drake is a great example of creating in a feminine way, and she teaches this in depth in the signature events offered within the BraveHeart Women Community.
With that said, one infertile behavior is a pervasive feeling of
IMPATIENCE. Aren't we all a little impatient at times? I remember when I wanted to conceive my vision so badly. I wanted to be "there" and as a result, I also felt more disconnected from my creative flow during this Phase.
I found it really challenging to be OK with "not knowing". I do still find myself feeling impatient here and there, but accepting that the journey involves stages and phases that cannot be skipped has allowed me to let go of this incessant nagging impatience.
Impatience is a LACK of TRUST. We want things to go our way.
Rush the process, change the process, make it different, make it better.
Either way, impatience is a disregard for the truth of what is showing up - right now.
Accepting where you are is the highest form of trust you can have for yourself and the Universe that supports you.
SELF IMPOSED PRESSURE is another infertile behavior and
this one can be deadly.
Pressure makes us resist the warning signs of fatigue or illness in our body.
Pressure keeps us on a never ending cycle of seeking fulfillment outside of ourselves.
It's not a conscious behavior for the most part, but it stems from a feeling of NOT BEING ENOUGH and because of this deep belief, we don't allow ourselves to STOP.
Are you hard on yourself? This is self imposed pressure. I sat for an hour with a woman recently diagnosed with Cancer. In her own words, she shared how she has always been run by Pressure in her life. She has always been on-the-go, managing everyone, taking the lead and ignoring the warning signs to slow down, until this year, when her body forced her to slow down. She was very clear that PRESSURE was a big part of why she received her diagnosis.
Pressure can be a good thing as well.
You are putting the finishing touches on your book, you are struck with a big download of creativity, you are communicating a big idea to your team, you are planning a mini escape with your partner....
Positive pressure stems from inspiration - not self rejection. The problem is when Pressure is your "24-7 Modus Operandi" of how you get things done. When I set high expectations, and feel the pressure of falling into THE GAP between my ideal and my reality. High expectations can be a subtle form of self punishment and the best elixir for this is SELF NURTURING.
Last week I took a bath, splashed around, let the epsom do it's job and then got out. Had I set the intention on self nurturing, I would have lit the candles, added the essential oils and put on some ambient chill music.
Self love goes a very very long way.
We can always UP the LOVE in our self nurturing rituals. PUSHING is another infertile behavior that undermines the creative process .
There is RIGHT TIMING for all manifestation.
I learned this so powerfully when I gave birth to my son.
I was inspired NOT TO PUSH him down the canal or during crowning.
So I went against the grain. Instead of the usual birthing tradition of PUSHING baby OUT - I slowed it down. Way down. No pushing or external force on my behalf AT ALL.
I surrendered to the flow of expansion and contraction in my body. I learned the art of being totally present in the moment and he moved through on his own. There was no one telling me to push, no time clock, no popping the water, no personal agenda, no grunting, squeezing, bearing down, black eyes from the pressure pushing...
As a result, I felt no fatigue, resistance or pain.
How does this apply to you? There are times when we are so close to birthing our vision that we want to push it forward, but in doing this we go against the flow and create more struggle and pain than is necessary.
Imagine the flow we can create with our vision as we let go of the idea that we have to push to accomplish our goals!? As you surrender to accepting "right timing" for all you create, your vision has the space to become what it is meant to be - and often, it exceeds our highest possibility.
As a pregnant visionary, become aware of where you may bring impatience, pressure and pushing into the growth of your vision.
Ask yourself what you need to LET GO to bring more flow & ease to your creative process.
I invite you to join me in my group here, Pregnant Visionaries, where women journey from waiting to birthing their Soul's calling.
Have fun, play, create.....LOVE.
Monica
xo
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