January 11th - are your intentions and resolutions right on track leading you to self empowerment or are they already out the door? Or, perhaps you have decided to wait till Monday morning to get started?
Either way, there is no right or wrong - it is not about doing guilt. I believe people are well intentioned and they do the best they can given their circumstances. However, you can certainly do things to stack the deck in your favor, rather than spend your time judging yourself harshly.
"Fear melts when you take action towards a goal you really want." Robert Allen
Over the years I have come to realize that often because of the way the intentions are set for the New Year, they have little chance of survival.
First of all, you must really know what you desire and make a commitment to achieve it. Clarity actually comes along after commitment. When we hold off truly committing because we are waiting for clarity - we will rarely find that clarity. The Universe does not respond favorably to a lack of decision and a lack of commitment. Once the commitment is truly made, circumstances, events and people will flow into our life to assist us along.
It is also crucial to set an intention that is meaningful to you - not to your significant other - not to your family and friends - but something that appeals to you - that makes your heart sing.
Secondly, intentions can fail due to their size. The new habit that is desired or the goal that is set is often large, and quickly appears overwhelming once the daily routine is back in force.
If you are already feeling overwhelmed, it might serve you well to consider breaking your intention down into manageable chunks. Break a larger desire into parts where you can get something done in 30 days, 60 days, 90 days, 6 months and then 12 months.
Make sure you know how you will recognize if your intention is on its way to being achieved. What will be the sign posts? And, allow yourself the opportunity to celebrate the small wins along the way. Acknowledge your efforts.
Sometimes the lack of desired results is due to setting too many intentions at once - and then you get just plain overworked and tired. Your enthusiasm starts to vanish.
To help you stay focused and disciplined - because after all - getting results requires self discipline - take the time before going to bed, to write down 5 tasks in order of priority, that need doing the next day. Then when you get up - start doing what is on that list. Do not move on to number two till number one is done.At the end of the day, whatever is not accomplished needs to be first on the list for the next day.
"How am I going to live today in order to create the tomorrow I'm committed to?" Anthony Robins
The last tip that I will leave you with is - write down your intentions on small cards and carry these with you or keep them where you will see them. Pull them out several times a day and read them.
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Here we are mid way through the second business week of 2009 and hopefully you are still on track with your new intentions and priorities. "Until one is committed there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffective. Concerning all acts of initiative there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and endless plans. That the moment one definitely commits oneself then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issue from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings, and material assistance which no man could have dreamed would come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius power and magic in it. Begin it now" – Goethe ‐
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Action journey and emotional journey were words ringing in my head, as I was driving around.
One day, while waiting in traffic, I came to understand that we all travel in life on two roads simultaneously - the visual for me was two paths one on top of the other.
So how does this tie in with the success we want?
Knowing our desired results, we will lay out the plan and the actions we need to get there.
While taking action, we may be consciously and closely paying attention to the emotions that the actions or thoughts of the actions bring up - or perhaps you are the type who ignores your internal emotional guidance system?
If while taking the action you take hold of your thoughts and direct them positively in order to feel good - being present in the moment - you will surely have better overall results.
Have you ever noticed that when you are not consciously choosing to focus your thoughts on the desired end, and that you actually let your feelings be dictated by what your five physical senses are picking up, you always feel out of control?
In fact, by letting current circumstances and appearances dictate your feelings you will have no deliberate control over your life experience. You will be creating your life by default.
Are you starting to see that this principle of emotional journey applies to everything in life - small or large; whether it is cooking dinner or signing a big contract?
I have come to realize that emotions though largely invisible are in fact the larger piece of the life puzzle. Your feelings are a greater factor in determining your results than any other physical action factor.
If you can learn to direct your thoughts continuously to the better feeling place, then you will not have to struggle so much to achieve the success you want.
On the other hand, if you choose to ignore your feelings and do not consciously uplift them and work through them, you will frequently find yourself in situations where you are forcing actions in order to move forward. Doing so will cause much anxiety, irritation, and needless struggle. I certainly didn't sign up for that!
Aligning the action journey with the emotional journey in order to deliberately create our life experience is certainly worth the effort, in order to achieve our desired success.
"Welcome every morning with a smile. Look on the new day as another special gift from your Creator, another golden opportunity to complete what you were unable to finish yesterday. Be a self-starter. Let your first hour set the theme of success and positive action that is certain to echo through your entire day. Today will never happen again. Don't waste it with a false start or no start at all. Your were not born to fail." Og Mandino
The first two business weeks of 2009 are almost done and here in Central Canada, the morning has started with a fresh -31 degrees Celsius - sparkling snow and a stillness that held incredible beauty in the first few hours of the day...
How you choose to begin your day will actually set the tone for the hours that follow...How do you choose to start your morning?
In order to make 2009 a Fine year, I will want to collect approximately 365 great days, and most days begin in the morning. So it follows that in order for me to have a great year, I must commit to having a good start to my morning.
Perhaps you choose to start the day with some exercise, perhaps you pray or meditate, maybe you write in your journal - whatever way you choose to start your day - make sure that it is right for you!
Give some thought to what gets you going and feeling good first thing in the morning, and do whatever you need to do, to ensure that you can execute your plan. This will enhance your self empowerment.
"You have got to get up every morning with determination if you are going to go to bed with satisfaction." George Lorimer
If we each create 365 wonderful mornings; the days, weeks, and months will take care of themselves. We will be able to increase our personal growth, and our transformation has a greater chance of unfolding.
Asking good questions is an important success strategy, and crucial to the quality of your life. Through personal development and coaching, I have learned many valuable lessons. One of these lessons is the necessity to spend time asking oneself important questions. These life questions can be in relation to your career, your relationships, your financial situation and so forth.
Most people in this day and age, do not make the desired shift towards a better quality of life and their desired success, because they do not spend time quieting their minds and asking themselves worthwhile questions. Many will choose to go to seminars and read books which is all wonderful, however they expect the exterior things or beings to do the work for them. Most folks do not want to take the responsibility of doing the internal work.
Whether you know it or not, all the answers you seek are found within. What you need to do in order to get to the answers is learn to sit still, be quiet, slow down the mind chatter, and then ask your deeper self the life questions you want answers to.
Because of our microwave mentality, most individuals want the answers immediately. Know that it may take a few days, a couple of weeks, a month or maybe even longer. However you will get the answer if you persist. A key factor to getting your questions answered is to set out the intention of receiving the answers.
The answers to your life questions may come in the form of a clear knowing or an idea that pops unexpectedly into your head. It may also come from what the person in front of you is mirroring back to you. Just know that answers come in many forms, you simply need to go about your day being aware and open to receiving the answers.
Asking great life questions and finding out the answers is all part of doing personal development. Imagine being able to quiet yourself long enough to be able to connect to your deeper self and by doing so develop your ability to get the information you desire. How would that change your life?
So next time you are confused or frustrated, use the following success strategy - start asking yourself some great questions.
Welcome to another brand new day - I wish you well.
This morning I was listening to a Wayne Dyer tape and I was reminded that my habits will determine whether I will achieve my dreams and my intentions.
When our habits and our intentions are not aligned we are out of balance. Sometimes we even sense a subtle presence by our side telling us that we should be doing or experiencing something else in order to feel satisfied and fulfilled.
Other times, we may even be experiencing some symptoms such as frequent colds, headaches, anxiety, stress or anger just to name a few. These are all signs that you are out of balance.
Today I would like to suggest that we take a few moments to examine what we are currently experiencing in life, what are our main habits are and see if all of that is leading us where we want to go.
Then use your mental energy to direct your thoughts to what you desire and create a new alignment - a better balance.
Next, decide on one thing you can change, one baby step you can take to get you moving towards your desires. "The single most important tool to being in balance is knowing that you and you alone are responsible for the imbalance between what your dream life is meant to be, and the daily habits that drain life from that dream." Wayne Dyer
I have come to realize that successful people see failures - disappointments in a positive light, and believe they have what it takes to get over it. They choose to look for the lesson learned, and what value they can take from their setback, rather than focusing on the failure.
If you are a sports fan, you may have actually witnessed the loss of a tournament, a series or a particular game, and seen fans who appeared more upset than the athletes. That is because the athlete knows he or she can, and will get over it. Before long, they are focusing on the next event. Whereas the devoted sports fan gets very discouraged, and frequently takes the loss harder. If you do not believe me go to a teenager's hockey or ball game, and observe the parents.
The difference between successful people and those who are not, is frequently due to the perceptions that they hold. People who experience setbacks or what they refer to as failures frequently take the setback personally. They believe it defines them. They let it lower their self confidence and self esteem. However successful people will share with you that the reason they succeed more is because they have usually failed more times. They are simply more persistent.
Next time you experience a setback try re-framing the concept of failure in your mind, as simply one of a temporary setback or temporary defeat. Many of life's failures are simply folks who did not realize how close they were to success whey they gave up.
You may want to redefine the term success. Success is not only the end result. Start giving yourself credit for all the steps you are taking along the way. Praise your attempts and the learning you are doing. The learning if applied holds great value!
Setbacks are a natural part of the process in any new endeavor. You will attempt many things in your new venture. Some will work, some will need tweaking, and some will need to be ditched. If you are not willing to make errors and move to higher levels of achievement, then you are really not ready to learn and to grow.
With the rate of change accelerating continuously, it is essential to committing to being a life-long learner. When you embrace the process of learning, growing and becoming more, life takes on a richly rewarding and satisfying quality. Fulfillment is possible.
You hold the power in your mind. Let go of what others may think! Choose to redefine Success and "Failure".
I have learned that success really depends on the set of mental and physical habits each woman chooses to build and implement.
Successful women always get clear on their desired results and then choose to develop and build, mental and physical habits that will help them reach their goals. They were not born with an extra dose of these productive habits, they simply chose to cultivate and grow them.
The ladies who get what they want out of life have chosen to get out of their comfort zone. One reason many individuals don't get what they want out life, is that they have simply chosen to remain in their comfort zone. They may have read a personal development book or two, or even attended a seminar - however they have not followed that up with right thinking and inspired action.
The longer we all wait between hearing and taking action - the less chance of us ever taking action. We all have enormous potential - for some, it may simply be lying dormant. Unfortunately we lose what we do not use.
Remember success can only be defined by you, what is important to you!
Successful women have learned that as they take mental and physical action, doors start to open and then more doors open. They connect with the resources, the individuals, the opportunities they require to achieve their desired life.
If you are wanting to live your life large - go ahead take that first step. Start checking out what are some of the possibilities for you. Connect with other BraveHeart Women- mastermind - take inspired action!
I believe You owe it to yourself and the world to be all you can be - to maximize your potential, and live a life of joy and fulfillment.
I believe in You - to your heart, your dream, and the difference you make!
Being the captain and leader of your life - do you sometimes forget that you are the captain/leader and go back to playing the game of life as the passenger or deckhand?
When it comes to our life, we are the captain, whether we choose to act like one or not. The captain is the captain of the ship, when the weather is good or the weather is bad. In bad weather, she remembers she is the captain and makes the necessary adjustments to get her ship, her crew, and her passengers safely and happily into harbor. She may not enjoy every minute of her journey but she is required to get the job done.
How many of us keep in mind that we are the captain/the leader of our life and keep steering the ship even in rough seas? Or are you one of those who prefers to hand the wheel to someone else and pretend that you are the passenger or even the deckhand?
When we forget who we are, and we forget where we are going, it is very easy to get off course and land where we are not wanting to go.
The captain of the ship does not see her destination until she is almost upon it.Yet, with her vision in mind, she has faith that by doing the right things over and over again, that she will arrive into the desired harbor. Then the drama of small or not so small events don't get to her.
We, just like the captain of the ship, need to have a clear vision by which we guide our life. The goal/the intention that we set out for ourselves is like the light house and we would be served well to remember to take incremental, consistent steps towards that light house.
Remember, the captain does not see the destination for 98% of the time - it is only when she is almost upon it that she sees the harbor.
Life is like that, you create the vision for what you desire your life to look like and then you must trust, and have faith that by taking consistent right action, that you will arrive. We need to trust the process...
However when we forget where we are going and we do not see the destination right away, we can get pretty discouraged and sometimes we choose to abandon ship. That is not the solution...
Here in the BraveHeart Women Community, you will find tools, resources, and phenomenal women who can assist you as you move towards your journey.
"If you do not know what you stand for, you will fall for everything."
Which vision is guiding you on a daily basis? A few blogs ago, I shared the importance of being the captain of your ship. And every captain must have a vision, a destination she is moving towards.
It's not enough to be busy, so are the ants. The question is, what are we busy about? - Henry Thoreau
A big part of life is simply showing up, showing up ready to be, do and have what you want. However, you must know what you truly desire.
If you haven't already crafted a vision for yourself, take the time to write out, draw, or even sing what you would like your life to look like in the next 90 days,180 days, the next year and so on.
In doesn't have to be perfect... just get started. Decide what you want to move towards. A powerful vision will help pull you forward and keep you internally motivated to do what needs to be done, in order to achieve your intentions, goals, and desires.
I found when I had no vision, human nature being what it is... I found myself staying in my comfort zone and not moving forward.
Later, I was reminded that when the captain is guiding the ship, even though she cannot see the destination for most of the journey, she can however visualize it, feel it, and sense the arrival. It does not matter that she does not yet see the destination, because she has a quiet, confident knowing, that if she keeps going forward she will get there.The captain of the ship knows who she is and the role she plays in her vision.
Just like the captain you must know who you are and what is the role that you are playing in your life.
I for one know that I am someone with a message and a method - a message that each one of us has incredible potential, talents, and gifts, - more potential than we are even aware of... and a method to develop that potential, and achieve one's desired level of freedom, satisfaction, fulfillment and joy.
If you forget who you are as you go through your life or choose not to connect with your inner self - you will end up losing sight of your vision during the storms.
Know that you have everything you need within to move without with your vision. See yourself in relationship with your vision - and know that you will continuously adjust it as you achieve mini intentions along the way.
What would you dare to start if you knew you could not fail?
I hope your week is going well and that you have been able to take a few minutes for yourself despite the busyness of work...
Meditation - why bother or better yet do you need to bother?
What I can share from personal experience is that meditation is worth taking the time to do, and to learn to do in a way that fits for you. I have to admit I did not always feel like this, as I had experienced difficulty in stopping the thoughts from gushing forth.
However, with a little time and some patience, I discovered much to my delight, the benefits of quieting the mind. Here is what you can gain from such a practice:
- develop a sense of peace - eliminate fatigue - find clarity of purpose - reduce stress - reduce pain
but more importantly it offers you the opportunity to have a direct connection with your Higher source, Spirit, Higher consciousness, God, (use the term that fits for you).
Don't let anyone tell you that there is only one way to quiet the mind. There is no right or wrong way to meditate. Learn to Be You Own Wizard. You can start with a few minutes and expand from there. As always, you can Google the topic and you'll find incredible resources.
Relaxed confidence - when it comes to developing this state of being ourselves, we may want to spend some time observing kids. Look at how they try, and do different things. They are generally feeling confident and open to doing. They simply want to explore, and have fun!
Yes, children fall down and scrape their knees, but more often than not they get right back up, and go at it again. Unless, an adult comes rushing by their side (of course the adult is well meaning), and with their language and actions imply that the child might hurt her/himself. Each time, that situation repeats itself, the kid then becomes more anxious, and worried that she/he may actually harm themselves - physically or otherwise, and starts to doubt him/herself.
The more attention we give to failures, the more nervous and anxious we will become.
So then the question I have is: When it comes to bringing change into my life, am I going about it in a relaxed confident manner, or am I in fact responding to old programming that no longer serves me?
Tip: To help us come from a place of relaxed confidence, when we are not there... we can try the following. Think of something that you are really good at... something that you do with ease, that others look up to you for. Is it your ability to put a great meal together? Is it your ability to play ball?
Whatever the skill, review that situation in your mind, and bring that feeling, that confidence into your new task. Visualize and feel yourself doing the new thing in such a confident manner. Remember your brain does not know the difference between something that is real and something that is imagined. Therefore by bringing into your mind a situation where you are confident, you are in fact retraining your brain to your own advantage.
How often have I written a to do list to make sure I don't forget the important stuff and to help me be focused... too many times to even attempt to count.
Today, I thought maybe I should make up a Not To Do List - as that is just as important as what I do choose to do. Every time I say yes to something unimportant that means I have less time for the real important things in my life - it means I am saying no to what could better serve me.
So my question to myself today is "How can I create more space in my day, so that I can allow the time I desire, to flow into my life so that I may do more of what I am passionate about and that will eventually bring me more of my desired results?"
If I apply the 80/20 rule - 80% of my time should be focused on the 20% that is most significant.
Therefore that means it is time once again to eliminate any physical, mental, emotional clutter that has accumulated in the last while and that is taking up space, time and energy that would be best devoted elsewhere.
Would you like to share your favorite decluttering tip?
Welcome to another brand new week...a good time to spend a few minutes in silence - either to de-stress, to re-energize, or even better gain clarity.
Here in central Canada - the cold weather is hanging on and though I am looking forward to spring with warmer weather - there is a wonderful stillness and silence that is present first thing in the dark morning as I step out, especially after a fresh snow or a very cold night.
A few moments of Silence can serve us well especially at this time, when people are experiencing more uncertainty and stress in the world than ever before.
"Silence is a pregnant state out of which can emerge worlds of possibility we have no hope of knowing so long as our lives are overfilled with words and noise."
People can actually live their entire lives today without a moment's peace. Sometimes the quiet actually feels more uncomfortable than the noise - we are not quite sure what to do with it.
Just like sleep refreshes the body, I believe silence cleanses the mind. Even my own un-mastered practice of silence is teaching me that knowing my own truth cannot come to me and penetrate the superficial layers of reality - that in fact I need silence to make that happen.
A regular practice of spending a few minutes in silence can actually be life giving. It will let you recognize how full of noise your life really is and what the source of that noise is. Try shutting off the TV, the radio, the computer, the cell phone - the noise you actually have control over.
By spending 10-15 minutes twice a day in silence, you will change your day, and your life. I am confident you will find like others who have done so, that you can access an inner peace, more creativity, and even inner healing.
Inspired by "Everyday Holiness" Alan Morinis
Have a wonderful week, Lynette Manifesting Formula
Like most women now a days, I certainly find myself being busy, productive, and having a few plates to juggle. The temptation to multitask is very strong.
However, is mutltitasking really to my benefit?
Having multitasked for many years I found that I frequently felt torn in many directions at once, and expended more energy and attention units then actually necessary.
Of course doing laundry while coooking dinner is a no brainer, but I am speaking here of multitasking while doing work that requires attention to details.
What I learned was the following:
The brain focuses on one thing at a time. To do more than one activity at once, you experience many starts and stops.
Frequently nothing gets done faster or better. Actually the chances of making errors increase.
The time needed to correct errors from multitasking take time to correct .
Multitasking can cause stress to the mind and body.
A body in stress releases cortisol. Do this often enough and you weaken your immune system and can cause yourself other health related problems as well.
One's ability to concentrate can diminish when attempting to multitask on a regular basis. It becomes difficult to concentrate when you keep interrupting yourself with something else.
Even though I know all this and have experienced it, I still get tempted on really busy days to multitask. Though not always easy or simple, I am working to do things more effectively and to let go of what is not necessary.
How about yourself? Do you multitask and how is it working for you?