I have been in two mentally abusive relationships without the physical violence. The mental violence is very damaging as anyone who has experienced it knows. And it can happen to anyone regardless of their background. Myself, I also experienced sexual violence from the age of 4 . until I was 18 yrs old.

I am now a healed survivor who understands the dynamics of these relationships on a metaphysical level and have been able to forgive on the highest level. It has taken many years of work to get to this point and am looking tor a term other than 'healed survivor' because I feel having the term survivor denotes that I am not yet healed entirely; but I have done so at the soul level.

I have worked with abused women and children for many years and it remains a passion to me. I have worked in treatment centres and a women's shelter as the Assistant Director. It has been an honour to work with these women and children.

At some point I came to understand that it is about learning lessons as part of my personal and spiritual growth, so for that i can thank my abusers. I realize some women might think I've totally lost it, and I understand some will feel that you can't possibly thank your abusers. I know I once felt that way. But it is very freeing to be able to forgive; it also takes deep work to get there.

I applaud all women who live their stories and find themselves in a new phase of life where they are safe and finding a state of wellness. For those women who have not left their violent circumstances I understand why you are still there and I send you my blessings.

In Light and Love
Lyndfa

Hi everyone,

I'm a Life Coach for Women and I'm always pleased to learn of the large numbers of us women who've transcended domestic violence and are now making a difference in the lives of others! I acknowledge that my low self-esteem issues which led to me attracting an abusive husband started in my childhood when I was sexually abused at age 8 and it messed with my life on many levels until age 25 when I sought counselling help for the first time...

As we raise awareness and speak out on all violence against women including sexual ones, we'll help liberate others from their pain and fear.
I did a radio show segment on "Celebrating our sensual and sexual selves" because I know so many of us suffer in silence.
Take a listen and let me know what you think
http://tinyurl.com/23szcu7

Lorna

www.mpowerurself.com

Dr. Eve,

It's wonderful to hear this good news!!

Being a volunteer and family member of law enforcement and fire department, please please please keep in mind you will need security personnel.

I want your shelter to thrive and I cannot stress that enough: security personnel for the women in your shelter.

Please consider. If you have questions as to why i made such a suggestion, feel free to message me.


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My life motto: Never fear dying, fear never living. (created by me!)

Dr. Eve, You will need to read my blog.


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Debra Stringer

Thank you for beginning this post and thank you for the work you do. I did a study recently when I realized many of my coaching clients held the perspective that they were alone in the world. Did you know that if you gathered up all the women in the world who had been abused and had them stand finger tip to finger tip there numbers would circle the globe 83 times! That's astounding to me and it means we are NOT alone even though it feels that way.
As a person who has supported, sat on boards of, and volunteered for women's shelters I notice there is often this feeling of being alone and so I wonder how to overcome that. One way is for all women to understand that they do have a voice and that they can speak their truth. I also know, in some countries, in some families, that can be dangerous so, for them, there are many other women who can speak for you. I will speak for you, I will offer my voice to hear your truth, to share you truth.
If we're half the population how come statistics still show that domestic violence happens mostly to women? Let's join our voices in unison, in support and be heard!
Living la vida fearless, Jan


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Living la Vida Fearless

Namaste,,,

Thank you for your efforts in helping women learn to transcend domestic violence. I, myself have come through violent relationships and have found the blessings within those relationships. I wasted many years wishing I could feel bitter, instead of nothing because I had became dead inside. I thank my source, my God every day for never giving up, for always trying to show me truth, even when I chose not to see it; for helping me to see that I was a victim of my own abuse, that I had chosen the life I was leading.
My life now is sweeter than any relationship, any moment, any passing happiness or joy. I live in a state of constant and ever-flowing bliss because I walked through that fire. Do I ever look back, of course I do, I am only human, but when I look back I remember where I was and where am I and I can only be amazed at the strength and passion I found within myself, and I feel loved beyond measure to have been given the experience from which I have gained such perspective. Do I still love him, of course and absolutely, more deeply and more pure then ever before...why, you ask???... because I know now that his purpose in my life was not to provide me with companionship, or to make me feel loved, desired, wanted or feminine and not to be my husband; his purpose in my life was to provide a circumstance or situation that would bring about my learning of a particular lesson that was meant for me to learn. This lesson had presented itself to me in many forms before, but I chose to live blindly, not learning from lifes lessons. The situation and circumstance that my abusive relationship created was theprimordial soup from which my spirit, and my soul was rebirthed, refined, and rejoiced. Thank God for lifes lessons in whatever form they may present themselves, they have all been created as a guide to your own personal bliss!!!.....


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Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field, I will meet you there.... -Jalaludin Rumi
Namaste...

Dr. EveJ Hazaaa!! Yes yes yes Please tell us more about your TEAM and the program you are working on. Women in this world need to support each other into freedom. Tell us more. Ask for the help you need to implement your system in the world.

Seems to me the process that could empower your target group, will also empower and apply to all of us. After all the inner critic is sometimes the biggest abuser of all.