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Braveheart sisters,

I am reaching out for any help or advise that any of you can offer. I live in Colorado Springs, CO and my sister lives in Deer Park, TX a suburb of Houston. Presently my sister (Sharon) is going through a bitter divorce. Her ex is an alchoholic and abuses perscription and nonperscription drugs. He has mental issues that make him to be a threat to himself and others.

My sister filed for divorce and is in the process of waiting to get it finalized. They are legally separated. The Law in Houston states that everything is still considered community property even though their home was temporarily awarded to her. Her ex has broken into the house on several occasions. He's done enormous physical damage to the home, stolen important documents from the home, and threatened my family living in the local area. Yet, my sister and my family in Houston seem unable to find help to provide the protection my sister needs. She is now in fear for her life and feels powerless to stop him.

The local police cannot or will not do anything, because "they didn't see it". There is so much more to the story...but this gives you the general idea.

Her lawyer filed for an emergency hearing to finalize the divorce, but that will take 6 to 8 weeks. Because she has filed for divorce, she cannot get a protection order. Can someone tell me how that can be?

We need help, advice, contacts, something. I don't want my sister to become a casualty of an uncaring bureaucracy, because no one would do anything to help.


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Dee Dalton
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Mar 4, 2010 11:59 PM
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Thank you Catherine for the advice. I talked to my sister today and I think he finally got caught. When he showed up to her house today, two officers along with the Chief of Police were waiting for him. He was caught off guard. Long story short he was ordered not to return to her house when she is not at home. He had to get all of his belongings out so he would have no excuse to get in. If he is caught breaking into her house or going over there he will have charges against him and get an escort to jail.
I am thankful that the good Lord above is watching over her at this time...


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Dee Dalton
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Hi,

I have been through a similar experience. In MA you can file a 51A if you are in fear of your life. I'm not sure what the deal is in Houston. I also know that the violence and control does not stop just because you're divorced, especially when there are children involved. I started training in Tae Kwon Do quite by accident right before I initiated a divorce...I was protected and finally learned how to protect myself. It wasn't so much learning the kicking and punching as much as it was the confidence and self-esteem I had built. I learned how be a victor instead of a victim.

Catherine Chang
www.changstkdamerica.net
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Mar 4, 2010 10:11 AM
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I called my sister this morning. She told me that the police are now patroling her house more and they have been coming out for each call. Because of the TX laws there is not much more that they can do as it seems that her ex is doing everything just inside the law. However, she did tell me that they did comment that they are getting tired of "playing" his game. He is surely going to "cross the line" and they will catch him. I also learned that her attorney is having my sister document all of the incidents and give them to her ex's probation officer. I am hoping the wheels of the law will turn for her and get him away from her.


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Dee Dalton
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Braveheart sisters,

I am reaching out for any help or advise that any of you can offer. I live in Colorado Springs, CO and my sister lives in Deer Park, TX a suburb of Houston. Presently my sister (Sharon) is going through a bitter divorce. Her ex is an alchoholic and abuses perscription and nonperscription drugs. He has mental issues that make him to be a threat to himself and others.

My sister filed for divorce and is in the process of waiting to get it finalized. They are legally separated. The Law in Houston states that everything is still considered community property even though their home was temporarily awarded to her. Her ex has broken into the house on several occasions. He's done enormous physical damage to the home, stolen important documents from the home, and threatened my family living in the local area. Yet, my sister and my family in Houston seem unable to find help to provide the protection my sister needs. She is now in fear for her life and feels powerless to stop him.

The local police cannot or will not do anything, because "they didn't see it". There is so much more to the story...but this gives you the general idea.

Her lawyer filed for an emergency hearing to finalize the divorce, but that will take 6 to 8 weeks. Because she has filed for divorce, she cannot get a protection order. Can someone tell me how that can be?

We need help, advice, contacts, something. I don't want my sister to become a casualty of an uncaring bureaucracy, because no one would do anything to help.


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Dee Dalton
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