I am recent transplant to Utah. Since moving here I have learned so much about Polygamy even though I had read several books on the subject prior to my move. What has been interesting is those who live here in the Salt Lake area... some are aware and some aren't of what is happening right under their noses. Not all polygamist live in the isolated compounds that you may have seen on television. I know of regular neighborhoods that house the many wives of one man.

I have spent hours with an author Susanna Barlow who was born the 23rd child of 46 children into a polygamist sect while living in the heart of Salt Lake City. I have the privilege of being accepted as a member of her immediate and some of the extended family. I have spent time with her children, husband and some of her siblings as well as other family members. We have become friends even though our backgrounds are so different and Susanna was taught to fear us....the Gentiles.

I truly feel our friendship has been a gift to have the acceptance of those different that we were raised being religious or ethnic background...we all find we are the same...all belong to the human race and are what I refer to as Earthlings.

Susanna was home schooled until the 5th grade and then household duties took priority. After she and her husband left the sect she bought a computer and typing tutorial and began writing her Memoir.

Some of her siblings still practice the lifestyle and although it would not be a choice for me...I accept that we can be kind and accepting of our differences. Nor do I condone the abuse of children, women or underage marriages of young girls.

I am discovering through the many conversations that I have been allowed to witness...that change is happening. Awareness of "Polygamy in America" featured in National Geographic February cover story and the documentary to be aired as well this month on their channel. Polygamy exists in multiple other countries. Susanna has family members in the areas where the filming and the featured story take place...Colorado City and in Canada.

Through education of even being aware what is happening in our own country has reached the media somewhat in recent years.
Almost daily I see or talk to women who have left the lifestyle or remain. It never ceases to amaze me. Abuse happens in all kinds of homes not just polygamist households. It can be a breeding ground for abuse because of the isolation from mainstream society.

I have been a volunteer child advocate for years. Abuse of any kind is a subject that I am very passionate about. Abuse stops by telling and being strong enough to be the voice for those who have not found theirs yet.

Susanna writes of her journey and I am amazed at her every time I hear her interviews or listen to her speak. Her journey of forgiveness and how it has freed her.


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Susan Garren