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My Story and Maybe Yours

My Story and Maybe Yours

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I am going through therapy just as I have been since the age of 19 and now I am 38. It has been a hard row to hoe and I am sure many of us see the road of therapy as one of promise and healing. I am hoping that my story ends that way as I am almost there at the victory line now. The race has been a hard one.

You see at the age of six I was raped by my Grandfather and my step-brother, how many others I don't remember. I do remember those specific two. It was enough to do eternal damage or so it seemed.

When you remember you think where are the grown ups ? Where were they and why didn't anyone protect me? Why wasn't anyone around to make sure that no one hurt me and make sure that I was ok.

The aftershocks are worse, the feelings of dirtyness, the lack of intimacy you have with your spouse, the nightmares, the tears in the night.....


I have come to the conclusion that the grown-up (child's perspective) were oblivious and thanks to that I am not.... I don't let my children out of my sight and I love my children with all my heart and will not ever let anyone hurt them the way I was hurt.....
When they hurt each other by arguing I even make them do reparitive work with each other. I have my kids in therapy to make sure they know how to communicate and be normal healthy people so they grow to be healthy adults and don't have the same pain and suffering that other children have from bullies and what not at school. I want the best for them.

I want to do better than my parents did to me. Or rather did not do for me. And being abused did this but if it would not have happened I might be oblivious too. Who knows ? I am just glad that I can walk away with a different attitude and it has taken me years to do this. Thanks for listening
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I applaud you for your ability to share your story and commend you. I commend you because it is not easy to share ones faults and imperfection so to be able to share a part of your life that brings pain to surface is even harder. But by doing so you set an example for other women to follow and they can also share. That sharing is the first step to healing next to recognizing and accepting that it was not your fault and you did nothing wrong.

I was touched inappropriately by my grandmother when I was 7 years of age. At the age of 15 I was raped by a young boy that I was calling myself going steady with. It was hard not to blame self and feel inadequate and worthless.

Your sharing will give women the ability to take away all those false thinking's of themselves. You are a beautiful child of God and in no way are you worthless and life is yours for the making. It may not be the easiest at time because you may be still holding onto pain and resentment. taking the time to write your thoughts and feelings in a journal. keep tract of what makes you mind go back to that place. This will help you to control it and the incident will not be able to control your life.

And sometime you just need someone to take in the feelings you are feeling, the thoughts you are thinking.

I welcome emails at stoptheabuseplease.org@gmail.com and I will be happy to share a poem or two or just be a sounding board.

Sincerely,
Charlotte


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I commend your efforts to live an empowered life!!!
What a wonderful teacher and mother you must be!
Your inspired actions prove that it takes a Brave and Courageous Spirit to look so deeply into the past, and not reflect it in the future!
You are loved, and I am truly grateful for your powerful story of what One woman can do............to change the world!
With heartfelt blessings,
Sheila


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I am going through therapy just as I have been since the age of 19 and now I am 38. It has been a hard row to hoe and I am sure many of us see the road of therapy as one of promise and healing. I am hoping that my story ends that way as I am almost there at the victory line now. The race has been a hard one.

You see at the age of six I was raped by my Grandfather and my step-brother, how many others I don't remember. I do remember those specific two. It was enough to do eternal damage or so it seemed.

When you remember you think where are the grown ups ? Where were they and why didn't anyone protect me? Why wasn't anyone around to make sure that no one hurt me and make sure that I was ok.

The aftershocks are worse, the feelings of dirtyness, the lack of intimacy you have with your spouse, the nightmares, the tears in the night.....


I have come to the conclusion that the grown-up (child's perspective) were oblivious and thanks to that I am not.... I don't let my children out of my sight and I love my children with all my heart and will not ever let anyone hurt them the way I was hurt.....
When they hurt each other by arguing I even make them do reparitive work with each other. I have my kids in therapy to make sure they know how to communicate and be normal healthy people so they grow to be healthy adults and don't have the same pain and suffering that other children have from bullies and what not at school. I want the best for them.

I want to do better than my parents did to me. Or rather did not do for me. And being abused did this but if it would not have happened I might be oblivious too. Who knows ? I am just glad that I can walk away with a different attitude and it has taken me years to do this. Thanks for listening
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