Right on! I especially appreciate that you took responsibility for growing your tumor with wrong thinking.....falls in line with The Law of Attraction.

I recently read this mantra: "Live from your imagination, not your memory" by an anonymous author and I love it!

Thanks for sharing your story.
Midnight2010

Hi,

I'm going through a separation. I just want to feel whole again. I want to feel like me a happy sweet person who can fight through all storms with tough skin. I want to be an encouragement for other women and give them hope that you can do it just don't stay down in the valley of depression to long. It hurts to loose some one you love or some one hurts you that you put your every thing into and to be at war with each other is upsetting. We have to take each day and learn something from it and try to grow and learn how to gain control over are situations and defeat our enemy. Don't let the enemy tell you your not going to make it, you will never found love again, your nothing with out me, The devil is a liar, your all that and then some. Get your confidence up that all things all possible found support groups, churches, mentors or some one that will help you and not judge you but give you good advice. We look for the one who hurt us to be there for us and they just block us out there not concerned with you right now they are concern with getting there self together finding there own happiness. You have to start finding happiness for yourself, It is so lonely yes I know I'm going through the hurt of a separation and two children were living in one state and husband is in another state. Separation hurts. Every day I ask myself how and where did we go wrong. I know the answer but you never thought it would get this bad. We have to stop focusing on something that we have no control over, why wont he call me why wont he answer my text. Why doesn't he love me,,, I guess were suppose to give them there space and see if they will come back to us.. I don't know but in the meant time get yourself right. Read a book, go out walking, exercise, volunteer for things but keep yourself busy... That is all I can do right now it works to a degree it takes time for the hurt to go away but keep working on changing you and finding happiness with yourself. To all my single mothers I know your pain I'm a mother of two a 13 year old son and 10 year daughter.. There hurting were all hurting. It's a joy to wake up to them every day but it's fight to stop them for lashing out and trying to keep your temper down and understand what they are going through what your going through.. You just want to scream out some one save us..... I know that is me right now... Lord please pray for all the women today that there life will be touched in away they never thought was going to happen and miracles happen


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Yavonne Pickard-Brown

Hi Stacey,

Thanks for the kind words regarding my personal situation, and thank you for sharing your story. You're a trouper too. I'm told I'm a fighter, but to be honest, thee are times when I could really use a shoulder to lean on, someone to show they care, someone to say I love you. I've been doing it all for so long, that I'm getting tired. Let's hope that (Mr. Right) comes along soon, and don't hesitate to let me know if you know anyone special - we can have an intro.

I'm happy to see you've chosen the pathway to succeed in life and help those around you. Family comes first, it's funny how some people never learn to appreciate that. You've got a big heart, and a smile that lights up the room, two great assets, so keep those always. I would love to have my sister in my life, however, she's distant. I've done all I can do, to bridge the gap, now it's up to God to save us both.

Sure, I'd love to share with you about books I read, and other stuff. Feel free to connect with me at savhana10@yahoo.com

I'm reading a book right now by Anthony Robins - Awaken the Giant Within. It's a great read, and motivational.

Have a great weekend!

Regards,
Wendy

Braveheart Women, hats of to each of you for taking control of your life! It's never easy losing a loved one, going through a divorce, or a health issue. Appreciate each of you sharing your stories, because we can all learn from them.

In 2005 I faced it all - divorced Feb. 10 (didn't even know it), and my mother died on Feb. 12 after battling with cancer for years. Returning to Canada from Trinidad, where my mother was put to rest. God Bless her Soul - I was in shock and deeply hurt only to discover the divorce was finalized through the court. My ex-husband couldn't wait until things were okay for me, he forced the divorce through the courts within 30 days. How heartless! I was in a state of confusion, needless to say my plate was full! The trauma I went through led to depression which literally sucked the life blood out of me, I had no self-worth, didn't know how to live again. I loved that man so! It's taken me years to regain my self-esteem (which I'm still working on). Landmark education was a huge help, as well as DynaMind (the science of happiness.com) helping me to gain clarity, release and identify issues that stopped me moving forward, these programs helped me tremendously in getting my life back again! Counseling and the support of friends also went a long way. However, I've discovered along this journey that healing comes from within one's inner-self. You really have to want to be healed. Mostly, my faith in God is what keeps me strong and moving forward daily. Today, I still lack confidence, procrastinate at times, however with each new day that I breathe, I learn to be thankful, to persevere - and do the best that I can, learning to trust myself again. Scheduling myself is important, and showing up in my own life, engaging myself with things that I love, things that are nurturing and supportive to me goes a long way in helping me to build on self-esteem. I'm still searching for answers with a new awareness, looking at the glass half full. My childhood years was traumatic, which over flowed into my marriage to some degree. I was 9 years old when my father died, eldest child, and growing up became a rigid process for me. By the age of 10 I began to raise my siblings while mother went out to work. Over the years, it was tough!. It's no wonder I married a man much older than me, I saw him as a stable figure (something I never had), mistook it love and was totally trusting in him. Big mistake, I was seeking something which he could not give me, LOVE, because he himself never had it as a child, and came from a very dysfunctional family. Long story, perhaps one day I'll share Sad isn't it, but it's helped me to understand why some things in my life happened. Despite all, I've persevered.

Sometimes we go through life by just going through the motions, not really living. We're in a place or situation that makes no sense at the time. However, that place in time is for a reason and a season, by some strange process we're supposed to learn from it. Life is not easy! Sisters, be encouraged. We can all lend a hand to help each other, just tap into yourself and you'll discover how easy it is to help a sister up.

At present, after recovering from Dengue fever back in Nov 2010 which led to viral meningitis, I'm again going through hardships, without a job, no source of income. After brainstorming for weeks, I've finally decided to study part-time, and working on getting my life insurance /mutual fund certification, while looking for a full time job. Eventually, I hope being a Financial Planner/Advisor will be my full time job, and I'll find gratification in that by helping others and teaching them how money works, how to make money, how to save and how to invest. .

I a true believer that the best is yet to come, I'm claiming 2011 as my Year. Will you claim it with me Braveheart Women. Thanks for taking the time to read my story. Love, Peace and Blessing to All! Regards, Wendy

Gina, I so respect and admire you for overcoming your losses. I am working on mine. My Momma passed away last January 5. My Daddy passed in June of 2008. They moved here in 2006 to be near me and my husband. After Daddy died, it was the hardest thing to pull her back up. She had dementia and Alzheimer's which progressed more and more every day. Life was hard, but I wouldn't trade anything for the time I got to spend with them.... Not even my marriage. I knew it was suffering because of my work and the extra time I devoted to my Momma. Last New Year's eve, I asked my husband about it. I wanted to start the new year fresh. He couldn't deny that our 25 year marriage over. He was sleeping with a so called friend of mine. Someone I let sleep here (she had no hot running water in her trailer and I have a guest room) even when I spent the night in Momma's hospice bed at her caregiver's house. How naive could I be? I guess I was blind. I am still battling. I have good days, but always a constant ache in my heart. I never thought Jim was that kind of man.. when I needed him most, he walked away and I am still trying to reconcile all of this in my head and heart.

Thank you for sharing your story. Your strength and courage are an inspiration. It helped me to know that I am not alone.

Gina,

Thank you for sharing your story! It truly is an inspiration, and I applaud and express my deepest gratitude for you!
I love that you made the choice to begin to really 'happen' in your life, and are using your brilliant light and power to "stay the course' with confidence and calmness!

You have so many gifts to share with the world and I can't wait to experience them!

Thank you for all that you are, and all that you are becoming!

Blessings


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Wishing you Freedom of Body, Mind, Spirit and LIfe!

Tara Villeneuve
Your Freedom Creation Coach

Freedom Management: Supporting Heart Centred Women Everything in creating their unique vision of Freedom!

http://www.Freedom-Management.com

What a testimonial you have there. That is very inspiring to me. I think you are heading in the right direction with the right frame of mind. Thanks for sharing your story!


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Lesley Chandler