Hi Cherokee,

Thanks for taking the time to reach out. I just recently tapped into an online resource called "The Work" by a women named Byron Katie. She has several videos on her site that I have found inspiring. She also includes a free downloadable copy of her worksheet titled "Judge Your Neighbor". Thousands of people have discovered a peace by doing "The Work" which consists of simply filling out the worksheet where they are able to put their heavy burdens and toxic feelings on paper. It may be of some assistance to you.

Blessings,
Smiller

You have lived a very strong and fulfilling life with your children and now grandchild. Keep being strong and don't let him get you down. Your children are grown and know their heart is with you.


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Focused on Wellness For Women

My dear, (i speak french, excuse some mistakes in my english)
i am sorry for what ever had to deal in the past with that man, but you raised your children and today they are your pride, so just keep on living your life and do not mourned from that past. the man has the right to live where ever he wants to, u do not have to feel guilty or uncomfortable for his past behavior, you did your part in your children's life, if he wants to do his part now, let him be and live your life. God always gives justice to those who suffered, just see that today God is giving you back what you needed from this man then.you r a great woman, you have been a great mother you have shown to your kids and to yourself that you did what you were chosen to do, today you deserve happiness, be who u are, b who you wanna b, stop thinking for this man, he is the past and he has his life, and you, yo are the future, your are your future.Thank God that your child have their decent life today.
i hope what i said would help.
please visit my forum: ellesdisent.lefora.com, and post your experience, and let us keep in touch for the future.
together all women we can make it...
Sybille


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Da Diva from Haiti

hello my name is nagitn i need help advice about a man i cant get over

Be strong, I am sure everyone in the family realizes who he is without it being necessary to bash him. You are doing the right thing.

You did the very best that you could ever do raising two children by yourself--- I firmly believe that your children knows who raised them and who was not there for them---so what if he decides to move there where you are living? Any man can be a dad, but it takes a real man to be a father--know the diiference? Your children are grown--give them the option of whether or not they want to know their dad--it is their right to know him and also their right to reject him as well. Respect their choice--- you do not have to deal with him, they do. You are a fierce and strong woman who raised good loving children who I know within my heart that they love you and respect you to the fullest. Kick up your heels and toast yourself, baby--- YOU did this, not him.
Have a glass of champagne!!!! It does not matter what the man does or who he is with; do not be scared and wanting to ball up in a corner-and you do not even have to fight about it--let your children make the choice; you owe them that much. As far as you are concerned--you are not giving yourself enough credit--move on with your life as I am sure you have already done and find someone that is worthy of YOU and your children; put the past behind and bury it deep, he cannot hurt you anymore; you are worthy of someone who will love, respect and honor you and I know when God made one man, he made many more so find you somebody or let that someone find you.

> Hello - I dont know where else to turn and I'm hoping that with all these powerful women, someone can give me something so I can move on. I was a teenage mom and married when I was sixteen. We had two children. When my son was eight and my daughter five, their dad left us for another women he met online and moved across country with her. The kids hardly saw him at all and talked to him maybe once a month. He told me he never wanted to be a dad. I struggled being a single mom for many years. Going through the trials and tribulations. The kids and I did it and now my son is 25 and an Electrical Engineer and my daughter is 22 and a Child Therapist and a new mom to my Grandaughter Acadia who's five months old. Their both happily married. Now my ex husband and his wife decided to move here and sold their houses so that they can be closer to our Grandaughter and I'm furious about this and cant stop crying. I'm so angry that they feel they have the right to just move here now that all the hard work is done and reap the rewards. No one understands and I have no one to talk to about this. I have not said anything negative to my kids or anything on how I feel because I am happy that they are going to finally have their dad around but I feel cheated on again and I'm devistated. I just dont know where to put these feelings or what to do about it.

Hi Tawna, Set your heart and soul free (YOU ARE A BRAVEHEART WOMAN), let no obstacles get in your way. I commend you on the beautiful fulfillment of raising your children. You have done your job, now it is time for you to enjoy your life. Let no one take your joy away from you. Embrace yourself with positive energy and radiant people. Let your tears be tears of joy and not pain. For you are a splendid woman, mother, and grandmother and that is something your ex husband cannot take away from you. The essence of happiness is forgiveness. If you truly want to be happy, you must first find it in your heart to forgive him. You must also remember that your grand-daughter is the seed of his seed. His presence has no bearing on you. Continue on empowering yourself with other BraveHeart woman. My Blessings are with you.