Transition without Direction
Hi Everyone. I've searched through the site and haven't found anything that really hits the heart of the challenge I'm facing, so I thought this would be a great way to get feedback on what I'm certain many of you here can relate to.
Here is my story: I am an artist with an entrepreneurial spirit who has worked full-time in sales for over 10 years. My upbringing being less-than-desirable, I found much of my strength and identity through being a go-getter, a self-sufficient, independent woman who out-preformed the competition. I've recently re-located to start a relationship with a man I've known many years. I'd moved anticipating taking my skills in Corporate America and turning them into a home-based business working with non-profits generating new revenue sources. I set up the office, company website, email accounts, CRM software, sales and marketing scripts and started out blazing.
Now my passion and talent is in fine-art. My new love has made it very clear that I no longer require an income of my own and I have his full support to do whatever I'd like. His business is online and I've been studying website development to manage both business' sites. Now that I'm finally in a situation to follow my dreams full-time, I find that I'm plagued with a myriad of fears and what if's including...not having my own income, relying on him financially, having the skills to motivate myself enough, going in the wrong direction, etc. In the art business, it typically takes several years to create a name for yourself. I'd been working so many hours, that I haven't been able to put much time into my art and my income is going to fizzle out in a few more months.
How do you trust someone enough to rely on them financially? How do you let go of an identity built on independence and autonomy? How to you transition from Corporate America into Business Ownership? How do you go from having minimal management but lots of structure at the office to none and be effective? How do you set realistic goals and motivate yourself to keep going without the frustration of burn-out? And, would my time be best spend earning a a living that's desirable but unnecessary or developing my true passions?
lovethepos..
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From:Tennessee
Registered: Aug 16, 2010
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Re: Transition without Direction
Sep 8, 2010 05:29 PM
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It sounds like you have lost your passion. I deal with real estate people all the time in my business. They reconnect with people with Send Out Cards (my business) and that makes a positive mind set for both the person who is receiving the card and the person sending it. Act on a prompting, make your business stand out and try getting reconnected with new and previous clients with Send Out Cards.
Have a blessed day,
cjp
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lovethepos..
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From:Tennessee
Registered: Aug 16, 2010
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Re: Transition without Direction
Sep 8, 2010 05:23 PM
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Oh that famous word: FEAR
I diminish my fears, when making changes, is make what I call a "business plan." Just as the name states, I write out a business-like plan and go from there.
It works for me, and I hope it works for you too!
Best regards,
cjp
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Sileah
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From:Staten Island New York
Registered: Aug 26, 2010
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Re: Transition without Direction
Sep 8, 2010 11:15 AM
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Hi
Transition is something when you are first getting started, but what I find that works for me is to trust my gut feelings, and think before I make that move which will have a profound effect on the rest of my life. I always have to trust what I am feeling with trusting I will do the right thing for myself.
I understand what you are going through this is why I used me. I can almost feel what your feeling and I think you are in your right place to continue on to what will eventually turnout to be exactly what you want. You have to trust what you are feeling and approach realistically,cautiously,without blinders hear every word, and know your every move, follow your every positive trusting emotional secure self feelings.
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Sileah Grant
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Lindajofar..
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Registered: Sep 4, 2010
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Re: Transition without Direction
Sep 7, 2010 11:51 PM
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Hi,
Every choice you have made up to now has created the life you are now currantly living..so..trust your true higher self knew what she was doing when she convinced you to move away from somewhere to where you are now and LIVE YOUR LIFE.
Your head is the one "voice" not to take so serious ..being afraid does not serve your higher purpose so listen to the beautiful being who lives within you and trust her. blessings on your journey.
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Tacomarain
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From:University Place, WA
Registered: Sep 2, 2010
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Re: Transition without Direction
Sep 2, 2010 02:31 PM
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Hello, I am new to BraveHeart, but I must have been directed here for a reason.
I have been a real estate agent for over 21 years and am finding in this down economy that I am having difficulty closing deals and keeping a positive attitude. The clients are less respectful and the transactions are mostly horrendous. I don't enjoy my work and it is not profitable.
I want to find work that makes my heart sing.
Any advice?
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SundayF
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From:Kamloops/Vancouver
Registered: Aug 29, 2010
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Re: Transition without Direction
Aug 30, 2010 10:38 PM
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Hello My Friend:
Follow your freedom and what you love and everything else will follow. Let go of old programming and reprogram your mind to who you are today....meditate daily...feel the feelings of joy in your heart hold onto that feeling while you meditate and bring that feeling with you all day..meditate again at night. By putting that feeling out in the universe you will receive everything that brings you this feeling. It is amazing what presents itself once you stop thinking about the things, start feeling, and being present and aware.
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ChrisEastv..
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From:California
Registered: Aug 13, 2010
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Re: Transition without Direction
Aug 24, 2010 10:39 PM
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It's interesting that you're trusting enough in your relationship to relocate for this man, but you're unable to get past your fear of lost independence.
Here's the problem: you're getting in your own way. Welcome to Life 101. Trust is built over time, but in the end, there are no guarantees. All you can do is hope for the best and risk failure. No matter how much of a go-getter you are, if you aren't doing something that inspires your passion, you're never going to be truly happy or feel fulfilled. How does that future sound?
Stop focusing on the money; it's a distraction. You aren't going to be a kept woman who does nothing more than sit around waiting for a booty call! You are a vibrant, empowered person on the verge of a new phase of your life: becoming who you truly are. Embrace this opportunity. If your perceived loss of independence again rears it's ugly head, talk to your man- that's what he's there for.
Flow, baby, flow.
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www.chriseastvedt.com
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The..
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From:Southern California
Registered: Jun 16, 2010
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Re: Transition without Direction
Aug 24, 2010 03:01 AM
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Hello Kristy, well, you're in the right place!
Don't know how many communities you belong to, but there is a wealth of knowledge here at BHW!
Trust is earned, so it's unclear whether it's just the pangs of transition......or is there an underlining fear about the relationship? Length of time you've been together, are you living together?
Don't see you letting go of an identity built on independence........but 9 to 5 isn't owning your own time.
How to transition from corporate America into Business Ownership is.......just a new "independent"
direction.
Minimal management skills, hum, we remember our structure. Effective, well, "inspired action," fits that bill. Realistic goals? How is the "fine arts" water? Developing "true passion," that's gonna take some thought.....earning a living is essential.....what's your lifestyle like now? Burn-out?
How do you "destress" now? Have you found time to research and experience the fine art world?
Made connections? Found your "Brand?"
I know, alot more questions......than answers. Only you can evaluate this discission. Make your list, and join some great communities!
Warmest wishes, Sheila
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The opposite of creation is pity. And knowing the difference is Soul-Full!
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Kristy
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Registered: Mar 17, 2010
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Transition without Direction
Aug 23, 2010 07:44 PM
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Hi Everyone. I've searched through the site and haven't found anything that really hits the heart of the challenge I'm facing, so I thought this would be a great way to get feedback on what I'm certain many of you here can relate to.
Here is my story: I am an artist with an entrepreneurial spirit who has worked full-time in sales for over 10 years. My upbringing being less-than-desirable, I found much of my strength and identity through being a go-getter, a self-sufficient, independent woman who out-preformed the competition. I've recently re-located to start a relationship with a man I've known many years. I'd moved anticipating taking my skills in Corporate America and turning them into a home-based business working with non-profits generating new revenue sources. I set up the office, company website, email accounts, CRM software, sales and marketing scripts and started out blazing.
Now my passion and talent is in fine-art. My new love has made it very clear that I no longer require an income of my own and I have his full support to do whatever I'd like. His business is online and I've been studying website development to manage both business' sites. Now that I'm finally in a situation to follow my dreams full-time, I find that I'm plagued with a myriad of fears and what if's including...not having my own income, relying on him financially, having the skills to motivate myself enough, going in the wrong direction, etc. In the art business, it typically takes several years to create a name for yourself. I'd been working so many hours, that I haven't been able to put much time into my art and my income is going to fizzle out in a few more months.
How do you trust someone enough to rely on them financially? How do you let go of an identity built on independence and autonomy? How to you transition from Corporate America into Business Ownership? How do you go from having minimal management but lots of structure at the office to none and be effective? How do you set realistic goals and motivate yourself to keep going without the frustration of burn-out? And, would my time be best spend earning a a living that's desirable but unnecessary or developing my true passions?
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