I agree with what so many of these Brave Heart women have said. You really just need to decide to let go of the past and move forward. You are in charge of your own life, and that means you decide whether you want to be happy or not. Lose the negative energy in your life and start some new things that will give you hope and happiness whether it is an exercise plan or a class to learn something new. Hang in there...everyone get's down and out every now and then. The important thing is that you pull yourself up by your bootstraps and move forward! Good luck to you!


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Focused on Wellness For Women

Hello BLW.

I feel your discomfort and pain. You are wise to give your attention to the small things, however maybe rather that put a size to them, just thing, "this thing here, I really like". Avoid thinking of it as small, rather just huge gratitude celebration for when it's there... a big oxy breath. Get into it, and watch the power of your love for that moment cause it to expand into something bigger and longer lasting.

... Then, just let go. Surrender and try to not try to do anything at all. Who ever the Divine Source is that you talk to, communicate that you surrender to them, and literally let go, sleep, do what ever relaxes you.
- Go into gratitude and celebrate what ever it is you
like in your life, and see it as a big thing, even if it
appears small on the surface.
- Then let go.... surrender....

There is so much love for you, you've just turned to a place that is making it more of a challenge for you to feel it. If you could feel the extent of this love, you would not suffer as you do.
You are Divine love. You are full of love that longs to express, your heart longs to receive.

Sister, surrender to the love of sisters on this site and then expand out from there. More and more as you realize how lovable you are, you will also feel more light appear in your life and the dark will diminish. Right now these words may even feel a little aggravating.

Maybe the love is not coming from the direction you believe you want it to. So, look around on this site and really see where you are. Just be here, feel the love. There's an abundance of sister love in this community. Let that be your fuel to start transmuting the dark in your life to light.

much love and blessings
Taylore


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Taylore Ashlie—Sensual Sage;
Awakening Feminine Leadership

I understand how you feel. I think we all have times in our lives where our self-definitions are not as clear as we would like for them to be.

I have found that it helps to be self accepting of who you are. I think we have to learn and be encourage to trust ourselves enough to be okay with ourselves.

I find that it helps to self-affirm on a daily basis. We are created to do so many things during our lifetime! They do not have to be spectacular things. I have found that the small things in life often provide far more satisfaction that the big things.

We all stumble and make mistakes. That is just how life goes. What is important about those moments is not allow ourselves to marinate inside of them or to give them the power to hold us down. We have the capacity to get up and to move on. It's not easy but it become well worth the effort because by standing up and moving on we begin to realize that we can. If we take the time to look at what brought is into moments of doubt or insecurity, we can begin to work on ways to correct those issues.


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Deborah Latham White

Hi, Anniegrann,
My first look, not even a member yet, and There you were saying what I felt. I don't know the answers, I'm getting there, after physically and emotionally isolating myself from everyone I know. Except for taking care care of the sick.

My life was a giving one, mother and nurse. I never expected to be here, feeling this, now, at this time in my life. I thought giving was rewarded. I thought that's what I learned in Sunday School. I guess I wasn't listening to the kingdom of heaven and the in God's eyes parts......

I had a rough childhood leaving me with an automatic, unthought of set of poor coping skills that lasted to recently. I'm ashamed to say, the time with myself revealed some flaws. Maybe the whys of it don't matter as much as the knowing it. The cause, the reason isn't important. But the change-or where and how now- is. And here is something that I was blessed with yesterday. I may have been ready to receive it. I saw Maya Angelou on OWN's Master Class.

I cried like a baby through the whole thing. But 2 things I came away with, and the reason I'm reaching out today instead of hiding, is that however short I had her, my Granma loved me, too.

I had forgotten, how she met me at 'The Big Street' the day JFK was shot, when my first grade teacher told us to go home at the wrong time, and everywhere I looked people were crying and I was so scared. I had been able to cross a busy, uncontrolled street, cause cars were driving slow with their lights on that day, and they all stopped for me. I made it across, to see Granma hurrying up the road, and she said she'd always be there for me, to help me across the street. Never cross alone, again. I realised how loved I was then. I realised it again, yesterday.That is my first realisation.

The second thing is, to treat everyone as though they are valuable. Yourself included. Something hit me: Sadness is not a giving thing, it's selfish. Ms. Angelou seemed to look right into my eyes and say, "you're worth it", at the very last moment of the episode. I heard my grand mother's voice as she spoke.It caused me to remember one, then another person who loved/love me. I felt surrounded. Then I thought about, what if I just hold my head up, gaze into the eyes of people around me-no matter who- and treat them with kindness and sweetness, no matter what I felt. What kind of difference would it make in how bleak my life felt? We NEED each other, no matter how we got where we are. Everyone has been loved by someone, and feeling sad is losing sight of that.

As far as the sweetness and kindness I continued to give the sick, it's sad that I only shared with people I felt safe with. But shows I am capable of those qualities, even under stress. I'm trying to not revisit past hurts, but take what comes this day to me. I can hold my old hurts and bad memories, and be lonely and sad; or let go, live today my best to others, and get the joy back. Yesterday's all gone. No more can be done to them.Tomorrow's always later. I must look forward with hope, but I only have today to do it in.

And I'm already feeling better than I have in months.Years. I am going to need extra help being nice to my ex when he snipes at me, though.

Guess I felt you right in the middle of me, and maybe somehow I helped. I care, Anniegrann(y?)

I have been out of work for nearly 2 years without unemployment or any income. My husband has been great and holding the family together. I have a bachelor's degree and I'm looking to get a Master's degree in counseling. I feel there have been many hurdles I've had to overcome to get to a new beginning, but I feel that the small things we do make a big difference. I've started a blog, an internet radio show and actively practice meditation to get myself rebalanced. The last two years have been difficult but I feel that with dedication we can all overcome our negative experiences and make them positive outcomes.

Hello fellow searchers, I can relate to so much of what is being said here. I just got let go from a job where I worked 55-70 hours a week for three years. Very stressful position, part of me is relieved until the realization sets in the unemployment won't pay the bills.
We are all here to help one another, that is why we were draw to this group of great women. I am taking it one day at a time. I have found it helpful to do something each day that you can see progress at. This keeps you from feeling over whelmed. Something as simple as cleaning out a drawer, or a closet has helped me. I can't sit at the computer all day sending replays to positions. Who knows if anyone even reads them. So I have to break up my day with something physical. It helps me, maybe it will help you. I would take walk but he heat index here in Florida has been like walking in an oven. So for now my activities are inside l have faith I will find something we have to. Please give yourself permission to relax at some point, creating a new you can be tough , but together we can do it'!! Cindy

Hi StuntGirl,

Realization of the loss could be hard and realization of the change is even harder. It is interesting how people do not welcome change and prefer to stick to something that is familiar and comfortable. But if you think about the emerging change in your life and accept it as it is instead of fearing it, it would be much easier for you to be happy again. It will take time, but you will see the positive results. Just smile and say to yourself that life is beautiful and love is the only thing that remains at the end.
Always think positive and have faith in yourself. It is not always easy to do, but how about being thankful for what you have.
Imagine there are people who have no house to wake up in, people who have no home, people who don't have families and neighbors to turn to; people with no money, but debts.
I am the person who left with no money at the end of each month, but i don't let it get into my head. I know that it will change for the better, because I am working on it. Slowly but surely.
Please don't stand all day in one room,get out of the house and walk! Walk until you clear your mind, feel the air, look at the stars..do whatever you like outside, but don't stay in the house.
I am sure you will find the answer because you have it inside. You just have to listen to yourself and believe in yourself. Nobody can help you but you.

WHAT GAVE ME A NEW BEGINING WAS READING 2 DIFFERENT BOOKS. ONE IS CALLED THE SECRET AND THE OTHER IS CALLED THE POWER. THEY ARE BY RHONDA BYRNE.
I WAS IN A BAD RELATIONSHIP AND JUST BY CHANCE I FOUND THESE BOOKS. THEY HAVE HELPED ME SO MUCH AND HAVE GIVEN ME A NEW OUTLOOK ON LIFE. ANOTHER BOOK YOU CAN GET IT CALLED FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAYS BY SUSAN JEFFERS. IT'S A WORKBOOK BUT IT HAS MOVED ME FORWARD IN LIFE AND MADE ME A BETTER PERSON. I'M MORE POSITIVE AND HAVE A GREAT OUTLOOK ON LIFE REGAURDLESS OF WHAT HAS HAPPENED IN MY PAST. I WISH YOU THE BEST.