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'Gift of Life' - Choosing to Celebrate!

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Today is the 27th anniversary of the birth of my first child, a son who we named after his father, Jeffrey Dwaine Buckalew, Jr. It has been nearly ten years since his passing. Although I have grown quite a bit through the pain of his death, it seems a bit unusual to me that I would find myself celebrating on this day. I choose to see my celebration as an affirmation that I am truly beginning to ascend from the depths of my grief.

Today I am grateful for the gift of having shared in the life and the legacy of my first born son. Although Jeff’s time here was way too short for my preference, I choose to celebrate his life and the cherished memories of him that will live forever in my heart. I choose to celebrate with trust that all is as it should be, that this conscious choice of celebrating will continue to assist me in RISING above my grief and that it will also assist me in RELEASING myself back into life.

I choose to LAUGH,

I choose to LOVE,

and I choose to LIVE!

With love, honor and gratitude for ALL of life’s gifts, however they are disguised …
Lisa

32 Comments


	Dear Lisa, This is my first day in Braveheart - what a wonderful community. I find it synchronistic that your posting on the anniversary of your beloved son's passing was the first I glanced at on the very day I have decided it is time to get my book "Pathways To Peace - Understanding 'Death' and Embracing Life" out to the public as it is packed with the most astonishingly beautiful Near-Death Experiences that would give anyone who has lost a loved one, particularly a child, immense comfort, hope and peace. From my experience as a channel and my research for this book the children that pass over are very special, often highly evolved souls who come in teach and give unconditional love to those around them. Rest assured he is in radiant health in a beautiful dimension and you shall be re-united one day. If you feel you would like to read some of my book I would love to give it to you. You could give me first-hand honest feedback as to how much it helped you. Blessings and love, Christine, Melbourne.


	Hi my name is Cheryl, I was drawn to this sight also. My Successories site changed to BraveHeartWomen on it's own and I'm so thankful. Like you Lisa, Faemara, Lorna and Sarah, I too lost my 1st born 4 years ago to a motorcycle accident. The holidays and Jesse's Birthday are especially painful, he was only 23. I celebrate his life every year and LIVE, LAUGH, and LOVE are my inspirational words that get me through the days also. We've been dealt a challenge and we will survive. Not a day goes by that I don't think about him and miss him terribly. My daughter is my support and strength, they were best friends. Thanks for sharing, it doesn't get easier but the joy he gave inspires me to be a better person. Happy New Year, Cheryl


	Dear Lisa, I would like to first, say Happy New Year and New Birth to you! Then I would like to express my sympathy. Unlike others, I have not lost a child, but I lost my father almost 2 years ago, so I do understand what it feels like to lose someone close. I praise God that He gives comfort and newness of life. I pray that you and all the other women who have lost children will find comfort in knowing that you will meet again in eternity. I choose to LAUGH, I choose to LOVE, with you. May God bless and continue to keep you always!!! With Love & Blessings! Pauline Lewinson


	Dear Lisa It is so great to see you facing the challenge and moving through it, Releasing the pain and choosing Life again. While we never stop loving our lost ones, we must also continue to live our purpose and find joy in all that has come to us. Im sure Jeffrey is always near and very honored by his Moms compassion and leadership. Love to you my friend. Rebecca Hofeldt Horse Lovers - Free Spirit


	Dear Lisa, I am a new member to this site and this is my first time posting. I am not sure what made me get on BraveHeart today, but somehow I ended up here and the first thing I saw was your story about celebrating. It has been 10 years since my daughter was killed, it has been a long road. I don't feel you ever get over the loss of a child no matter the age, but somehow you have to go on. I was blessed with 2 beautiful daughters and if it wasn't for my youngest daughter I am not sure I could of made it through. Although she is grown now, she still keeps me going and moving in a positive way. I hope someday to be able to celebrate as you have, but more importantly I hope to be able to help my youngest daughter to move on as well. Although we still talk about her sister, I feel that neither of us have grieved, or maybe in our own way that by not grieving it is keeping her alive. I am truly thankful to have read your post.


	Thank you all for the love, support, unwrapping of gifts and celebration together. These seven days since I posted my conscious choice to celebrate have been fascinating and full of unexpected gifts. The most interesting thing about these gifts is that in hindsight I am able to see how receiving them required ‘letting go’ of the old and making room for the new in my life. Faemara, Lorna, Sarah and all those who know the pain of the loss of a loved one I also honor your courage. It is an ache in the heart that cannot be described … however, I now know that the ache can be healed and transformed … no longer an ache but into a burning desire. The first step in allowing the heart to heal is with Love. To those who expressed the feeling of being led here to this post … I am humbly grateful to have been a part of a 'step along YOUR way' and am inspired that my expression from my heart was somehow able to touch, and perhaps begin to heal, your heart. With love and gratitude, Lisa


	This is my first time here but I was drawn toward your blog.I would like to thank you for your sharing here.I too have lost my son.I want to thank you for inspiring me and encouraging me to celebrate. God Bless You And Yours In All You Do! faemara


	Greetings Lisa! Your message is the perfect example of what it means to be human We must appreciate every moment of life and thank the creator for every experience we have. May God Bless you and your family during this season! Peace and Success! Makena


	Dear Lisa, Your son is laughing with you. And smiling. I hope one day to be as peaceful with the loss of child as you are. You inspire me. I knew the stars aligned to send me to this website. Love Sarah Auerbach [email protected]


	Lisa, my BraveHeart Jersey Girl and true Soul Sister, I am so very glad that you have decided to Live, Laugh and Love on this tenth anniversary of Jeffrey's passing! I cannot imagine how hard it is when your child is called "Home in Celebration"... I revel in the happiness that Jeffrey feels today because you decide to LIVE again! Wishing the Buckalew Family a peaceful Holiday and a Prosperous New Year! Anne, Bold & Classy BH Release Sister!!!!


	Dear Lisa, I am sure your choices of LOVE, LAUGH, and LIVE are echoed by your son. We celebrate with you - that you have released the bonds of attachment that now allow both you and your son to move forward with more ease and for the celebration of your continuing love for your Jeffrey. What tremendous illumination and wonderful progress!!! With admiration and love, Rijuta Tooker Soul Power Community


	You are indeed an inspiring BraveHeart to others!!!


	Dearest Lisa, I Love how you're 'Choosing To'... Laugh, Love & Live... And, Honor & Celebrate ~ Jeffrey Dwaine Buckalew, Jr.'s Life and the cherished memories of him that will live in your heart forever... Lisa, I Honor YOU.. I Cherish YOU... & I Love YOU... Thank YOU for sharing your Heart & Soul with ALL of Us... From my Heart to Yours, Bell Rushing Gentle Warrior Community Peace & Inner Strength… Gentle Warrior Blog


	Lisa, Beautiful words of grace and wisdom from a woman full of grace and wisdom and courage! Thank you for sharing from the heart and for RISING and RELEASING. Your Jeffrey would be very proud of you! You are a true BraveHeart Woman! With Love, Wellness and Compassion, Dr. Sugar Would you like to join your Community Doctor?


	Dear Lisa Your message bought tears to my eyes ... You see I really do know how brave your are and what it has taken for your to reach the stage you are at ... for I too have lost a child. My daughter, Liron, died just over 4 years ago and while I have progressed I still have lots of work to do. We celebrate her birthday each year .. and are so greatful for having had her and even more thankful as we have two gorgeous grandchilden aged 8 and 6 (next month) who give us great joy and through whom she lives on. Just wanted to say ... I salute you ... I know that this time of the year must be especially difficult for you and your family. I will be thinking of you and wish you courage and strength. Wishing you a Merry Christmas Lorna


	Love lives on forever if we allow it into our hearts. You may have lost your precious son's physical presenced, but you will never lose his love nor the love you feel for him. It is true that it is far better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. Thank you for sharing your poignant love message with us all during this holiday season. Happy birthday to Jeffrey. DrErica

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